Can't we advise ourselves?

when i have problems, i ask for an advise but case to case. i normally just want people to hear me out and tap me and say hey, u'll do just fine.. i don't give much advises to others, not unless i'm asked or the person really [really] needs it. i usually go out and be alone and think how to figure it out. and most of the time, i end up still alive and smilin.. hey, you can't be sad for too long.

It looks like many agree with what I was going to say; once one is under a stressful situation, he or she loses clarity to make a good decision. I know I do and asked for advise here a lot and when someone tells me something that is so simple, I realize that I was not thinking clearly to make that choice on my own..

I think we do this because when we are faced with such problems our judgment is clouded by the weight of the situation and the stress contributes to this as well. Furthermore, it is better to seek guidance from those who are not involved because they can view the situation from all angles and can point out things that you could have missed from their unbiased opinions. There are also people with more experience in the problem you are into and they can contribute great help in providing the right solutions or steps to prevent further damage.

Why not? I think advise ourselves is a good virtue as a humanbeing. As an old saying goes in China: everyday people should proceed a introspection thoroughly. I think it is reasonable. After all, I am the person who know most about myself. So, I think giving the suitable advise can help ourselves to have a great progress.

Hi dear, A meaningful and really a relevant topic. What is this 76 stands for? Sometimes we are very smart enough to advise others and when we are really needed, would be running after someone or never seek any advice at all. I am also a typical person in this area. I used to advise may (but effective) and I am sure that it is from experience and expertise only. But whenever I am in such a critical stage, I will do all the blunders. Either seek for an expert opinion or discuss the same with a third party also will not do. The result is total failure and some even commented also that as per your instruction we did and become successful and you in your own case such a failures? In fact it is a true case and what to do - a well know doctor also should go to some MBBS doctors when they are also become ill. The story may not so different from this. Thank-s

yes, almost everyone had this kind of situation wherein we are all good advisers but when we are in a situation that troubles us we tend to ask someone to help us out.This is normal because we cannot always do the talking, we also need to listen and with that we can help ourselves to decide what to do..

I think we all need a shoulder to cry on because when we are in some problems we might not solve it most effective as we are dealing with pressure. To solve any problem I think it is needed to be solved with very cool mind. I do find my self in this sort of situation and I do ask my parents or my spouse for the better solution.

We are human. We are not born perfect in this world and it is hard for us to be living alone. We feel different when we hear somebody giving us advice. We appreciate their advice and give value to it. That's the time we are learning to follow it. But some people don't need advice. They just live their life in their own rules. They don't wanna hear any words of wisdom from someone, I think those kinds of people are weird, they are loners who hasn't really face what the world is. The world is about socializing with people, having friends and families who can help you in your times of needs.

When we are faced with problems in life, we tend to cloud our judgment. So that's one of the reason why we tend to seek to others advises so we could be guided in the right direction. I am not really advise seeker. Its like I tend to solve my own problems by myself. But its a good thing that someone is supporting you no matter what you do and all.

I'm not the kind of person who gives advice but don't have any idea what I'm saying and I only give advice if it's needed. I avoid giving any advice if no one is asking. As for your question, I don't want to advice myself because I give crappy advice.

no . I like give advises other people ,but I don't like to get other people's advises.