Do You Like having People Around You All The Time OR Do You Like Being Alone ?

@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
February 5, 2011 10:37am CST
There are some people who like being surrounded by family,friends ..generally have people around them.They feel lost being all by themselves.I have seen some relatives who can never think of being alone if for some reason other family members are away for some reason, they need to have someone else come and give them company ...Personally speaking, I do like having people around but , honestly I am perfectly happy in my own company - doing what I want and at my own pace.In fact, nowadays I enjoy being alone, doing what I want... How about you all friends ? Do you need the company of other people or are you happy being by yourself ?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
7 Feb 11
Hello Kiran, I think I can handle both situations. If somebody is around I will be happy to talk to them and at the same time if I am alone, I can do my pending works without any interruption. As you know that I am working, so getting some extra time as free or alone is good for me. If am alone then I am faster in finishing my works.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
Hi Sreekala,thanks a lot for your response ..I agree,I too feel the same when I am home, am able to work faster as you say and concentrate more on my work...all the best and have a nice weekend sreekala
@khalida (1126)
• India
5 Feb 11
Well i like a good mix of both. I think i am a gregarious person and i enjoy the company of different people. there is lots to learn from people directly or in-direcly. even otherwise i am a chatter box and love to talk talk and talk. alone time is liked a lot when i want to read, write or watch movies. Mostly for introspection too
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Feb 11
Hi khalida, thanks a lot for your response Yes I agree that interacting with people always gives us some new ideas, new thoughts and knowledge.I guess each individual wants to have his/her time to just be himself/herself ...all the best and happy mylotting
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
5 Feb 11
Hi There are times when i like to be among my friends and family members, as you say surrounded by many people, but most of the time , since i am an introvert, i like to be alone. Then there are times when i like privacy with my gurl, just two of us and no one to bother.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Feb 11
Hi amirev,Thanks a lot for your response .I agree that you need to be alone sometimes especially when you are with your girl friend...I have seen many introverts changing and becoming the opposite once they grow older. It has happened with one of my cousins who was a shy, introverted youngster. Now he is a father with 2 kids in high school and he is jovial and far from what he was earlier. probably the credit should go to his wife for making him happy and secure - all the best and have a great week ahead
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
6 Feb 11
Hi Kiran, Sorry I posted my reply at some other place!
• Pakistan
7 Feb 11
No hard feelings mate! Won't hold you to that!!
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
I like being alone. Sometimes, I even wish that I am living alone. Hehehehe. I do like my friends and my family, and I like being with them, but I am perfectly happy alone just the same. I like walking alone in malls, or eating at restaurants.. though there are times, when I do like it when I'm with someone (like shopping!)LOL.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Feb 11
Hi Ingking, I know of many people who are like you, who want to be by themselves even though they are very close to their parents and friends, just that they like to have privacy in their day today life. I like going shopping alone unless of course we are all together on a holiday and are out to do some fun shopping, nothing serious...all the best
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
You too Ingking , have a great evening and a great weekend
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
Yeah, I guess that's it. I really do value my privacy. Have a great day Kiran!
• United States
6 Feb 11
I much prefer myself and my dog for company! Seriously, I love being by myself, am very content with all my own projects and goings ons. And, of course, I so enJOY not having to answer to anyone, since I'm single. I have the perfect roommate. We go our separate ways, do our own thing, even when we're both home. We are really good friends, so it's not that we ignore each other, we chitchat throughout the day, but basically we leave each other to entertain ourselves. It's wonderful! I know people who cannot stand being by themselves and I feel so sorry for them.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
9 Feb 11
Hi abito, I am truly sorry to have misread you ! Be positive ( I can see that you are very positive )and open minded and I am sure something will work out and you will find new avenues opening up - all the best and happy mylotting
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
8 Feb 11
Hi abito, thank you so much for sharing your views Your life seems perfect ..When a person is financially independent and also lives all himself/herself it is easy to manage ones life as one wants , but when you are living with a family and in some cases joint family, it becomes impossible to find time for anything personal...all the best and have a nice evening
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• United States
9 Feb 11
Oh my! My life is far, far, far from perfect! And I am not at all financially independent at the moment, as I am unemployed and have been for some time. My friend pays my share of the bills right now, as my only income is whatever I make online. I have all sorts of personal issues and one crisis after another just like anyone else. I just choose to feel and behave as blessed as I can be, no matter my life circumstances.
