What makes you stay with your current partner?
By gengeni
@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
February 2, 2011 9:21am CST
This question mainly to couples who are not married or planning to get married.
Ever hear the words ... Love is blind.
That's right, we should not be blinded by love who can make us act rationally insoluble in relationships.
Ever too ... hear words like this, Life is a choice ...
that is, God has outlined a person's life, but God who Wise also provides options to us, one life companion.
Who were the questions ...
1. What makes you stay with your partner right now, because there is not a perfect man.
Ideally, the differences can complement each other, like we eat using spoon and fork
But life is not like holding a spoon and fork instead ....?
2.Soo, if there are some characteristics / habits of your spouse now that may be a trigger of conflict of your household, but on one hand you want to turn away ill liver disorder.
Are you going to stay with your spouse with all the consequences?
Or, you fight your heart, to seek a more 'safe' from the conflict in the future.
3 people like this
12 responses
@dayangsumbi2010 (1724)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 11
Depending on each person. marriage based on what it will also ultimately based on it. marriage is commitment. that our partner is actually a mirror of our own. well we are introspecting. she's already created to be a friend of our lives.
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
From the differences that we can know what is in him and whether the same as what we do, if she is pleased?
Relationships that persist to this day from the trust.
As long as we still believe, no matter what he did, the main thing is trust.
That is unique from the pair of us, in character, our habits, it is sometimes too sick of it. if you can not change, we also see from our own self.
@girlie_techie12 (48)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Simple, we accepted each other also with our flaws.
Understanding also :)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
3 Feb 11
We choose a partner for the way we feel about them and how they make make us feel in return. I believe we stay with a partner for the same reason. Love and commitment can go a long way.
@rhadzie (68)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
what makes me stay? it's all just because i love him, that simple.
if you think about it, there is no perfect person in the world, if you
keep searching for him/her so that you will find the best and lasting relationship
in this world, well i guess you would fail. it all just depends on you
how you view things.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
2 Feb 11
My boyfriend is amazing, buys things for the family, buys things for my dog and he things the dog is his and actually my dog likes him hte most out of my family so its ok i guess. My boyfriend is very funny at times and very outgoing and the family gets along great with him and hes just a lot of fun to be around. He does some things like repeat himself when he talks and he does talk alot at times but its something i have gotten used to over the years ive been with him and i dont find many bad qualities with him and i hope to live a long life with him and get ahouse this year with him and have a happy life together.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I'm married so I am really not one of the people that this discussion was meant for. However, I am going to jump on the bait because of the fact that I am so incredibly in love with my husband. The thing that keeps the two of us together is the fact that we are so incredibly in love with each other. He really is the half that makes me whole. I knew from the time that I met him that he was going to be the person that I would be spending the rest of my life with.
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
The other couples I come across, whichever through work or simply through a growing interest in the mechanics and details of a healthy relationship, the further people I see who are simply not content in theirs. I don’t believe it can ever truly be a one-way issue either. Even when there is a clear dominant person in the relationship, to have an unresponsive or dreary partner is equally dissatisfying.
@safirpurim (252)
• United States
2 Feb 11
i am not married, but i can tell you that, love is blind..true...but lust is blind as well. and their blindness is different.
love is blind because it can see all the faults of someone, but is willing to work with them to correct all their faults. lust is blind...but for a different reason. lust is blind, because it doesnt care about the faults of another, it simply cares to release its pleasures and get what it wants out of the relationship and then when that happens...lust will abandon that relationship or head towards another one. so ultimately....although they are both blind...love is all that really matters.
and there are perfect men as well as perfect women out here. but not according to human perfection. people base perfection on skin or eye or hair color, or material status, instead of actually getting to know how someone really is. but then again, a person has to know how they are themselves as well. and since people rarely get to know themselves...how could they ever truly know someone else?
unless a person is honest and will only require in another what they see in themselves, they will most likely fall for an ego trip=someone who pleases and boosts their ego. but this doesnt last. and most often, guys tell females what they wanna hear, and give females what they want, and since the typical female is materialistic, she falls for the flattery and lies. and the male is typically sneaky and proud, so the typical male doesnt really care how the female feels. that and the females always pouring emotions into the subject when they are not necessary. a weak female and a proud male always spells disaster. and such a relationship is bound to fail
@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 11
that made me survive is because I know he was a man distinguished extraordinary, because I'm rarely a man like that, so I keep hrs hahahaa .. 've fit well, so should always be fostered, this choice, so it should be lived risks and consequences,,
precisely because it is not perfect human beings who accept what is it so much easier
@desertsong (94)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
I don't also believe that love is blind. Love actually sees but it neverminds perhaps. We will always have imperfections, that's what makes us human. But despite these imperfections there will always be someone who will be willing to accept us. I think that's how love is and why couples stay in a much longer relationship. My partner has a lot of discouraging traits, but despite that, i still accept him as he is. You just have to understand each other and accept him for whatever he is.