Friend disappeared
By thanks1961
@thanks1961 (7035)
India
25 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
6 Feb 11
There are some that at instant I will miss but certainly will not dwell upon as what happened. Then there are several that if I had no further contact I would be sadden as they have somehow become a close friend that although we have not met we have shared enough together to consider ourselves to be friends.
If I had no way of contacting the dear friends in the future I would be left with the wondering what ever happened and how could we somehow and or someday interact again.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Oh Ms. Hatley I was not a member at that time but after shortly signing up and interacting with you I instantly knew you were a very dear and wonderful lady.
Remember Ms. Hatley I was at my wits end and it was you who comforted me back to mental healthiness. So you would one of the several if missing I would cry and miss deeply. I would go on in life with every single minute praying and wondering for your safety.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 Feb 11
I know what you mean as when sidetick made all their changes I did not feel sad about my lost earnings but the disappearance of my elder friends and the fact that now I would not know their how they will be doing this time next year.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Feb 11
Is their profile gone too or are they just not active any more?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 Feb 11
Have you tried sending a PM?
I dislike the way the definition of 'friend' has changed since internet started. I know who my friends are and what their problems are and if one of my online friends went missing I would know how to contact them.
Many online 'friends' are nothing ore than names in a list
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
6 Feb 11
I agree with you Di. I don´t know how many "friends" I have here at mylot, but I only have a few friends. I´m happy, because that´s the way it has always been. I can remember what my friends do for a living, what they have told me about their interests (not the ones at mylot, but others too). I can even get closer or step back from time to time.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
6 Feb 11
Dear Thanks ! As I discussed many a times in the past on this forum that the members on Mylot are coming from almost all walks of life! Right from the youngsters who are students to the retired oldies , thy are here on this site! Similarly there are people from many professions and with varied jobs at their hands. I think almost all of them they are coming here just to have some good time, while making some cents on this site1 for most of them this site is just a place to relax!
I think if one is really busy from any urgent work or if he/she is facing any problem in their lives then such people tend to remain absent from this site for a moment as such things normally don't come in any one's priorities!
I would like to quote example of mine! I am one of the senior member of this forum. I am here on this forum right from its time of inception. If you look at my number of postings they are quite less for the duration I stayed on this forum! The reason for this is I was almost absent on this forum for more than two years. One year because of my brother in law who got his both the Kidneys failed. I had to get his Kidney transplanted and I was busy with that. Another year unfortunately I lost my father and I was not really feeling good to participate in this forum!
So What I mean to say is as we have several types of people on this forum , the problems associated with each must be different and under the pressure of personal problems many a times many members can't do it! May be your friend may be one of such unfortunate one, facing some personal problems!
Just have patience and keep on checking his/her profile to see he/she returns to the forum! Wish you all the best! Thanks !
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
8 Feb 11
Hi Dear Hatley! Thanks for commenting on my horse, which I believe is gaining popularity on this site, just for the courteous people like you who were keen on making him walk! At last to make you all happy my adamant horse has started walking!
I can understand your problem,hope this time your doctor will take care of your rash and it will be cured soon!
Please don't stay away from this forum and please get well soon and play an active role as usual! Wish you all the best including the best of health!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 11
hi just wanted to say your horse is moving pretty good there now. I have had a few missings too due to this ugly looking rash on my leg thats defied two doctors so far so this third one she claims she can cure it. glory if she does.yes life sometimes intrudes here and the last thing we can do is mylot when our life's falling down around our ears. lol lol.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 11
hi thanks I would feel sad and wonder why he or she left as maybe
someone hurt them here or maybe they were ill. When you get close to a mylot friend even if you do not get to met in person you build up
a rapport that upsets you when they go missing. so yeas I would feel
really sad and wonder just why they left.maybe your friend had
family troubles and will return soon. I was off for 11 months while we were evicted and my son was laid off until we got me in here so I had a ;place to live beside the streets,not free I pay for it out of my SSi check and Social Security checks and get back one hundred twenty five dollars for personal use.My son got gov help for single men out of work so they could have an address to give while hunting for jobs.so my son kept my accounting going by signing in for me from the local library.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
8 Feb 11
Dear ladies, wonderful sons...are reflections of wonderful parenting, and so with that said...I ask all you wonderful Mothers to take a bow, wear with pride, the honor that your (our son"s) are bestowing upon us! All that they are giving you..is a reflection of what you gave them! YOU deserve bragging rights, ladies and I say all this with deep honor to my son..too! Cheers!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Feb 11
Hatley does have a wonderful son. just like mine
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 Feb 11
What a fine young man you raised Ms. Hatley as he would do anything to assure your safety and happiness.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Feb 11
i do so wish i could figure a way to find out about my friend. i have pm'd him but if hes not coming here at all that does no good.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
8 Feb 11
bunnybon7...My prayers that today will be a good day! Am thinking of you, and sending blessings!
