Everything is in our mind

Last was very good Topffer, i experienced it by myself. I realized how nice and helpful are the people here when i was already here for 2-3 months. Before that I was just posting and nothing more. But later i understood that i can always receive support from the people here, friendly advices which will help me with my membership here or in real life (which is more important for me). I understood that for every sadness or madness there is a "pill" and the "pill" for me was the support of the people here. You are right that some people don't stay here long enough to feel that precious emotions. If i have to be honest for the topic i wrote, it's not only about new members. I've seen myself pissed off of unimportant things too, and i was not new here, i had months experience around, but still got insulted of things which were not important. But soon after that i realized how nice is it when people are polite and open minded. Then nothing was wrong for me, i built for myself a strategy to avoid fighting and negativism here, i learned to write longer, but clear posts explaining my true feelings - not just words written because of the earnings. My opinion is that everyone of us is growing up here every day with participate. We learn new things, we can be useful for someone or other person ... What i still can't accept is rudeness. I avoid every kind of bad attitude for my real life - i'm not an insolent person, i'm modest, don't pretend with what i have even if i love it so much, even if i have more money than someone else, i don't like to make the others feel uncomfortable. I'm trying to afford every kind of financial or other problem with my own work and i'm confident so far. Rudeness is not included in my behavior too. I like to watch from other sides than my own, from the eyes of the people who are in hard moment and got something bad in their life, i'm trying to feel their emotions and i can see it's not easy and good at all. What i am in real life, that's me here too. And rudeness is the one thing i don't like in the people. Even if i have been rude before after that i blame myself and say to myself in my mind "why did you do it? ... that person has his own reasons to be the way he/she is".... What i want to say with the topic is people to think more before writing. I don't think so much before posting, because i got nothing bad to say for someone here or to someone here. What i want to be here is "useful". If i can, it will make my day.

True Topffer

I hope that post will help someone and will make his day positive. That's enough for me - useful for some of us or not useful for others ... that's what it is from me today.

Well, I agree that we're here online & it's much more different from real life. Especially when we start to work with someone, we'll start to see their true colours - the side we've never seen before will surface out, haha!~

I agree with you

Oh, i don't know if it's quality Zweeb, if i have to be honest, i don't label the content i read, write, or respond to ... It's not my business to say which is quality and which isn't, but i know what i like and what i don't. You are right that it's bit hard for us sometimes to see the point of view of the others. I can see that happens also if we are only online, but we don't know each other very good. If we knew better each other, we would be more cared for the feelings of the others and wouldn't allow to ourselves to hurt the people around.

Hello Letran, i really rare give advices. Usually i share my experience, if it can be useful for someone in some situation. So from my experience here i don't fight with people, don't pay attention for negative responds, i pass on and continue with something more positive. My life is hard enough so i am not able to accept more problems, than i have in real life. Actually i am very mad when someone is trying to be useful and someone take it in different way. I was never a victim of that kind attitude, i mean ... even if i were, i didn't notice it, but still it's pissing me off when someone is giving his best and not only his best is not appreciated, but the person becomes a victim of someone's else rudeness. That's not good, it's not right for me. I commented after you, that i like the other discussion where we talked before, because even if little cruel words are used there, the discussion express REAL feelings, so i actually rated him positive, because he showed true emotions, but still when people understand the participation of the others in it's wrong way .... that's not good.

Oh, well let's NOT get pissed with some one who has something negative..to be honest, i have some negative vibes too in real life, but that's probably i stay away when ever i see some one speaking with emotion. i dont' want my response taking in a different interpretation or it will cause trouble.I learned that a hard way a long time ago, i think

My zodiacal sign is Virgo, what i know from my zodiacal characteristic is that people with same sign are very very very patient (as i am in real life or here), but when it comes too much for them, there is a storm after that

Thanks for that post Louievill, i can see that you got blue star now and i'm happy for it, because you are always positive and nice and you deserved it long ago. I got strange feelings lately for that place. I am not around most of the time and i miss it, but when i look what happens sometimes, it disappoint be really much. Fight, misunderstandings which continue too long, someone feel judged, other is insulted... We don't have anything to divide, so why people feel bad ... and why the result has to be madness or bad feelings - i don't understand.

Milkypink i can say that i liked your white kitty on your avatar, but the present picture i like more. If it's for avatars, mine is my own picture too, so i like those kind of avatars Positivism is a gift for all of us, who are trying to reach good mood even with little daily stuff.

Hello Milkypink, for me you are not a newbie and if i have to be honest you got the most liked attitude around, that's really cool. Open minded people are always welcomed everywhere. Actually the discussion is just a positive etude for all of us. Not for newbies, not for all members, sometimes even i who point this things which are important, forget about them. That was a way to remind to myself and the others what we can do here instead of being mean. I answer to all who join my discussions, but in different time, because i can't stay online all the time. Actually now i just woke up and i drink some coffee, so decided to share it with all of you. Have a nice day hun

Hi Sugar! Thanks for the sweet words. :) Positivity has always been an asset isn't it? As much as I can I try to be at the best attitude and best mood everyday. Even at work, it keeps me pushing to go forward. I'm so glad to meet you here. :)

That sounds funny Rebe, because i rated you positive for your last discussion, even if i didn't agree with your way of thinking. You can have whatever attitude here... It's up to you, not to me, i choose for myself and it looks like you don't give chance to the others to express their own opinion if it's different than yours. Keep doing it and i wish you great luck. It looks like you don't understand what i was trying to say... Even if i did my best to explain, looks like it was not understandable. Let me say it again - i'm not behind gangs or someone else like personality. I'm behind posts. Everything was forgotten from me before you to mention in your discussion, that you had "misunderstanding" in your discussion with a veteran. I was there and i didn't have any information what is all about, just saw your reaction and for me it was not needed, because nobody told you that you are "stupid little man" or something like that. But you still kept retelling it.