Facebook & children

Hi anna, yes what you said is correct.

That is so very great of you thanks... I admire you more now. It is good that we know something about computers and can guide our children... But that is just one drop in the ocean... because there are many more parents who are either having zero knowledge of computers or internet and also if they have they dont have the time...

Hi Sid/Jo, It is that what we can do, we will do. Both my children (girl of 12 and boy of 15) have their own facebook accounts. When they demanded, I in my presence only both of them created it. They have their own school friends and some of our relatives also. I have given timings for them and they will use them at their allocated times. Both are good (not because of my children) and they never tried or attempted to any unwanted operations on the sites. As I said earlier, it is Internet any danger zone can appear at any moment of time and that would be sufficient enough for them to change their thinkings. I made some habits like whenever we use the computer with net connection, we all will be around. I will give so much of prior information for them where they can move to better site links. Educational and informative sites, readings and so and so. So, silently I have observed their moves and found they are in the right track. Also, I know their id names and passwords. So that at any time, I can check their sites and they will open their sites alongwith me only. Also, I keep giving enthusiastic and promotive guidelines so that they will think it is good. Also, the interaction with other children and discussion on the topic would make corruption. But I also become like a good friend a open companion with them. They always consider me as their best friend, then comes father. So this relationship make hope on them and me also. Only thing is that we will be in our hands only for few more year and they will look out for their own ways. But still, it is needed our support as much as we can. Why I said all, we can get our children as our own children upto a certain time only. So, till we have them around as sweet hearts, feel them as sweet hearts only and do anything for it and it would be a pleasure for ever. Thank-s

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Hi sreekala, it is better not to have account in face book, see one thing i want to tell you, may be face book is started to have good interaction with the relatives, family members and with the friends who are away from us. But now it become some thing else, but as far as i am concerned what i feel is it is a good one so use it good things why they are spoiling the reputation of such sites also. Have a nice day.

Hi dear, If the children are good enough to understand the matter, we can make them understand and the consequences can be minimised. But certain children mostly prefer to do such things privately and they always enjoy the privacy while sitting on Internet. All what we can do is that make them understand and ask them to observe what we all are doing. Also, make them habituated more with educational and such similar sites and by doing so, their interest will way forward to such disciplined sites. Thank-s

Hi dear, Yes, I understood. By not having an account for a child is not going to lose anything, but having an account may lead to unwanted troubles. I am not telling that having an account of facebook is so dangerous or anything like, but for a child of 8-10-12 years is not at all required it independently. However if they are using it under the supervention of parents or guardians, it is ok, but still not so advisable. Once they are upto the age to enjoy the same, we can recommend but for the child ages, it is better to have registered with some educational sites or sites which are meant for children are good and they will really enjoy also. But if they are full versed with facebook and the like, they may not find any fun in the sites that are really meant for them. Thank-s

Hi Akka, what we choose that depends, the result will be like that. That is so very true. I wish that the kids get the knowledge of what is good and what is bad the moment they start learning the computers - the parents and teachers must play their roles effectively and morally

Yes, we have to give them a happy future and we should ask them to choose their to be happy forever the way they want to choose. If they choose a right thing sure they will be happy life good future otherwise they have to repent for every single thing. But as a parents we much show them and guide them by reading the incidents happening to a particular thing or if possible we must show them in the television news etc.,

Hi Jo/Sid, Yes, I always used to say, we got all around, but our choice is the MASTER here. How we shape our things are important. If we are provided with apple, grapes, bananas, oranges, apricots, etc. and ask to take any one you like - of course, we got choice but can't take all. So we will decide which one has more utility - more useful - costlier - rare - etc and finally our judgement will finger to one of them. If asked, we have our own reasons for the choice. Give our children with the right choice among the many but all are useful. If properly guided and instructed, we can bring them with bright future. facebook also a good idea and developed with so many things in mind. But if not properly used, then whom we will blame. Greece is good in the engine parts of a vehicle. But if it applied on our body or shirt, it is completely useless. So, this is the system we should adopt. Always go for the best choice with appropriately needed. If we guide our children with love and affection, I think we can bring them in to a happy future. Thank-s

Yes, that is is. Age matters. But who should be responsible for it. Someone grownup. When we are careless of such things, these all are happening. We have police and law and order, why? Definitely maintain law and order, who breaks, they will handle them. Here also, we should act as cops and if required, implement our own order which in turn should make them to correct. Whey marriage is not allowed at the age of 15 or 16? They are matured enough to lead a settled life and that is why the age is restricted 18 or above. The same way, an age has its own influence on certain areas and we should think a 4-5 years child is really in need of it. Ok, if I got an account I can create i the name of my child and I can operate and do things for fun. But if the children handling the site own way should be controlled or observed. Thank you for your comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, Some time I used to think that we are thinking many things from our perspective and not in line with the new generation. Some time earlier, even we must have told or though of our parent also with the same. May be termed as generation gap or whatever, but a mistake is always mistake and to be corrected whenever and who ever does it. I think the new gen. children are much advance and they are one step ahead of us. Ok, but whenever their demands go beyond the limit, we also would think of the same. However, while we finding the fault with our education system, the practical difficulties are very much awere to the concerned people. But they don't want to take the burden on their shoulders because the children are of not theirs, and they want money. So, how it will get improved? I think within our limits, whatever we can do, we does - that is all. Thank-s

