Does Your Lovelife Has "BUTS"?
@loveneverfails (97)
Philippines
January 31, 2011 1:32pm CST
I often ask myself whats wrong with me when it comes to falling in love with someone. I have had some relationships before, and one of the reasons why most of them failed, its because of these "BUTS" of love. You know, like I love him BUT hes not ready for a commitment yet, I love him BUT hes not completely single, I love him BUT hes not the type of guy that my family would like, or I love him BUT I'm looking for something which he doesn't have. It may sounds too complicated, but I guess even the famous Shakespeare believed that there is always BUTS in love. Like Romeo loves Juliet BUT she is about to marry someone. They love each other BUT the society demands the opposite, those things. SO how about you guys, does your lovelife has buts? how would you answer this; I LOVE HIM/HER BUT_____?
3 responses
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
I don't think there's anything wrong with you BUT sometimes things are just the way they are :)
Hi. Yes, I had been in a similar situation before when I was in college. Hmm, once or twice probably. But I remember an instance where I had to choose between a girl and my fraternity. I found it so unfair at that time since I had just undergone very hard rituals to be a member. Well, I didn't choose her. We were just about to start a relationship and there were already conditions that were unfair. She professed that she loves me BUT my affiliation with a certain group must go.
@loveneverfails (97)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Thanks for the answer. Did you guys continue your love affair somehow?
I guess if your "just" about to start a relationship before, your girl should have not set some rules or let you chose between her and your fraternity, since you didnt have that strng foundation yet. Probably, if she asked you that after being together for 2 years, then you might consider her advised. But of course, I do understand her. I too, often to be like that. I don't want to invest to someone who is not fully committed to our relationship. I guess its just a matter of give and take.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Few things worthwhile in life come easy. If there were no buts,could it really be love?? I have always said that if you never argue with your true love, you probably have the wrong one. Life is about learning and growing as people. Your true love is here to help you do that. Without drama, can you ever see another view???
@loveneverfails (97)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
well yes you are right, however its not about arguments, rather its the circumstances that surround a couple. Sometimes, its quite hard to figure out whats wrong. Well I guess, I should not set standards anymore
@memoryporte (41)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I love my boyfriend but he is hardly ever allowed to hangout. :/
@loveneverfails (97)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Really? sort of a "mama's boy"?...well it actually depends. If he is like what Ive mentioned, probably you can speak to him. Age also matters, maybe he feels, he's still young and needs to follow some rules in their house. Or your bf might this man who has a sense of direction. I mean, he do first what is supposed to be done, and set aside those "hangout" moments" which for him, can wait. It would be nice if you can talk to him about this if you want your relationship to grow.
