giving power to others
By savypat
@savypat (20216)
United States
February 1, 2011 2:44pm CST
Again I have found that to give power to others for the completion of goals in my life is a great mistake. Of course when you need actions from others to obtain your goals you must give them what they need to complete the project, but if you are smart you will not rely on them to complete the project. The old saying "the squeaky wheele gets the grease" comes into play. Never send anything in writing without keeping copies, never take another's word that your project is being taking care of if the time seems just to long and never believe that everything is OK without verifying the information with a supervisor, manager or boss. Hubby has been waiting for a membership to go through and it has been two years, his contact keeps coming up with one excuse after another. Now finally someone else has taken it upon himself to find out what has happened. Sure enough papers were not filled out properly and the whole package has been set aside, I am not free of blame in this mess, I kept getting the feeling that I should step in and find out what was going on, but told myself it was Hubby's project and he needed to see it through.
Now I will clean up the mess and get on with the membership. But first I gave myself a good kick in the butt for not listening to that little voice in my head.
Do you listen to your little voice?
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@moneyonline2002 (57)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I decide my actions, those little voice are only giving me choices! What ever choice I make I know its the rignt one. No decision is wrong as long as you decide it by yourself.
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@tvarasu10 (101)
• India
2 Feb 11
Decentralisation of powers will definitely work.No one is independent and can do everything himself.A successful orgnanisation works only on decentralisation of powers so also individuals.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Oh how I can relate with this one, and due to some situations in my life in the past, this is one thing I definately do more of now. There are times things have happened beyond my control while other times it was because of lack of doing something I was already supposed to have done. Keeping paperwork and having a paper trail and recording of what you do when, and where is a Good thing for sure, and when you get that nagging feeling making sure to follow up is what would have been best to do.
I have a Medical disability, but due to not following up from the time it happened yrs. ago and reporting it, and keeping followed up with it, it has cost me $1000s of dollars. (I injured myself at work, and never reported it, and now have a lot of problems still due to being Diabetic because of it). So now I kick myself but in the mean time have become more aware to now no one gets to try and pull anything over me for sure.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Feb 11
I have learnt to listen to that niggling voice that bothers me when something is not quite right. Sometimes I can’t figure out what the problem is straight away because everything appears fine on the outside but I can honestly say that my instincts are almost always right and if I feel something is wrong it usually is. That same voice is very useful to listen to in regards to people and goals, it is rarely incorrect. 
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@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
2 Feb 11
I find that if you want something done right you have to do it yourself. I try not to ever rely on anyone or anything to make life easier because it always makes life harder. I do listen to the voices because they always keep me on track with my life. Although right now I am having issues with my brain so until I find out what is going on I will have to do the best I can.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Feb 11
There was a time in my life that I generally ignored the little voices in my head. However, through the last several months I've been listening to that voice. The reason that I've started listening to that voice is because of the fact that I was burned by a supposed friend. That said, the voice in my head was telling me that something was amiss and I ignored it. After she was out of my life, I have started listening to that voice in my head.
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@uath13 (8192)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Actually I try to ignore the little voices in my head. They tell me to do bad things.
Usually if there's a project to be done I have to do it. I'm not likely to get much help or if I do it'll be so incompetent that I might as well do it myself.
Usually if there's a project to be done I have to do it. I'm not likely to get much help or if I do it'll be so incompetent that I might as well do it myself.1 person likes this
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 11
When it comes to paper works I trust no one to do it as I am a very cautious and meticulous person when it comes to something important and moreover who else would know my personal details if not myself. I want it to go through without rejection because of human errors in filling up the forms.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
1 Feb 11
There's so many voices in my head I don't know which to listen to or which came first! Hahha. But yes, it's very important to keep guard on what is being taken care of because people will be very irresponsible! This has happened to me before and it doesn't matter if your paying a lot of money for it or not, it happens in any case.
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
2 Feb 11
it's dangerous to have goals because of people expect from us, specially parents, they make us grow up showing their view of success when the truth is if we pursued what we love we'll have enough money and happiness, and happiness comes before money, for example there are many women who will be so happy in being a home mom than having a career with all the competition and stress that some jobs might bring to her
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@figurativeme (1089)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hi savypat! I just had this kind of experience, too, and I did something about it just yesterday...after listening to what you refer to as the "little voice."
A colleague has for months been telling me he was going to do this and that and say this and that to somebody but never did. I blew my top yesterday (in a mellow voice ). The project involved a team so I told another lady team member about this and added to this lady friend I would never believe what the erring member say. This lady friend said she would send me what I needed instead.
Result at last!
The bottom line really is that if you need something done, do it yourself.
It looks like it's going to rain again here but have a nice day savypat.
). The project involved a team so I told another lady team member about this and added to this lady friend I would never believe what the erring member say. This lady friend said she would send me what I needed instead.
Result at last!
The bottom line really is that if you need something done, do it yourself.
It looks like it's going to rain again here but have a nice day savypat.1 person likes this
