How to make a girl be your girlfriend?

@xxj3ffxx (501)
Australia
February 6, 2011 6:06am CST
I had 2ex-girlfriends and i never asked them to be mine... and i remained ignorant about how to chase a girl and make the girl i like to be my girlfriend... This may be a stupid question.. but whats the best step to take for this happen? I have actually a girl in my mind.. I didn't do a good "first" impression to her... but i repaired it recently and now am her friend... Whats the next step?
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
6 Feb 11
Rule 1: You can't MAKE anyone do or be anything. Rule 2: Be yourself, be natural, be interested in the things she's interested in. Rule 3: Be more interested in her than in yourself, but DON'T swamp her with interest! Your attitude should be: "You are you and I'm me. I can very well live without you but it's nice to have you with me."
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@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
6 Feb 11
well.. your rule 3 is very true.. but should you show her that you cannot live without her in your life to show me how special she is? instead of "I can very well live without you" which shows that she is not very important in your life...
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
6 Feb 11
If you think that you cannot live without someone, then you are only half a man/woman. If you both agree that being together enhances both your lives, then you are MORE than just two people.
28 Jul 17
Yeah the attitute which you have mention its owsome but many a time person is dying heart lover then what to do.
• India
7 Feb 11
Graham Bell invented the telephone. Newton discovered the gravity. And many more MEN have found what not all stuffs which is the reason we lead a way better life than our ancestors. Have you ever heard of a WOMAN inventing anything ? I am sure the answer is a .... NO! Reason ... women are too complicated and confused with themselves to do anything apart from playing games with the men in their life ! Suggestion ... be spontaneous. If everything goes well, she's yours , other wise ... the world is full of females man ... look for someone else ! Cheers !
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
8 Feb 11
haha.. your spirit is full of joy man.. And yea you are right.. we are the man.. the generation of all man kind... and we just need to take things easy and get through it..
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
Well there is really no specific formula in winning a girls heart. I think showing who you really are is the next best thing to do. Be nice and kind. Of course if you are good a naturally good person this won't be a problem.
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
6 Feb 11
Yes, i know that i should act natural.. what i mean is that what can i do to bring her to me? what kind of activity which may be very nice to bring her along and make herself very happy and bring her closer to me? Am actually scared that she becomes closer to me as a friend.. not as a lover... how to prevent this?
@pringu (151)
• India
7 Feb 11
In my opinion, you can't win a girl's heart by trying to impress her in all the possible ways you could. Rather, most girls appreciate men being their normal self. Although it appears as if you should show off a bit to catch a girl's attention, the fact of the matter is you are probably never going to get her attention at all. It's always better off to do things that naturally comes to you and that's what most girl's like. But then, if you are humorous and witty, you are at an advantage since girls always loves to be with those guys who could make them laugh and be happy.
• United States
7 Feb 11
Like said before...you can't really "MAKE" someone be your girlfriend. It all depends on if you're compatible and have similar interests. It's gonna be hard to form a bond if you have nothing in common. Don't force yourself to enjoy the same things she does...it probably won't work. You could just try getting some friends together and hang out with them with her, so it's not as much pressure since you're surrounded by other people you know. But...if she doesn't seem interested, it's best just to leave her be and find someone else that fits you better.
@xxj3ffxx (501)
• Australia
7 Feb 11
Yea.. am sorry for using the wrong words. Sure i cannot use the word "MAKE" here in this context. and yea... i was wondering the same things to bring along some of my friends also together. But I really want to spend time with her alone.. spending time with her only. Is that a good idea? or is it too early?
@Adam211 (38)
28 Jul 17
I can give you the bestest trick ever that one day talk with her in good mude and after that try to ignore her use this trick for one week that its done.
• Canada
7 Feb 11
Doing things together that are exciting and new for both of you can help create a special bond like the one you're looking for. If you are already friends there is a chance this will work, but sometimes two people are just not as compatible as one of those two people would wish. Have fun sharing time with her, and when you feel the time is right, let her know that you care about her, but be prepared in case she doesn't feel the same way.