I am wondering if we are thinking of the same friends..one that resides in Australia, and one in Sweden, as I think that before we became friends, I saw you on both of their discussions...I PM'd the one in Sweden, more than 10 days ago now, and have had NO reply...and I PM'd the one in Australia, just yesterday! I think Australia, could be serious weather related issues...I checked his profile! If either of these two respond...I will surely let you know.
I am absolutely thankful that you have a shoulder to lean on today! Please let us know, how all goes. Prayers for you...dear one!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Feb 11
yes hes in sweden, so it is probably that one./ hugs, bon yes im going in about an hour to that appointment. thanks
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
I don't know you both are aware of a case similar to this. Last month one of our fiend were asking about a couple (some doctor) they gone for for their vocation in some remote place and afterwards they never contacted. May be some personal reasons. But as long as we are in long time relations and when we feel that there is no link about those people always feel missing. Here also the case is the same.
Thank-s
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Feb 11
Hi Thanks,
I am quite worried about one at MyLot and he is missing since many days now. He was at MyLot around New year but that was the last time we met... It was quite freezing temperatures at his place and I am really worried. And No we werent friends for long as I am only 13 months here
I have planned out this to try to do my part for sure -
1. I am going to send out PMs to all those who are dear to me asking them for their email IDs or phone numbers or maybe both. I promise never to spam them or call them unless I think necessary.
C'mon, It is Internet no doubt but these are real people at that end and we do have some fondness between us so if we just take one step ahead from both ends, we can turn this virtual friendship into reality.
PS. I already sent my cell number to you
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
hello dear,
don't ya worry,the wind will surely whisper that i am just around in any case i am no longer around.
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
people at mylot come and go. you miss old ones but new ones come along. i miss a bunch of good and intelectual people but there are new ones to come. and i gained more as well. but some people here has communications already and some people here knows already other peoples personal emails. so if you are having quite good friends here already why not ask them their email accounts so you can communicate with them too out of mylot. in that way you wont miss them much.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dear,
Also, though I feel like asking for the mail id, I didn't come forward for it. By any chance, if they found unwilling or deny to give the id, I feel bad on this. So, it is better to have a good relation over here and we cannot tell when they will change the colour. After all, we don’t know anything at all other than the sweet discussions on myLot. Thank you so much for your response.
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dear,
Yes, you are right. People comes in and goes out. Some time we they will come with a speed of 120-140, just take a reverse with the same speed. That is why I said, few of them were in such a continuous contact and suddenly shhhhhh – gone.
Also, though I feel like asking for the mail id, I didn’t come forward for it. By any chance, if they found unwilling or deny to give the id, I feel bad on this. So, it is better to have a good relation over here and we cannot tell when they will change the colour. After all, we don’t know anything at all other than the sweet discussions on myLot. Thank you so much for your response.
Thank-s
@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 11
I would be like....erm...where did he go? Haha!~Well, every one has their commitments & responsibilities in life so I wouldn't be too upset about it. I too just recently returned after....2 or 3 years being absent? But I think I did inform some of the people...erm..I hope I did...Hahaha!~
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dear,
Yes, that is the spirit – ‘you think you did inform’ – that is all. This is called excellence and manners. Whenever you take a break and at least you bothered of to intimate someone who you got a regular talk. See, here got completed and this the way it should work. You may be wondering where are those who used to be with you in those days. Has anyone still active or could you find someone who identified again when you stepped into? It is my curiosity to know. You would appreciate, if you can give a one word response to it.
Thank-s
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
12 Feb 11
Hi dear,
It is due to your integrity. I think you are a well mannered person.
Keep it up.
Thank-s
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Yes, I think something like of that sort could be the reason. Because in the last discussion also there were no mention of anything unusual and really normal. It could be internet access issues, or must have separated with myLot. With their own interest is not possible. As of today, I don't have any reason to stop it and tomorrow I am not with myLot, people can imagine something like that.