• Pakistan
5 Feb 11
I will go mad if i there is some human looming over everything i am doing!! I do like to be alone now and then but not for a whole day! I need my family, want them there but not necessarily at my shoulder! I need space sometimes and am blessed in having a family who understand that! Friends are a different story!! I don't think anybody could do without a helping hand or and understanding heart! but this dear person can't be there all the time and i am OK with that! Even for days!! For me the knowledge that there is somebody out there who holds me closer and always wishes the very best for me is more than enough!! But this applies to friends alone not to family!!
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
6 Feb 11
Hi No, my gurl hasn't been able to do it in my case. I am a born introvert, and will alwayz remain so. My father is one, so its in my blood. Wish you best for coming week too!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
6 Feb 11
Hi mysticalecstacy, I agree we need to be given personal space even within the family and home.I find this not happening in many families. In fact it is taken for granted that everybody has the right to know every thing there is to know about other members and question every member.It can be stifling, but people do put up with it because they do not want to hurt their close family members...Friends are a different story altogether, but even there one has to be careful - thanks a lot for sharing your views and all the best for the coming week
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
11 Feb 11
i am an only child so i am used to being alone and because i grew up that way, i am very good at entertaining myself but its good to have a mix of both. its not good to go one way or the other.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
13 Feb 11
Hi cher, I agree with that .We need to have a balance in our dealings with people,too much of any one thing is not very satisfactory ! It is good to know that you are able to keep yourself occupied all the time, I guess that is one of the advantages of being alone or being an only child...all the best and have a nice week ahead
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
28 Feb 11
I am also basically a loner, I don't like to have too many people around me. But lately, since both my children are away and my husband is also busy in his work, I like to talk to people, especially in the evenings when I really feel lonely...so I go for walk in the evenings and talk to people I meet on the way and feel happy. But if you ask me as far as friends are concerned, I'm very choosy and do not make friends easily.Have a great week ahead!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
28 Feb 11
Hi comfort, Many people these days are happy in their own company for various reasons..I feel that it is better to have a few good trustworthy friends rather than having too many friends - thanks a lot for your response, happy mylotting
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Feb 11
Both. I like being around people, and then I need to get away to recharge.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
Hi dawnald, lol, that is very apt - get away to recharge ...When you are with lots of people listening to different opinions and views, there are times when I just want to get away - all the best and enjoy your weekend
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
20 Feb 11
Hi. kiran. I am the type of person that loves the company of family and friends when they time is right. But most of the time, I enjoy spending my time alone without others around. It is more relaxing this way.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Feb 11
Hi cream,Thanks a lot for your response , Too much of socialising and spending time with people has its disadvantages in that you dont get to do things that you want to do, so we need to have some time for ourselves no matter what the demands in our life are -all the best and enjoy your evening
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
since i was young, i love being alone most of the time. my best hideout would be my bedroom before. now, i go out and look for a place that i can just sit and watch things move around me. i don't like talking that much. but i love laughing over some jokes. if i am to be with people, i prefer jolly characters. i have friends like that but most of them are already away. i moved out from my town years ago and just cant find new people i love to hang out with.. and/or just dont have time to meet new people.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
20 Feb 11
Hi MARKER,Thanks a lot for sharing your views here. You are an introvert and it is only natural that you like being by yourself. I guess most people are happy to be with those they are comfortable with except a few who cannot do without company - all the best and have a great week ahead
• India
31 Mar 11
Hello Kiranji While i am in home, i am never alone, my family members are with me, my grand daughter Subhee will never leave me; but if i am attending a seminar or workshop some where far place than in the hotel room i am certainly alone; but i keep myself busy with my research work, my laptop is always with me.. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
31 Mar 11
Hi professor, thanks a lot for your response You seem happy to have people around you most of the time - all the best and happy mylotting
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
21 Feb 11
