Can you ever be friends?

Possible? Yes, definitely but only after several years at least. But is it a good idea? Probably not. Christmas card contact and such would be fine but regular contact is not advisable. That means little or no social media contact and definitely no face to face at all, unless your husband becomes friends with him too, and your marriage is doing well. Otherwise, you could be putting yourselves into a bad situation.

I have often wondered about this. The situation has never come up in my life, but especially a sexually active type of old relationship would be a challenge. I know that men have less problem with this then women, their emotions work differently. Blessings

I have known people who have been able to pull it off. I think if the breakup is mutual, it is a whole lot easier to pull off a friendship than if it's not.

I thought I could. A few years ago, I came into contact with some college friends. One connection led to another until we had the whole college gang communicating with each other. With this 'gang' was an old girlfriend. Soon I found myself communicating exclusively with this old girlfriend, and reminiscing old memories. And of course it led to the not-so-good memories. It became so awkward that I had to break off the communication. So my answer is NOT. Maybe in a few more years when I'm old-er and gray-er.

Do I think it's possible? Yes. Length of time would depend on thoughts and feelings, of course. Right now, my thoughts where you are concerned ... you're already showing signs of reservations yourself, so I'm wondering if maybe this is not a good situation for you to be involved in. Use caution and honesty (with yourself, first and foremost), whatever your decision.

Why not? You two can just the friend and remember not to give the chance to cross your friendship limits since your husband you said had no objection in your friendship with your old BF Be faithful to your hubby

Hi dora, This is a awkward situation. Given the kind of person I am, I do not think I would be able to have a normal relationship with someone whom I had once loved. However, that's me. I know someone who has had no problem getting along with her ex and ex's wife. It would be easier for me had it been someone who loved me but I didn't share the same kind of feeling. Hope you understand.

Of course you can be friends, unless otherwise that there's still something inside you that holds not to be friends with him. You can examine yourself for this. If its over for years then most probably there's no reason at all. It's only you who can tell when your feelings will be over on him and everything will be fine on making friends with him.

Yes of course you can be friends with him but you are feeling uncomfortable, right? I think there is a gap between you and your friend now after you are married. However, don't think that he is also your lover because it hurts everyone escpecially your husband. Keep in touch, though.

It depends on how you accept and see things. Past is past and besides even your husband had not problem with the issue, meaning he is confident that being married to you, with his trust in you, nothingto worry on his part. So you should be the one to completely trust yourself. Even you had a past relationhsip to a guy, but after choosing whom to spend your life meaning you gave up everything for that person, because your feeling for him prevails over with any one else. Maybe you feel awkward but why your husband can do that? Because he trust you, let him feel that there's nothing really to worry or to make him feel insecure or whatever you may call it. Just put in heart that he's been a friend to you and so you are.

I'm friends with my exes. It's possible. Maybe you two need some closure on some areas before you can be friends. Talk it up and you guys could have the best friendship there is.

Yes it is possible because you know some people that are friends and they get into a relationship, but then they break up they can definately be friends as long as you two aren't awkward the relationship may be over, but the friendship is never really over and that's what I love. Friends are there for you like forever I love having my friends close by. Your first love wow how wonderful it's so cute when people say there first love if only are first love were are only love it doesn't happen for everybody like that, but for the ones that do it just sounds so wonderful because it was there first. Anyway friendship is very important and I am sure that you will all get along just fine theres nothing to worry about it as long as you don't act awkward or quiet around him because if you do that he will start to feel very uncomfortable. So just be yourself and I am sure you will all become friends again I don't like it when friends aren't friends anymore it really is a sad thing.

I've got so many friends that after they had their relationship, they became friends. I even is an example of that. What I mean, if still have some feelings for him then it maybe awkward, but if you don't then it is alright. Things changes right, maybe it is time to set aside the past because what's important is the present. As you say too, you husband is alright with your friendship with them, so basically there's nothing wrong about it.

I say definitely yes! My first boyfriend and I have been broken up for 9 years already and yet, because friendship prevailed, we're as close as ever. Even closer I guess. We love each other like brothers and sisters now, and it's not awkward at all. It's normal to feel that way if you've broken up just a month or a year ago. But I think even a year is long enough unless you're still holding some feelings in your heart. Let go of those feelings. Especially now that you're already married. 11 years is a long time. Too long if you ask me. I do hope you can patch things up and move on with your friendship.

i think a lot depends on the people involved. you havent said why he doesnt have someone to hang out with you all? Was he the one or you broke it off? did he stalk, etc. sometimes its fine. ive actually spent time around one of my ex husbands and his wife with my husband way back when and we got along great. he even took my and present husbands baby and rocked him to sleep like just like he did our kids. he always had a way with babies like that. so, like i said, it depends.

In my opinion it is sort on the maturity level. See as we are younger we perhaps cannot be-friend again, after a break up. But as we get older and enough time elapses I think we can actually be amicable. Not sure if good/best friends but amicable yes, as we do realize that was once is no longer again. So my thinking is that re-kindling the good friendship of the past would be difficult but almost like saying new friends again. Of course if the break up was mutual and no lone hurt either in end. Best of luck as if you and your hubby and the other couple have no problem with it then why not as this is our only chance in life so way not live it peacefully.

Keep being friends. You can be a family too. Of course don't ever think to love your first love, it can hurts your husband. Give a soft explanation to your husband who is angie and her brother honestly, and give a soft explanation so to angie and donnie about your position and the perimeter. Ask your husband what to do, i think your husband will understand and can accept them. Then you can keep being friends or build a relationship as a family.