Are men prone to cheating because of a clingy girlfriend or a laid-back one?

Philippines
February 3, 2011 6:12pm CST
I posted a discussion earlier about men getting scared at clingy women. Now I know there will be challenges in relationships such as getting tempted to cheat. Come on, I think everyone has this urge and it is just up to that person whether he or she gives in to the temptation. Anyway... Are men prone to cheating because of a clingy girlfriend or a laid-back one? Men who get irritated with a too clingy girlfriend tend to wriggle out from the relationship to breathe. Sometimes, they just entertain other girls and cheat. I also know men who cheat because their girlfriend is too laid-back, or rather a woman who does not show she gets jealous or is never jealous. Some men want to be feel their woman actually cares enough to get jealous and be possessive once in a while. So which is which? Men is cheating because their girlfriend is too clingy or their girlfriend is too laid-back?
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8 responses
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello sweetcatastrophe! I believe men don't cheat because they have a clingy or laid back gf. Cheating is something innate in a person or because of something lacking in the relationship. What i mean by innate is that, a person who cheats, who wants to cheat will always cheat without any motivation from any factors in his life. Sad to admit, but there are people who just loves to cheat for the thrill of it, or just for the sake of cheating and having a pretty, kind, nice, clingy or laid back gf or wife will not contribute to that. Not being contented with the relationship can also lead a person to seek for that something that's missing in his relationship. And these goes for women too. Most of the times, it's not about the kind of partner they have that a person cheats. Its just the way they are and there's no telling really what they really want in life.
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Men cheat for the reason that they let themselves push the line on what is acceptable conduct with other woman. For example, "It's not wrong if I just have coffee with her once a week," goes to, "It's not wrong if I go to her house when no one but her is home, we're just friends," and the "It's not wrong"... excuse gets pushed and pushed until, although he never would have planned it at the beginning, he abruptly finds that he has gone way too far with this woman. That's the way it generally works, and has nothing to do with you not being good enough for him.
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@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Men don't cheat. They just explore options :) Kidding aside, personally I think men, or sometimes women for that matter, cheat because they're not content with the relationship they're in. Something's lacking. It may not be that the girlfriend is clingy or one is laid-back and passive. But I think that for men, it's more of an ego thing. Some feel that exclusivity diminishes their market value and so they try to check whether they still have it or not by still going out with other women or worst, they get into another relationship. But being clingy or being laid-back can contribute to a man's urge to cheat.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
9 Feb 11
I don't think it is right to classify men on whether they would cheat or not by the type of relationship they have. People(men and women) who have tendencies to cheat, will cheat if given the opportunity. A partner being possesive, or laid back may have influences on it, but it will surely not be the driving force.
• United States
6 Feb 11
I agree with most of the responders as there is no way in my opinion that we can say they cheat due to clingy and or laid back. A person who is going to cheat is going to cheat even with the perfect mate. So if we label it per say as due to the clingy or laid back then in my opinion it would be like if we are justifying and there is no justifying cheating.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I think people are prone to cheating because they are not satisfied with their current situation. Little do they know, cheating just makes things worse for them. I would leave a cheater. You just don't get over that kind of pain. Move on to someone who wants you completely. Whether you are clingy or not.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Feb 11
Cheating can come from any reason,. Only the person cheating on another can know those reasons for sure. Having someone too dependent or not dependent enough could sway someone into this dilemma.
@stevieboi19 (1419)
4 Feb 11
I don't think it's really down to the women being too clingy or too laid back it's rather down to the man not really caring about his girl enough then if he knows he can get away with it also then yeah he will take advantage of the situation.