Do you lie sometimes to your husband that you help your family?

I dont lie or should I say I avoid lying to my husband.Everything I do Im telling it to him for a reason that I want the same attitude from him. But most of the time he was the one lying on me when it comes to extending financial help to his family which really really pissed me off. I mean whats the point of hiding such matter between him and his family since Im a family also. its not a good practice for a married couple. Lying is a sign of disrespect and untrustworthy.

Yeah, there might be other people who lie to their partners about helping their families, but I don't think it's a good idea. If your husband finds out that you'd been doing that behind his back, it might actually lead to greater dispute. If you have a good valid reason for doing that, then why not tell your husband, that actually worked for me. I told him that when we marry I'd still be helping my parents and be giving them allowance from the money I earn, and he was totally fine with it. Just explain to your husband why you did so, than keeping it from him.

I do not lie to my husband. I feel that if there is something that I feel strong enough about in order to help my family then he should support me and he does. Just like with his family. It does not always mean that he agrees with it all but he does support me. If it is something that is not important then we will consider it a bit more. But if you are married then it is a partnership and you both have say and should support each others decisions unless it is damaging to you or your husband/wife.

I don't think there is anything wrong of helping your family behind your husband or even tell your husband that you want to help out your family because your family should be your husband's family as well since you are married to each other.

Well I do not care if my wife will give some amount to help her family in the same manner that she will not argue with me if I do the same... If we have our own salary we have the freedom to spend it.. We are obligated to give help to our parents or families... But if the amount is too big in such a way that it becomes a burden or that in so giving it affects greatly your family budget thus having effects on the needs of the family or the children.. then it becomes an issue. If that is the case then it should be discussed with your partner.. Giving support to one's family is not bad but it should not greatly affect the family.. It should be balanced.. because if it's not then your family will suffer which is also unfair to them..

Lie for good trust. Some condition may us to lie, of course for making a good condition such as "great! you cooked well!" to wife. If you can, find another way to stop the cause that make you lie. Giving a more profitable job to your brother might help.