In fact, when I registered with myLot I did it through my official id and now they made restrictions on myLot also. Just like many other sites, myLot also blocked. Whenever I tried to send a response to my email, (friends responded), it will not go and the I will get a warning. I felt so bad on that that is the reason why I am not responding to anyone who mail me with their comments.
Sometime I really feel very sorry that I could say a word of thanks also. I can start new comments with a different browser. However, it will get sent out but the warning will still appear. I just ignore the same and let me see how long. As the restriction is from the US office, the local IT people can't do anything.
Now I am responding from home and I have to sit late to comment all the responses.
Thank-s
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
hello thanks,
If that mylotter is one of my close friend (online) and have constant/regular inter-actions with topic/discussion here in my lot ,i would surely feel sad about the absence.
Until now i never forget one mylotter who deleted his account last year ,for whatever reason,it's not clear to me coz i never had the chance to know him well.
He started good topics,and also good in commenting back (argue sometimes)so sad i never come to know him well and then his gone.
There is nothing like "forever" but the word alone.
People/friends come and go,constant changes in everything (people do change).
Thu it really feels sad to know that someone you count as friend will disappear without any warning.
Did you lost one?
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dear,
Let me start from the last – I think I lost one.
As mentioned, there may be of various reasons. You had your best friend here and moved off, yes it happens and but while moving off, just a one lien word would be sufficient, sadly, not even that. If I am the person, if myLot got deleted the account also, I will enter into with a totally new avatar and will come back with still more power.
Anyway, we don't know what actually happening with such people. Also, people may come here with a lot of exceptions. One part, of course, it is money, which doesn't contribute as expected, can be a genuine reason. They will feel best on the part on discussions and debates, but once they realize that whatever they did does not contribute to the extent what they expected, the desire would create a gap, which many would not like to disclose and one they get better opportunities, they will go back by given a last full stop to all, but not TATA, which they don’t even think it is required. Hope it may not, but can be 1% of chance? Let’s hope they would come back on day….
Thank-s
@craftyhomebody (443)
• United States
7 Feb 11
maybe there computer went down and they cannot afford another one or
something has happen in their lifes that they dont have time any more
for my lot
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dears,
Yes, sometime things happening like this, we should think in such a way. They may be having some problems so that they are unable to contact. It should be something genuine otherwise, after few days of break, such people should any way will come back. Even I think they will come back once they sort out their issues.
Thanks for your comments.
Thank-s
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
7 Feb 11
Hi thanks: This has also happened with some of my friends here in Mylot. Some of them used to participate a lot and I really enjoy to respond their discussions and suddenly they stop participating on the site. I don't know what happened with them because I don't even know their names. Maybe they have problems, I don't know. That's the sad part of a relationship online I think.
ALVARO
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
You are really right. There may be some reason which made them to keep away from here. Even in your case also, whenever you appear, I feel some kind of relax and I always give preferences to read your comments. It always sooth me so nicely and the innocence is ways pop up on your comments like your smile.
It is true that we don't know each other except an avatar photo. But it seems that you are a friend of mine for a long period. Sometime if we meet each other somewhere, we may not have much to speak or sometime there may be a lot of things to speak. As we all are regular in discussions with the same topic, someone come with a topic would feel that it is an issue of our own home and all the members are commenting their views. I think if we were here for about 6-7 years, many peoples issues and problems were common for all of us and when I relate this discussion part to our real life matter, it is really looks nice and wonderful.
Thank-s
@sardonyx777 (450)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
Hello thanks,
I would feel sad especially if that friend is really a friend by heart and not just a cliche friends in the list. There are many factors to consider for being inactive or gone in here. We will be missing their ideas and views because as we read them everyday we seems to know them deeply though we never know them personally. In my case, though am yet 4 months old in here but i only have few to consider a friend and if ever they're gone for some reason then i will be lonely and felt left behind but this is life like in the real world. There was a time that i never come to mylot for a couple of days for some reasons but the most of it are the comments wherein we can read the comparison of mylotters before and at present.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dear,
Thank you for your nice views. Yes, our regular talks make us really much closers. In fact I don't know who it was. But, given me a lots of guidance, promoted me, given straight and confidence and above all, a very good commentator also. When we are in such a contact and all of a sudden, there is no mention about such a person makes a lots of gas and silence around. As you said, there may be some genuine reason like not access to internet, where it totally gets off from the contact. Of such similar reasons would be behind this.
