Correction as rejection.

Corrections are vital to our own personal growth. We learned from our mistakes. It is in fact considered as the best teacher. However, some people would take it negatively, or some would insult the concern party that is why it creates conflict and it aggravates the person. Maybe, you will feel rejected when you are being corrected in front of many people specially if it was done inappropriately. This issue is more of your ego being stepped by other.

Well, depending on the way someone tries to correct me if I have done something wrong usually I take with a grain of salt and try to learn from it, and better it from there. But I work with someone that does get offensive when someone tries to correct them and it is to the point where everyone ignores her now to where she thinks she knows it all even when she is way wrong.

I think one feels this way when they have been corrected in the wrong way growing up. The way I was corrected was be ridicule, which didn't help me to learn from my mistakes, but get angry at those who try to correct me. I since have outgrown most of that, and getting another dose by taking English in college where not only the teacher corrects mistakes, but our peers do as well. I see this as good, because in college, ridicule is not allowed, only positive correction and I accept it,because I know I need to fix my mistakes but still feel bad sometimes.

To accept correction means to be humble enough that in one way or another there is a mistake or a lapse in what you do. But it doesn't mean rejection of the deed or something, but it only means to make a better option, or to make right a mistake. We are only human and as humans we sometimes err. Let's just be humble enough to accept our mistakes, because God loves humble people.

There are some of us that were raised in abhorable life circumstances... Perhaps your friend, like me was raised with constant mental, spiritual, emotional and physical abuse... Nothing he ever did was good enough teaching him to be a perfectionist... Just barely skiming by emotionally and any correction however administered is just more proof how inadequat he is in your eyes, his eyes and the rest of the world... This can lead to mental, emotional and social immaturity... Many of us isolate (socially), become insatiable people pleasers and try to do everything to an impossible standard... We are cameleons and quickly to mimic normalcy but inside constantly seek approval and validation from others... Unfortunatly it does'nt matter how perfectly or grand our accomplishments and praise, all it takes is one "correction" (taken as ridicule) to destroy what little ounce of competence found... The answer to my many ailments due to this condition was found in twelve step therapy... If your friend resembles any of my statements at all he is living in a miserable hell and deserves to find his way out... I dont know about anyone else but I know I am freeer today than I have ever been in my life... There may not be a cure but the roller coaster ride gets a lot smother and true happiness can be experienced most of the time...

I personally feel that one should accept the corrections!! yes, accepting the correction means admitting that we are wrong, but whats wrong in that!! Every person makes mistake!! Mistakes are a negative aspect which can be easily converted into powerful positive by genuinely accepting the mistake and correcting it!! There is no harm in feeling Dejected when someone corrects!! Because when you feel dejected, your thurst to correct the mistake aggravates and you correct the mistake very soon. But as far as feeling REJECTED is concerned, I feel that you should not feel so, because only a person who cares for you, corrects you with an intention that you shouldn't make the mistake again!! So that means you are accepted by him/her and not rejected!!

when you feel alone and unloved and you made some mistakes and you get corrected, somehow you associate that correction as rejection.you feel every thing some to you was a way to show you that you are not accepted or totally accepted.I'm speaking out of my own experience.that's how I felt most of the time because I felt lack of love. I don't know the reason why others feel that way.they may haVe different reason.

Hi dear, It is a kind of ego issue and people never ready to accept the correction. It is mainly because they are some time aware of the issue and they may be having the solution for the same. But once they tested and found failed, normally people who come to know about would correct it. But the mistake is done knowingly. In such case, they are contempt of their own deed and they will be pressured with the failure as a result of their work. As being this as the background, most of the people would be reluctant to accept it and it is a psychological issue. However, some of the people would say ok, but they may have the inferiority complex and due to the same reason, they will not rightly accept it. Thank-s

hello sais! Accepting correction is admitting that we have indeed made a mistake and we are mature enough and confident enough to admit such. When you feel rejected every time someone corrects your mistake, you are either too proud to admit that you can commit mistakes or too insecure. Either way, it shows a sort of emotional immaturity. If you want to help you friend, you should urge him to build up his self-confidence and teaching him along the way that admitting a mistake will not demean the person. Rather, it shows that he is mature enough to admit a mistake and thrive on that mistake so that he will be able to do things with lesser if not zero-mistake the next time around. Mistakes are lessons to be nurtured, not to be treated as rejection or something.

HI! There is few time when someone correct me but then I refused to change as there is no difference whether I am doing it on my way or his/her way and I am saying this after I followed their ways but later on come back to my own ways. If changes lead to benefits and better results then I will have no problems to do so.When I try to correct others I will make sure they see the results first then it is up to them to follow my way or not.

You need to accept corrections for you to grow up. Accept them and don't think of it as a form of rejection.

I believe in the notion that nobody is perfect...Everybody makes mistakes and that is the nature of human being since the earliest of days...I think accepting correction is indeed admitting we were wrong, but does it really matter? One day may come when you will correct him/her for mistakes he/she did... Feeling of rejection when corrected, I believe is due to lack of self confidence...One should not feel inferior due to making mistakes...It is natural, and nothing is to be ashamed of something natural...

Everybody makes mistakes so it is just okay to be corrected by other people and it is also okay to admit that you were wrong.There are many positive ways on how to tell a person that he has done something wrong without adding insult to the injury.

Being corrected doesn't mean that you are being rejected. It only means that you are not perfect so as all of us. I understand that there are really some people who can't accept corrections because they think of themselves as something perfect. It hurts their pride when people have to criticize them. Being rejected and being corrected is different from each other. Being rejected means you are not wanted all. On the other hand, being corrected aims for improving our personality or skills. It teaches us how to be humble. The only thing that these two have in common is that, they can be both result to low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence or it can build a better personality---it can only vary depending on the person and how he/she can accept this. For me, the better way to deal with it, regardless if is rejection or correction, is to learn to love yourself. Just because you are being rejected or corrected, it doesn't mean that you are not worthy at all. It only teaches us to be HUMBLE, aim for the BEST and always LEARN something to IMPROVE ourselves. Now, take note that LEARNING doesn't end with a period (.)...it goes on continuously.

He felt that because if you are corrected this means what he has done was not perfect and are rejected by the others. This is a normal feeling but I think he has to try to do better by accepting the other's corrections so that his work will not be rejected again next time and becomes perfect!

Getting things in line through corrections has always helped. At times, through the emotions that we have, we tend to misjudge things that is why we need some help on how to view things. The way I see it, it is about how people delivers their correction if we really were wrong. If they say it as if they know everything, it is still a correction but the impact of it is like rejection. Rejection for me is like being closed to the things that you only agree in to. If you meet someone who does not want to hear the things you want to say, truly you will be rejected. Making things right is a correction. Not wanting to accept that people make mistakes is a rejection of the reality that we sometimes could go wrong.

Life is full of wonders and challenge. You may not be right or wrong, but accepting other people's correction means Your are just being part of the life. Stick with your own mind and instict. Don't mind other peoples said