I love more being alone than having a crowd near me. I'm always wondering and thinking about stuff so sometimes people who doesn't know very well thinks I'm distracted or something.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
22 Feb 11
Hi katie, thanks a lot for your response I guess you are going through a phase when you are happier being alone and hate crowds. But we keep changing in life and later a stage comes where you want to have people around you at least for sometime...all the best and enjoy your evening
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
There are certain times that i like being alone, doing things on my own.I think we all need that space, to be all by ourselves.However, it is nice to have people around me so I can share all my life's experiences.Family and friends make me happy.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
Hi lexirose,Thanks a lot for sharing your views ! I too feel the same, in fact I prefer to be by myself so that I can do thing at my pace.Like you , I also meet relatives and friends and have a lot of good times with them - all the best and have a nice weekend
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Personally for the most part I enjoy being alone. I do work outside of the home, and I do have a lot of Church friends I do things with from time to time but for the most part I enjoy the ME time where no one can bother me for sure. That is when I am at Peace and can be here on the internet playing a Game, or posting here in myLot as well.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
Hi krauseHome, thank you so much for sharing your views I agree that with the coming of the net we all need our own ME time and it becomes very annoying when you are constantly disturbed or bothered when you are in the middle of something - all the best and have a nice weekend
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
7 Feb 11
I am a middle kind of person. Sometimes I like people, but sometimes I simply need to be alone. I'm a 60% people time person.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
Hi cripfemme,thanks a lot for sharing your views I am sure that most people are like that, they do need to be alone at least for a short time ! all the best and have a nice weekend
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
7 Feb 11
Hi KIRAN! I need my family around me; strange it may seem , we would all be sitting in different rooms, out of sight and doing our own work.But I need them around me.THey woud be here but we would have our total personal space.Now with thsi sweet little angel at home, we are all dancing around him all the time.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Feb 11
Hi kala, how have you been ? hardly to be seen these days - very busy settling down in the new house are you ? How is the little prince I can imagine what he must be doing? They are so adorable at that age and one wishes they stay that way for ever ! I too prefer my space although I love to have my family around me...all the best and take care kala
• Canada
6 Feb 11
I need both. Some time being with people and some time by myself
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
Hi Risa, thanks a lot for your response - I agree that we need a mix of both.All the best and enjoy your weekend
@06MLam (620)
6 Feb 11
I like being alone most of the time because I can enjoy the quietness and peaceful moment. As what you have mentioned, I can do things at my own pace if I am alone and can decide what I would like to do during my time and this will not inhibit my schedule much as I can change as what I want. However, I do enjoy the moment staying with a large group of relatives and friends because we can share ideas and our happiness in the past. I just do not like this to happen so often. It would be absolutely fine for me if it happens every festival or might be some special ocasions such as someone's birthday. From this, you can see that I am not those people who need people to be with them even when they are working back home from their work or school. I think this is extremely uncomfortable to do so when there is someone besides you every single moment because this has taken all my private space for thinking. Imagine while you are walking back home or sitting down to read books in a cafe and would like to think about ideas brought out from the book or for something else, there is always a person whom you have to deal with. To me, it is absolutely a disturbance. However, if you would like to talk to me about the book or TV I have read, it is absolutely fine because we are sharing ideas but what I need is just some time to be alone so that I can think individually in a quiet place.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Feb 11
Hi Lam,Thanks a lot for your views ! You have brought all the advantages of being alone . I too agree with that, but as you say we do need people to share our feelings,happiness and also joy during celebrations and festivals etc etc; all the best and have a nice weekend
6 Feb 11
Most of the time i love being with family and friends its fun being with them and it feels good that i am surrounded by the people i love. but there are times also i like to spend my time alone especially when i have problem or reminiscing about the past..
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Feb 11
Hi gerald,thanks a lot for sharing your views here Family , especially close family gives us strength and confidence in our daily life as well as during times of stress.But as you say we also need time to be by ourselves - all the best and have a nice evening