Still expecting that the person would be back soon. If we keep away for 2-3 days, we can understand that it is common and it happens also. But for a long time means I think I missed....
Nice to talk to you and have a nice day.
Thank-s
@margeryann (1845)
• United States
8 Feb 11
You never know they might of just started getting too busy to do this anymore and maybe they will be back when they aren't so busy. You never know though different things happen to people.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dear,
I think it cold be. We all are having various issues or problems so that cannot be alike at all times. Someone from home may not keeping well, gone for some emergency, important work which keep away from computers or anything like that. We should understand that all such things are common and when such emergencies comes up it may not be able to communicate or give any predictions also. Hope it could be something like and may come back after they become alright.
Thanks for your comments.
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi dear,
Hopefully think they would be around and will come back on a fine morning. For many, when the circumstances changes - like getting new job, change of job, study pressure, work burden and so many other situations would lead to such situations. However, if they are sure of such things, just come and say a word that I am into it and may be see you some time – a word like this make a lot of difference.
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Yes, that is what - not only because of closeness, it was fun to talk to them and a kind of go ahead mentality. The sad part is that they are really missing and nothing to worry, somebody will taker over the same in the flow. We can wait and see...
Regards,
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
6 Feb 11
Hi dear,
Let it be just for a discussion only, still, think will we do the same in our real life also. Here any way it is online friends only, or do you think this online friends are just an instrument than real friends. As we all are peeping from the computers from somewhere does it mean that we all are having any heart?
I know many are here within their busy times only. College students and school girls, within their studies and office goers, house wives and even retired people are here at their special times with myLot. Ok, it is upto them, ....
Thank-s
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@petersum (4522)
• United States
6 Feb 11
A lot of regular users have suddenly disappeared! If there isn't a monster eating them, there must be another explanation. Unfortunately there is a monster of sorts here. It's called "lacking quality". We have a huge amount of members but very few are actually active. I have had to wait over 15 minutes for a new discussion to appear on numerous occasions recently. Then what comes? Either a repeat topic that you just know will be deleted, or a bunch of dribble that doesn't make any sense.
It is very rare that I find ten discussions to respond to in four hours or more!
In short, mylot has become too time consuming with little return. So I fully understand why members get disillusioned and leave. I, myself, will consider this option very soon when I get my payout.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
8 Feb 11
The company know that there would be more junk than 'quality' and that is the reason why they are upto Q. You are right and some time used feel they are come with query to have some query purposes only. As you said, many of them are repetitive and duplicates or similar ones. No one keep a track of whether the same topic has discussed or have any relevance to the topic or really need to come with such topics.
All they care is to come up with something and some times feel that they don't even expecting a response even. In fact I initially I used to come with a lot of recommendations, suggestions, and many more to the admin but they don't even care of it. There were practical solutions for the issues that you mentioned at the end. But unless they are taken care of such things, people like you will never be a part of myLot.
myLot has so much of unique advantages. But if they could come with time to time competencies, it could have come on the top levels with some other major sites. But our recommendations will remain as it is and I think their thinking is so conservative and not so adaptive. However, they might have certain in-principle logic and method within their framework and still they are implementing.
We can just wait and see.
Thanks for your nice works and best regards,
Thank-s
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@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
I feel sad, I have this kind of connections with my myLot friends and if one is missing, it seems the feeling is not complete. As if some part of me is missing too. Friends being absent also made me curious, ask myself,hey,what's happening? Any problem? I am worried ,too, and hope someday I will find them again, responding and being active again here with the group!
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
This just happened to me recently. He was a newbie and really was quite active and he really have interesting discussions. I have really good discussions with him. Then he just wasn't here anymore. It was really sad. But that's just part of life. People come and go here at Mylot because maybe they have something else to do in the real world. I myself haven't been here in two months. When friends just disappear, you always wonder what happened to them and hope you will able to meet them again here at Mylot.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Feb 11
Yes,
That is what. All depend on the relationship what we maintain. May be it is he/she, never mind, when the relationship is healthy and when they disappear without even having a mention, it hurts. Whatever may be the reason, if they also think in such a way, they will always remember to say a word – like anything. However, I should realize that this is such a platform that whatever we feel as good can change in any shape at any point of time.
Regards,
Thank-s