Misery???

When I was miserable a few months ago, I wanted to be alone. I didn't want anybody to see me in that state. I avoided friends and it took a lot of convincing before they could lure me out of the house. I also avoided going out on a date even when a lot of people told me that it might help cure my blues. So, I don't think that this saying is true. Well, not for me anyway.

Hi Marissa, Well, when I'm in a bad mood or miserable, I actually prefer to be alone if possible. I have no desire to spread my misery to others or get more down by hanging with someone who is also miserable. Unfortunately, being alone is not always an option. If I have to be around people then I prefer to be around either happy people. At least they might (usually do) make me forget my troubles for a while and even laugh.

I've always thought that the phrase "Misery loves company" meant that the truly miserable people often will try to bring others down to their level in a subconscious attempt to make themselves feel better. Whatever it means, when I feel miserable for whatever reason, I tend to want to be totally alone. I'll find a quite little hole and hibernate until I'm feeling better. THEN I'll want to be around people. I'm definitely a "people-person", at least when I'm feeling good. But, I can turn into a total hermit if I'm not feeling good or feeling miserable.

I have never really thought about this in detail, but for me when I am feeling low I like to surround myself with people that can bring me up. So not necessarily happy people, but positive people, that help me to see that there is a light at the end of a dark tunnel and put things in perspective.

Hi LadyMarissa. I always hear the phrase "misery loves company" but this is the first I heard of the one which followed and I think there is a grain of truth in it. One would not want to be with laughing and smiling people when one is miserable. The more the person would pity one's self as they would just, well...laugh your misery away. But miserable people would reaffirm the misery of another and find comfort in each other. Perhaps, unwittingly becoming more miserable and gloomy. Personally, I keep my miseries to myself and I keep to myself until such time I am well able to face others with a smile. So...smile away, LadyMarissa. Have a nice day ahead.

if im miserable would just go in my room an sit and listen to some nice calming music of the birds of something to cheer me up for the day

I have heard of this saying many times. I never understood it. I know that when I am in misery, I sure do not want any kind of company, most usually, unless it is my husband and he is there to help me through it. I sure do not want to spend it with someone else who is miserable too. That would not help either one of us.

Birds of a feather flock together is the more accurate saying of the same meaning as yours. In every society there are those who just love to b*tch and they tend to group together. When I feel miserable I would rather be alone until I get over it. But when I want to b*tch.............well there's always the lot isn't there? lol