Dating Online Friends

Philippines
February 6, 2011 10:23am CST
Have you tried having a date to someone you just know online? My previous relationship was merely a product of an online relationship. We lasted for more than 2 years which I can say a successful one, though we had to split up due to some personal reasons. The first date was a new experience for me. I was unease and couldn't even looked directly on his eyes.I was actually the opposite girl he was talking online. When we were talking, I was talkative and full of energy, however, when we've met, couldn't even answer a question with a yes or now. Funny, but the good thing was, he knew that it could happen, so at least , he was the one who broke the ice. My experienced might be different from you guys, wanna share it?
6 responses
• United States
7 Feb 11
I have never tried dating online, and I am not sure that I would do it. I know that it opens up a ton of possibilities that I might not ever meet offline, and by limiting myself to only people that I meet offline I could risk not meeting someone very special. Still, it would make me very nervous, and I am not sure that I would try it. I do know people that have met their partners through online dating. As with any relationship no matter how a couple first meets, some have worked while others have not. I so not think that their first encounter in person was any more uncomfortable than just walking into a bar or restaurant or whatever and approaching someone. In fact, I would think that it would be at least a little easier as you already know a lot about each other.
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
Oh yeah, that was I thought at first:P...but I think the feeling might be normal for some cases since when u met a person, you'll actually have a lot of questions and you might be asking whether will she/he likes me since the fact remains that online is really different from the real time. It may be scary and risky to meet someone, but I guess, taking risk is just part of our life. If everything goes fine, u'll be hapy, if not, then you'll be more wise next time:)
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• United States
7 Feb 11
I guess that any initial meeting can be uncomfortable or at least a little awkward no matter what, especially if you have never seen each other or talked over web cam or anything like that. In fact, when I think about it, the initial attraction in the bar is physical, which is just superficial, but at least you know it is there. If you do not feel the same "spark" when you meet someone in person that you have had a relationship with online for a while, then that can be devastating for both parties, especially if you have grown very close online.
@emine08 (1551)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 11
i donot have any experience in dating online. i donot know how it feels. but if you can stand for 2 years it sounds good loveneverfails. nice discussion...
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
Thanks for the post. Well it may be weird for some people I know...but hey, I've got a secret...to be honest, I haven't tried having a relationship to someone I've met in "real world", I don't know, I maybe too risky as what my friends usually tell but I guess, the excitement of knowing someone online fills me in. The best thing that I just keep in mind is, never expect too much and learn to guard yourself so whatver the outcome is, you wont get disappointed that much:)
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
6 Feb 11
Hi I have tried my best but could never find an online friend with whom i could date. But there is a funny incident i would like to narrate in this case. During that time, myself and my friend both were trying to find an online date. We were sending lot of invitations to various gurls. There was this gurl by last name Cornelius, whom my friend had sent invitation to, which i managed to over look. Since my friend used to send atleast 20-25 invitations everyday, he could not accurately remember all the details about the person to whom he had sent invitation. So i created a fake ID with cornelius and sent him a mail saying that I would like to be his fiends...and i had good fun for nearly 6 months at my friends expense.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
I had never tried online dating. I'm old school and would prefer doing the traditional one. I like the feeling of getting excited at the same time worried if I'm gonna make a fool of myself during the date. Even asking someone out for a date makes me a little nervous, but I like having that nervous feeling. For me, it means that the girl I'm gonna date is special. Online dating may give me those feelings but you it's harder to tell if a person is sincere when she's online, even if you're talking using a webcam.
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing. I certainly agree with you. One can create a personality online and you'll never know if its the real one or not, but I guess thats when meeting someone on real life comes in. It may be scary though if you've invested so much already, and found out that its not gonna work, but the good thing is atleast, you have tried:P
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
6 Feb 11
I have no such experience so far. But think that your the long short 2 years were so excellent and the duration of 2 suffocating years were the reason why when you met first were lost for every. I think even if I have such a relationship, I ever prefer to meet each other. Because our imaginary person would be far away from the actual one and immediately we will get disappointed and further you know what would be the result. Also, many such cases are ending with a sad split also is mainly because of this reason only. However, I wished for such a situation, but it never come true. Thank-s
• United States
6 Feb 11
When I was younger, I thought I could handle an online relationship, but each time I "attempted" one it didn't work out so well. Granted, I was barely 13 at the time, so I don't think I would consider that a "real" relationship anyway, since I barely knew what I was doing. I think it IS possible to meet people online and create a relationship with them...but I don't ever want to attempt that again. It was too difficult for me, and well, I simply don't need to because I have a boyfriend, haha. I have too many "experiences" to share, so I'd rather not list them. Let's just say, it was hard for me to trust...which is mostly why they failed. Or because the other person didn't like the idea of such long distances.