Okay, I just deleted another "friend" for spamming me...do you do that, too?

Hi I do not delete anyone sending me a friends request, whatever may be his/her intention and even if i do not know the person. I dont think it is courteous to do so. If I find someone spamming me i'll just ignore or if it happens in cs of my email, i'll mark it as spam. If someone sends me a referral link and if i have time. i'll have a look at it-it may be something useful.

I have done that. I will only send things to people that ask. I also go to their profile to check it out before I accept.

I don't like it when I get spammed either. I just delete the message. Sometimes I delete the person, sometimes not. Most of the time I do delete though. I don't really have a hard and fast rule about it. It is annoying when they do that though!

I actually have not even read that greeting. Then again I'm not sure how to put it up there or add music (I swear someone has had that on their page) or a cute back ground. I only give referrals if asked about something I do or mention I have a banner on my profile. But typically most people already do what I do for a few pennies anyways.

Today was the first time that happened to me. I deleted her very quickly. I don't speak the language and while I do find it enjoyable to share cultures, do not ask me to follow you to other sites or "Like" you. I don't feel used, merely annoyed that this person, who actually has a .org site, even qualified for a .org site.

Hi dear, It is ok, I don't care or don't bother too much of such things. Here in myLot there are certain basic and common facts I used to follow. We have so much of friends here some are come as on demand and few of them acquainted as on our request. I consider all these are just like a fun. Some times people used to send links. So sorry to say that, if I am already involved, I will not try, and found worth I will make an attempt. The fundamental here is make some extra cents and all are running after with their own way. If someone send a link via PM or publishing through their site, it is upto our decision whether to go ahead or not. Mostly, if some one sends a link, and found not useful, I just IGNORE it. It is their need to send, if fond not good, we will just delete. I think that is all about it. Thank-s

well i don't have such rule. i try to be a polite one. i see first what kind of program he/she offer. but then if i don't like it. i tell them not to send another one. but if he/she keep sending those links. i do delete them from my friend list. why do i do that? because i don't frequently visit mylot. so it doesn't bother me a lot after all.

I definitely will delete these kinds of "friends" if they're already on my friends list. If they send a friend request, to save me all these nonsense, I'll not add them from the very beginning. Normally I don't really approve people unless I've scanned through the discussions they've started & responded to. Normally I'll be the one sending friend requests. Another thing is if I find people from my friends list whining too much, that's SPAM to me, haha!~That I'll delete off, no second thoughts. I mean the occasional letting out of steam that's understandable but day & night all the negative crap just puts me off

Hello dear dragon. The new people here, or better said the ones with few posts are subject from my perspective to imediate deletion if they attempt sending crappy referral links to me as "friends". I have even deleted some new friends as i checked their profile and found a discussion like "when will i be able to send referral links" or something similar - so THANKS but NO thanks. As for older members here, i am open to requests from them as i would expect them as well - while i will not go signing up for 10 sites just for one person to make a profit, i would sign up for 1-2 site if that would not involve too much time loosing from my part - and it also depends on HOW the problem is put up in the message. At some point i may ask my friends for their help, but i will either be desperate enough, or it would help both of us, i don't usually try to use people just for my personal gain -this is not why i am here at mylot afterall.

Just yesterday i added two people but instead of giving formal introduction or hi, how are you? message they sent me referral links so i messaged back my referral link.They haven't replied me back yet Its irritating when people spam us.If someone doesn't get the hint then i give them a rude reply and if still they spam then i delete them. I give a warning first as they are newbie and if one still doesn't understand then delete them..

dragon- It depends I suppose. I had a friend on here the other day send me an email about another site, but they did not send it without a note. They sent it thinking it would help a few of the writings I've done on here. However, I did have one member who was constantly sending me referral links to make them money and yes, I felt annoyed and as if they weren't really about my friendship, they just wanted to make their points. The ones that send me just a referral link I tend to delete as well. I have tried in the past to give them a warning but that doesn't seem to work so I just delete. Namaste-Anora

I didn't before, but I am now. I'm also thinking about going through my friends list and deleting a bunch of them. I added them when I was new to MyLot, and now after using MyLot for about a year, I have friends and then the rest are just taking up space.

I am so annoyed to those spammers out there. Even in my skype, yahoo messenger, facebook, they kept on sending me there referrals links and flood my wall to their referral links without asking your permission. I also hate those people who used to tag me their photos, and tag lots of people on a photo which is related to the program they are in. I know tagging is on way of promoting your site because everybody can see it whether they are your friends or not but then they must have ask permission before doing it.

I don't do that. I just check what they send to me. If it helps why not give it a try. Nothing to loose.

I am very generous in accepting friend requests, but very strict about spam. I do check out profiles when people have a zero beside their name and request me as friend. I have also warned them that a spam message will remove them. I had one guy re request me every day or so, and then several times a day. I finally just left him pending, and I think he was eventually banned or quit.

I am so very picky about who I accept as a friends that the people I do accept very seldom try to spam me. However if they break certain rules of mine then I have no qualms in deleting them.

Hi,up untill now,i have not got such experiences,but i think i will be unhappy if i met the same thing as you. I think those who spam you maybe never really want make ture friends here,they are looking for referrals. So they add friends without seeing their profile first. I don't have many friends here. And every time i got a friend requesting,i will first go to his or her profile to have a see. It is the same thing i do before i add a friend in a chatroom or yahoo messenger. If you don't know the basic thing about a person,then add he or she as a friend,then that will not make real friend.

i delete them if they do it more then once like after ive told them no. sometimes i do ask for one but seldom since my time is full these days. i had one idiot that kept sending me his referral from here i was like hey, you dont see im already a member since this where iam? duh!!! anyway the second time, i deleted him. i dont have it stated on my profile, but at FB its stated to not ask me to play games and they do it anyway, so i have to keep deleting the game requests

I've been pretty fortunate in that area actually. I've not had anyone send me spam messages but if they did, I wouldn't have any qualms about deleting them immediately. Even though I market online, I never spam and I don't hold with anyone who does. There's really no excuse for it. Anyone here can put their program information and referral links in their profile so there is absolutely no excuse for sending spam messages to members. What's amazing to me is how do people actually believe that spamming will get them referrals? Everybody hates spam so do they really think that anyone will sign up from a spam message? What a colossal waste of time for them. Since I came to MyLot, I've always sent friend requests because I was interested in the person. I read their discussions or responses and liked what I read. I mostly send requests to members who I feel I have something in common with and would like to be notified when they post a new discussion so I can read and/or respond. That's it. Likewise when I receive a friend request, I scrutinize the person who sent it. I check out their profile to see what they are all about. I look to see if we have responded to any of the same discussions. If I think they are legit, I'll approve them. Occasionally I get a request from a new user who seems to be under the wrong impression that MyLot is all about building a huge list of friends. If the person hasn't posted any discussions or responded to any, well, there's not much reason to approve them. MyLot is all about writing, interaction, discussion, friendship and enjoyment. Spammers don't care about any of that and certainly aren't friends. I will not only delete them but also report them to admin, so any of you spammy types out there who might be reading this, BEWARE!

I think a friend can only be a real friend if they knew each other for a longer span of time. But if you can call him a "friend" it means you like him or her and not the other way around. I don't delete friends if I call them that my way although spamming is another ball game.