When and why children go wrong..?

I think, all of that is affecting factors in childrens growing ups behavior. For me, it's okay that our children may expose in those affecting factors because in those they will build their maturity,.. they will know what is right and wrong,.. they will feel emotions that will make them a real persons of virtue and values. Guidance & protection is what they're needed from us being their parents.

All that i can say is, we must give them proper guidance from childhood, we call it 'Sanskar' in hindi, they learn good things but some may not, it is their luck, we did our duty, leave rest to god.. thanks for this discussion cheers kalyani

I really think that it might be a combination of all of these things. However, I also think that even if children are around other children that have very bad habits, those things can be thwarted if they have an open line of communication with their parents. My daughter has come home with some stories that are hard for me to believe that an eight year old would come home with, but because of the fact that she and I are able to talk to one another, it hasn't impacted her being negatively.

The things that children learn from their parents before the age of 6-7 years are more fundamental. Things learned at this stage are difficult to unlearn even if some of them are proved to be wrong. However, habits acquired in a later stage also has significant contribution in shaping the personality of children. Excessive care is same as overprotection, which harms the psychology of a child. However, there is a need to show your affection to the children, because it makes them more kind and sensible. But excessive affection can also spoil the child. There are psychiatrists who are experts in this matter. Parents should ask for help whenever they need it. Sometimes children give their parents tough times. The parents should try to think straight to find out some logical solution. Little bit of patience can come in handy.

Children learn from what they see, when others do, and they see, they will try to do the same. So, what the parents need to do is to teach them what are right and what are wrong. And correct them immediately when found that they are wrong. It is good to start to do that when they are still under nursery stage and when they started to go to school, parent will have less and less time to monitor them, and that is the time the earlier education on the moral part works.

Yes, it's tough. Once they get to a certain age, it can seem difficult to change anything or help them. I have a 13 year old and her behaviour has become challenging in the past few months. It's difficult but I'm hoping that it's just a "passing phase"! hehehe!

That is true. Young children get affect by their parents and surrounding since very young age. They will act like others around them. If they are in a good environment, they will more likely to grow up be to a good person, but if they grown up in a bad place, it is more likely they will become bad guys or have some bad habits. That why there are a lot of parents choose their house in a clean, educated, peace place to arise their children.

on my own point of view about children, as long as you treated your children as a child at their age... they will act to be like real children... but as long as you talked to them as if you are equal, they will build some sort of self-confidence, and term "communication" will be emphasized... as a result they will seized your opinion, and value every words you say, because your child will think that you are always there, even sometimes you aren't with him/her physically. What i am trying to say by talking with them as if you were equal, is somewhat you were promoting good friendship between you and your children... "open communication" is the best way to entangle your child with every words you say, thus, i believed the main reason why children act rude at the very young age is because they only seek some attention, they are rude not because they are bad... at the very young age,,, children doesn't actually know what is bad and what is good, not unless someone taught them. you will understand what i am saying, if you were spending most of your time with children... at the same time observing them.. cheers please feel free to add me up

I think alot of what kind of person a child grows up to be is reflected in the home environment they were raised in. If you tell your daughter go pick up your room, she may do it, but that's not teaching her manners. Please and thank you should be something that's always in your vocabulary when talking to a young child. As a parent you should also make sure that you keep a close bond with your little one, and not be afraid to talk about the difficult things in life. Tell them what kind of people you would like to see them hanging out with, but don't force them either. Let them choose. Commend them when they bring home a friend who seems like a good person and commend their friend for being one as well. It shows your child that they did a good thing by choosing this person to hang out with. Likewise let them know how you feel about the other, not so great, people they bring home. When it comes to your child learning things from other children you have to realize that not all kids are raised the same. Your child may decide to hang out with someone that your not so fond of, but this is a big lesson learned. All you can do is hope that they wont pick up too many bad habits and you never know, maybe the other child will take on some of your kid's good habits. Every child has there rebellious period in life but ultimately every child will turn into the person there meant to be with good guidance and love and stability from there parents no matter who they choose for friends. You are the most influencial person in your little one's life.