Feel so depressed :(

Express your yearning for a fourth child to your partner. Let him understand your side. I believe in the long run, he will agree with you regarding this matter. Just pray for that. However, if it would be otherwise, then just be contented of the number of children you have. Be happy still. Just be grateful because you have 3 beautiful children while there are others who wanted to have one but unfortunately, they are incapable of having their own child.

You and your partner need to talk about this, having another child is a major decision in a relationship. Try to understand also your partner's point. There can be other way to ease your depression. Try other hobbies or recreation that may divert your attention. Arguing about another child will not be good for your relationship.

I am very sorry to hear that but I was just wandering why your husband decided that he does not want anymore children? I only had one child and did not want to have anymore. She is 19 years old now and it was very hard for me to raise her emotionally and financially. I dedicated alot of time to her and now she will not even give me the time of day. I would find out why he does not want more and go from there.

What reasons does your partner have for not wanting another child? Are they valid points? It is great that you want to share your love with so many but sometimes our dreams get altered and we can learn to be happy with the new reality. I have one daughter and always thought that I would have two children. After having the first 11 weeks early and know how my body handles pregnancy has changed my views on things. I love having one child and fill very complete with just the one. Life takes many twists and turns that we don't expect and we must learn to live with them and do what is best not just for us but our family as well. Just think in time even if you only ever have three children I bet you will have grandkids in your future and then you will get to enjoy babies again. I wouldn't be envious of your partners brother you had your children out of love not out of accidents. You have three beautiful kids right now and that alone is such a blessing, maybe four just wasn't meant to be or maybe you just need to wait a bit longer. Good luck and I hope you find some peace within yourself.

I'm not in the same situation as you but still I would like to share my thoughts on the matter. I think you have to ask yourself and help yourself identify what really makes you depressed. What is the root of this depressed feeling? Is it because of your longing to have another child? If so, why are you longing to have another child? Why is it important for you to have another child? Is the family that you have now not enough to give you the happiness which you want to feel? What difference would it make if you had another child? I just realized that I actually more questions than opinions, but I guess it won't do any harm if you take time to ponder on these questions in case you haven't had the time or chance to ask yourself these questions.

Did you let him know that you wanted 4 children? If you have then I would talk to him about how you already talked about this and if you knew he was going to go back on this then you wouldnt have agreed to being with him. Let him kmow you dont plan on leaving but there is going to be some tention on the relationship because of this.

Depressed or frustrated? I think you are just simply frustrated my dear and not depressed. I think, your husband is contented to have 3 children because he is thinking of their future and that too many would be hard. Maybe he just wants you to focus your attention on the 3 so that you can directly rear them during their development and growing years.

I'm in a similar situation because I really, really want children, but we have no money and I have had bad health for the last few years with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue and a host of other health problems. When I even see a baby in a grocery store I am likely to cry. It hurts me so much inside and I don't know if or when I'll be well enough to have a child. I'm sorry you're going through a similar pain. I know how much it hurts to want a child. I want a family so badly it makes me tear up just thinking about it. My cousin had a baby last week and my other cousin's wife is expecting their third child. I don't want to be jealous, I want to be happy for them, but I still feel a little crushed. Especially when I see pictures of how happy and proud my Grandmother is to be a great grandmother. I wish you the best of luck with trying to convince your partner how important it is to you and that it will bring more love to your family.

I don't really have a good advise for this. I just hope that you could get this problem solved. Best wishes!

don't you feel enough of having three kids? there is so many things that had to be prepared when you want to have another one. maybe your husband thinking about how busy he would if he have to have one more kid. i guess you have to be blessed by the kids that you already had now

don't you feel enough of having three kids? there is so many things that had to be prepared when you want to have another one. maybe your husband thinking about how busy he would if he have to have one more kid. i guess you have to be blessed by the kids that you already had now

When our son was born four years ago I really thought that I was done with children and I had a tubal ligation at that time. When my sister-in-law was expecting her second child, I really didn't feel anything so I thought that was verification to the fact that I was done having babies. However, she is now pregnant with her third child and right now I have baby fever so bad that I can't even stand it.

You have always wanted 4 children. Did you and your partner discuss this before you had the first child? If not, why not? If the decision was made to have 3 children then a 4th child would not be part of the plan and the earlier decision. You state you are dying inside. What about having 4 children is more important than the care of the 3 you already have? You need to get to a good councilor and work this out. Everything you write suggests a major depressive problem. This will not be healthy for you, your children, your spouse or anyone else. Please, seek some good professional help!

Who should be blamed? Who's being so selfish? The mother, father or the baby?