Is too much pampering children good..?

Hmmm... I think we should balance it, pamper and punish(of course not physically), I have a little 4 months old, I do buy him toys and stuff but I think he is sitll too small to tell if I will pamper him too much or not. I think parents should do both in order to let them know when they do right and when they do wrong.

I think it is bad. Because the child never learns how to distinguish between bad and good, and they know that their parents will always support them on bad decisions. Which makes them do anything they feel like!

Dear Chayapathys , I fully agree with you! Like any thing in excess is dangerous, pampering the children in excess is also can become dangerous! I too have seen parents supporting their children in every matter and unnecessarily pampering them even they are right which makes them unruly and notorious ones! I feel when ever any kid commits some mistake he should be reprimanded about it and he should be told about the mistake and explain him how this mistake of his can reciprocate his image in the society. Instead of doing so if parents simply pamper such child then this child can turn out to be a useless adult who can become burden on the society. I am from India here the male child is pampered more in most of the families though we say that Indian society has got progressed. The male child still gets priority and he is spoiled by over pampering. This is often done by the mothers. The fact may not be applicable every where but most of the cases I have seen this thing happening. Getting the things what ever kids they want without thinking twice if the thing demanded was correct or not, giving a lot of pocket money, giving vehicles like motor cycles at under age are some of the things which are responsible for spoiling a child at younger age! If you see the crimes conducted in Cities , it will be astonishing to note young boys from well to do families are involved in crimes like robbery, Chain snatching,bank loot etc. just because they want to have a luxurious life without doing any hard work, as they were never taught what is hard work by their parents! In nut shell I think, for every body their children are loving ones and we should love them and fulfill all their timely needs. But in the name of love if we over pamper these kids then it would be nothing more than spoiling these kids as I have said at the beginning - 'Any thing in excess is dangerous and Pampering is no exception for it!' Thanks !

Hi! Pampering kids too much? Not good at all. They will not going to be a good adult in a future.I can guarantee that. As a parents, they should not let their children that way as if the children is not misbehaved in front of them they may do that to other person.

Supporting our children is one thing and pampering them is another thing. We should support our children to the best of our ability but the children should know their limit as well as the parents. Limit should be a standard you set with your children that you think is enough that they will not go over board with you as parent. Pampering is for showing how much you love and care for them but should not be taken negative by children. Over all, its up to the parents who should set the standards.

i think pampering is bad. i hated growing up with my cusins because my aunt never punished them not matter what they did. for instance one time my cusin got mad at me so he he me in the hip with a sludge hammer and all she did was say joey dont do that again. if that was my kid he would have recieved punishment. now he is in and out of jail and i have never been in trouble.

They say that too much or too less of anything is bad. Therefore we parents must know how and when to give the love and pampering our children should have. Discipline is an act of love and you should do this at all times that they need it. We don't need to be harsh, i am sure they will get the message of when and how to be spoiled, to do things in the right way all the time.

Hi Chayapathys, I think just like you. A lot of pampering is not correct. I have three children, 12, 10 and 8. By times and with all the house work, and life stress I feel tired. And by times I don´t want to argue with them. But it is lack of energy, not lack of ethics. But my husband helps me when I ask him for. I´ve been a stay at home mom, ever. When I´m energy charged, and I saw a wrong behavior I correct them. But trust me, by times I feel just too tired. I don´t have sisters to support me in anyway. My parents are divorced, and for many years my mother couldn´t support me neither. My life in the last 13 years has been my family and my church. I don´t want to raise worthless adults. They are good behavior kids. They are A students, they have scholarships, they play tennis... I try to do my best. Blessings... Dainy

I do feel like children need to get praise when they have done something right. I also feel that they need to be disciplined and they need to have their wrong actions explained to them when they have done something wrong. That said, I think that I would be doing a disservice to my children as a parent if I was to support my children even when they make decisions that aren't the decision that they should be making in their lives.

I really don't thing pampering the children too much is good. Also the same with not giving them any attention too. I've seen many kid being pampered and all, but it does not mean that they grow up being a uselss adult in this world. Its always the decision of the people whether they want to be useless or not. Possibly this pampered kids will have late maturities because all their lives they've been with someone who will them when they are in trouble. Lets not judge the parents, they just wanted everything for their kids. Well, supporting their kids even if they are wrong is not really good. Kids need to have spine with their bodies and lets just hope that they will change to become a wonderful person in the world.

Yes, you are right. Generally , those too much pampered children grew up to be braggarts and waywards. If we love our children, we should do a bit of pampering and a bit of disciplining. We praise them if they do good but we also reprimand them if they do bad. That way, they will grew up to be good children.

It is always good to be harsh at times, because if we fulfill all their desires, they will not be encourged at all, my sons are earning, but hubby still gives them money when they really need, we have to behave with them like friends, when they are grown up adults.. nice, timely discussion, cheers, kalyani

it's not good at all.. my baby get irritation on his back because too much pampering. now i just pampering my son only once a day, in the midnight when he sleep..

I think pampering kids too much is bad. My step daughter has this knack for not paying attention to what she is doing or not listening and because of this she has broken alot of our dishes and cost us money by "forgetting" to return a movie. Also she has failed spelling tests because she "forgot" to bring home her word list. I think that telling her "oh its ok dont worry about it" would hurt her alot because what if she "forgets" to do part of her job when shes older? she will be fired and she wouldnt know any better because me and her father havent taught her any better. (im not sure if i really understood your question so im sorry if this has no relation to your topic.)

If I'm given a chance to have kids, I'll definitely want to teach them right or wrong. I want them to be ready for themselves when they got old. How will they learn if parents were tolerating the wrong ones. I know in US, that hitting kids is illegal but here in the Philippines it is already part of parents way in teaching kids. I know that it's not a good idea but as a person who also experienced this way back childhood I think it help me shaping my mind between right or wrong. I don't agree too much pampering they will not totally learn. Have a nice day!

The word "too much" itself says something wrong. Strong character should be built from the start, while they are kids, so that when children grow they will be a better person.

Everyone deserves a little pampering every now and then. When we pamper someone too much, we take away their willingness to do something for themselves. Everyone needs a little room to grow, this doesn't mean that everything should be done for children. Otherwise, how can they become individuals?

For me it is good so that they want to know how to be good manner in all his time when they get old.

Pampering your children is a great thing to do, as it does make them better individuals, once they know they have security in what they need and want. Although, too much pampering can lead to people thinking that since they have it all, why should they put any effort in to anything? Pampering your children is only good to a certain extent.

I think too much pampering will not do them any good. Though we love our children and would love to give them everything and close our eyes everytime they do something wrong.It's just not right. Not doing so will resolve them into being more independent and responsible. They should take ownership of their actions. Also doing so will just make them spoiled brats.