What is your breaking point?
By lealuvy2j
@lealuvy2j (1986)
Philippines
February 6, 2011 6:27am CST
I was listening to a song by Kerri Hilson and it is about someone's breaking point. In case you are wondering about what she meant about that, it means it is that point in your relationship that you will give up the relationship entirely. It is the limit to your love. If you ask me though, my breaking point is physical and verbal abuse. I will not tolerate it. I can even forgive cheating than abuse even though I don't want any of these to happen in my relationship. How about you? What is your breaking point? Is it cheating? Weight Gain? lol. 
What would make you leave your partner?
What would make you leave your partner?3 people like this
9 responses
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
Hey Lea, I have always though that I wouldn't think twice about leaving if my boyfriend would abuse me. Physical and verbal abuse is just a major No-NO for me. I also wouldn't tolerate cheating.. not now that we have been through a lot, and if he still cheats on me, then I guess it's not really meant to be, right?.. Funny thing about the weight gain thing.. Jamell always says that when I reach around 300++ lbs he would definitely leave me. LOL. I don't take it against him.. though I always said, that it would always be partly his fault if that happens cause he didn't help me control my eating!
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Yeah, that's true. One should never let go of their looks just because they already have someone who loves them. Because we all know that hundred or so pounds could change all that.
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
Haha. I should also ask Cado if he would leave if I reach 300++lbs. lol. Even if I would not also take it against him if he does leave because taking care of oneself is really a big factor in making a relationship work. 
Even if I would not also take it against him if he does leave because taking care of oneself is really a big factor in making a relationship work. 1 person likes this
@blueangelwrites (149)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
My breaking point within a relationship is when i feel that i already stopped respecting myself by remaining there. That could mean a lot of things but generally if you don't feel right about something that is when, you either start drifting away from it or loose it immediately, and in this case a relationship where you don't feel respected or even an ounce of self respect by being with that person still.
@blueangelwrites (149)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
Say everything was right at the beginning and then, something just happened that made you loose respect for each other or yourself and it gets worse for every second you remain in that relationship still. Unless that is resolved then the best way would be to get out of the relationship than loose yourself for that.
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
I guess that is the reason why a lot of people say that one should love oneself first before loving someone else. If you enter a relationship with lack of respect for yourself, it will not be long that you would also leave the relationship for the same reason. 
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
How dishonest can he/she get? Because it is really common to lie about small things when it comes to relationships. For example, a friend of mine did not talk about bumping to her ex to her boyfriend because she said that she does not want to make a big deal about it since it does not really matter because what she did is just a courtesy hi to her ex. It is not exactly lying but still she hid that fact from him. It it forgive-able?
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
6 Feb 11
Each person has their own system for quantification of permissiveness mistakes committed by both partners in a relationship. Sometimes even we do not realize how much we go over and quietly accept the resignation and indifference, insults, reproaches, habit,lack of affection, irony and even manifestations of violence by men.But I think that if you get to feel at one with that once was the center of your universe, if your problems do not matter to him, if you laugh heartily for something insignificant, and it seems his worst thing in the world, if not being able to reach him, if you have forgotten how to enjoy it with all my heart, it means, that in that relationship beginning of the end is near.
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
So basically what you are trying to say is the absence of love is your limit. However, if you are married and you feel this things, I still believe you should give the marriage a chance to recover. Analyze why you feel that way first before giving up.
@Bengwayan (34)
•
7 Feb 11
Friend, the breaking point is when your broken heart cannot mend anymore, when you say to yourself when dawn comes,I hope this day is good; but it isn't. When the day comes that in your relationship, your partner cannot even take your hand for awhile and say to you you are my best friend, you cut and cut clean. If at all, flowers do not grow in gardens of stone -- how much you want to do it ALONE.
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
Just because you think your partner isn't your bestfriend anymore should not be a major issue in a relationship especially if you are married because at all costs you should try to make things work but of course there should still be limits.
@lexirose7350 (459)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
You are right, cheating can be tolerated but once a partner has hurt you physically or even verbally, then it's time to leave and no turning back. :)
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
I am not saying that we should tolerate cheating because for me if cheating is done for the first time, I can forgive it and let it go especially if I am married to the guy but if it will be repeated. It would be a really big reason to leave someone. 
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Feb 11
My breaking point would be if he stops listening to me. Because once he stops listening , I will stop talking and the distance and the indifference would start. I would stop caring about him and soon I would be looking for someone else to talk to that will listen and it will be over. But if he ever hit me, I would kill him!
@minnie15 (143)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Cheating, physical or verbal abuse to me or my children are breaking points for me. I will not tolerate either one. If they have respect for you, then none of this should occur. If this does happen, I will break off all ties and lose respect for them completely.