Though ....as you say....Facebook has a universal identity, there are lots of things in there that pop up on my profile (thanks to links or applications a few friends of mine use) that I don't want to expose my son to right now. I know I can't protect him forever but I'd prefer to put a lot of bad things that he will be exposed to anyways to a few years later when he will be capable of choosing right and wrong...or what he needs to do without going against his values and principles. He knows how to use the computer and the internet for what he needs.....but that can also lead to lots of harmful sites (both for the computer as well as my child) and I prefer being around when he is on the net. I'm thinking of getting a laptop for him without a net connection. A pendrive may be used to transfer data that he needs for his lessons....but the PC remains in the living room where it is in full view of the adults when the kids use it. My son has an account in Club Penguin which is for kids. I like the fact that they need parent permission to join and I am updated of new things that come up and I can access his account even if he has a password of his own.

Hi dear, Yes, the restricted way of using such accounts are ok and we can allow them to enjoy the same for a limited period. The computer literacy and knowledge also will increase. As compared to some other social sites, facebook has a universal identity and they motivated with the common usage. It directly does not implicated any bad habits or such things, but by moving through the sites and link connections would end up with various unwanted visits and which needs to be controlled. Always, preferred that whenever children are using computer with internet, our observation on them will be helpful in various aspects. Thanks for your comments and best regards. Thank-s

Hi dear, There is nothing to worry on this. I was just thinking how advanced we are now. Even the children are moving alongwith the time and culture. It is only mentioned that while they are going up, we need to look upon them that they are in the right track. Thanks for the comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, Though looks strange, looks so cute when thinking about it. Once children got more on it, they would really enjoy to get involved in it and that is the reason why they need to spend more time on it. Also, in their world, it is one of the joyful time and other kind of playing and time pass are occupied with facebook for many children like your grandchild. I know she is really enjoying it and please note that she would be concentrating on the studies as well. Thank-s

Kids are always so slender minded and it is easy to get involved into anything, if they are not properly guided. Such inspiration also gets into their hands mainly due the friendship company and others. We should be always watchful on them to check that whether they are on the right tracks. I think comparatively, girl children are more addicted to facebook than boys. However, a right supervision on them can be bring them to normal and with an understanding way. Thanks for the comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, Surely, there are a lots of things around. The parents to manage the children properly where as they can control them with preferred direction and guide them what to do and what not to do as per the age. Here it is a fact that we cannot reach our attention at all time with the children but making them about the facts and proper awareness can help to minimise the effects on children. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, You are right. Make them understand alongwith learning. It will imprint in their minds what is good and what not. A proper guidance and better awareness among the children can eliminate their unwanted doubts and if we guide them properly they will come up with better understanding. In the modern world children need their own freedom and choice. But our sole duty is to guide properly and if we do it properly, both parent and child will be winners in this life game. Nice to here you again and than you for your valid comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, When children learning to use internet, if we give the proper guidance and advice they will rightly motivated and at the initial time more care is required. Once they are in the correct track, they will move as per our instructions. But if they are not at all motivated the way how they should do, possibilities are there they would get spoiled. A right time interference and guidance can move them to the correct direction and which will make them more into the appropriate sites and informative sites than just wasting time with unwanted sites. Thank-s

Hi dear, You studied the youngster's mind and it is true. They will do whatever they want to be safe from others. Visibly they will act smart and they would move around the way they like in the absence of others. We should not promote such tendency. But all such habits are emerges when they are more interacted with other children and they are ones leading their role nicely. But if the children have a good conduct with their parent, they would still try to be coop with their parents in the way they preferred. Thank-s

Hi dear, Thanks for your comments. We should not give that much freedom to children with Internet. As per their age, there need certain restrictions. Computer learning and literacy is mandatory by using of websites independently would lead to unwanted results. As the life is more connected to computers and children are well aware that parents are mostly addicted to computers and it is happening in front of them also. So, they will spot such a life pattern in their life also. So, the best way is to make them well aware of the the same and be always around or sit with them whenever we give them computers with Internet. Also we can guide them with child and informative sites which are suited for their age and knowledge. If so, they will really enjoy them and only thing, we should around them as a guide. Thank-s

Hi dear, Yes, to an extent it is correct. If we try from the bigging with a systematic way of teaching and giving them proper advice and instructions perhaps they will get guided by the proper way of learning. But most of the cases, it does not happen. This is the main reason why children are going the way how they feel. If we guide them at their respective age period with information what they needed, they will move towards its right track. Also, after a time limit, there wont be any advantage also from this. However, to an extent, I think the proper guidance can make some results. Thank-s