quarelling among relatives
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
February 3, 2011 1:31am CST
In my own family, I am thankful that the members do not quarrel. Maybe because we are all girls . But I guess, mainly because our parents brought us up to be always helpful to one another. If one has plenty in life then she could share what she has with the others.
With such background, I am a little bit shaken that some relatives of my in-laws are quarrelling. Lately, siblings quarrel about the lands they inherited from their deceased parents. In so doing, both parties asks my in-laws to side with one party, being them, regarded as their second parents. But my husband and I , advised my parents -in-laws who are past their senior years already not to take any side of the quarreling parties but just help in settling the problems thru lawyers or barangay first.
Do you think we are correct in advising them like that?
2 responses
@sundream (18)
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4 Feb 11
I suppose you are correct in this regard. However, it is not enough because your parents in-law must have wisdoms to deal with current situation, to help both sides to reach a consensus. I mean both sides have to make compromise peacefully.Otherwise, if they want to take the dispute to court and sue each other, they are very likely to become enemy, whoever finally win the suit, let alone the time and money involved. Accusation is a last resort.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Yes, they do imparted their wish that it should be settled among themselves. But it has gotten out of hand and both parties are now dealing it in court.
So, we told my parent-in-law to just let the court decide and not side with anybody. That way, their relationship with both parties will not be severed.
@Marmot (590)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I think you did the right thing. If your parents in laws side either one of the parties, they will surely suffer a hard time with the others and there may no any relative feelings any more. It is a really big problem with the legacy inherited, and a slight unfair will cause siblings fall out and become enemies. The best way is to setting the problems to the lawyers.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Yes, they have their lawyers already. But will still be settling amicably. Hopefully, it will end well , because they are siblings.
Thank you for agreeing with our decision that my parents-in-law will not side with anybody.
