What are the basic essentials while in any kind of relation?
By pringu
@pringu (151)
India
February 7, 2011 11:41am CST
Relation could be of any kind. A lover relation, a brother-sister relation, a father-son relation etc. Let me raise my opinion on emotional relation. According to me, care and affection are the basic emotional attributes that are needed in a relation. If your significant other feels that you care for him/her, the relation could start sprouting well and eventually go the distance, Similarly, when in a relation, if either of the partners feel they are deeply affectionate with each other, then too the relation could go the distance. So, in my opinion care and affection are the basic essentials for a long lasting relation! Do you feel the same way too?
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@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
I truly agree with you Pringu that basically care and affection is what you need for a relationship to go the distance. You will not be in a relationship without these two. However, as any relationship move forward, something at some point will stand in the middle of it. If persons involved can not handle this obstacle because of differences, then that could be a problem. I believe that aside from love, people in a relationship must also posses an open mind. An open mind in general will help you deal with things that is yet to come. From an intimate relationship to marriage, things will never be the same. Of course if you truly love each other, the love will always remain. But in the long run, things that you think you know about your partner might not turn out to be of what you expect them to be. And in this case, without an open mind to accept the things in front of you, I believe that things will not go well with the relationship.
@pringu (151)
• India
7 Feb 11
Hii jhaidro, i truely agree to that other point you made where either of the partners should be open in their relationship. No relation will go the distance if the partners start hiding things from their significant other. Also, accepting your partner as what he/she is, is another thing which drives a relation forward. You should never try and change him/her. Accept the way they are and realizing that you accept them for what they are could be so pleasing to them, Eventually this leads to a better love relation.
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
I have always been amazed of the saying "opposites attract". I was a bit skeptical of it before but having experienced it myself, I do not doubt it in anyway. Maybe sometimes we just needed something or someone more than what we already are that is why we see someone so different from us so interesting. At times we just go outside the box and try to explore more. In the process, we meet someone who would change everything but in a good way. They influence us in bunch of ways that makes us so attached to them. Before we know it, we got ourselves into a beautiful tale of love.
@pringu (151)
• India
8 Feb 11
I'm surprised by the fact that you are amazed by the saying 'opposites attract'. In my opinion there isn't anything special in that since that is the basic rule of nature. Man gets attracted to women and women gets attracted to men. But then these days there are lots of other way lovers too. But that's what people do when they go crazy. By your words i get a feeling that you are in a relation where your significant other have given you something more out of the box :) Anyways keep it rolling well friend!
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
hi there, i totally agree with you. because if you care about your girlfriend and you boyfriend, a lot of things already follow, like because you care you wont ever cheat, keep secret from him or her and all that. and also by being affectionate to him/her, you keep the relationship secured and just last as long as both of you feel the same, not that the other one loves sooo much and the other one loves less. it doesn't work like that. and also i would like to add communication. talk to each other so that you don't lose that "interest" feeling from each other. this is just my opinion, but i think it works hehehe for now lol but i hope it does really because my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 7 years now, and we are working on it....
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
thank you, and speaking of distance, its a long distance relationship now. because he lives and works in the US now while i just graduated from college here in Asia, getting my papers taken cared of so i can go there and be with him already :) i hope it happens very soon. he came home last December and just went home to the US 3rd week of January this year. :( thanks again and Happy MyLotting :)
@pringu (151)
• India
7 Feb 11
Hi cherish, nyc to have your response. I agree totally that communication is another factor on which a relationship thrives. You definitely will lose interest if enough communication ain't there. Hope you and your boyfriend lets your relation go the distance :).
@akangirl (2436)
• India
8 Feb 11
Care and affection are important attribute no doubt but one needs trust, love and understanding to carry forward any relation.If we love someone then we will automatically care for them , trust them and even without saying a word understand each other.
@pringu (151)
• India
8 Feb 11
Hi akangirl, i agree to what you think but saying that there are certain areas in a relation where care and trust don't go hand in hand. I would like to debate on what you just said a bit! To care your partner you definitely need to be affectionate to him/her but care usually doesn't need the help of trust or understanding. In other words, care n affection go hand in hand while trust n understanding are the attributes which probably go hand in hand. Think for a while buddy, and you could make up that one don't need to have trust to care a person :). Do you agree to it?
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
8 Feb 11
There are just some things that every relationship needs to survive. these things are caring, love, trust and commitment. Without these things, a relationship has a much tougher road to travel to achieve success.
@elena1969 (153)
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8 Feb 11
Yes I feel the same too.I have a sister And brother which I really love and care about them so much that I will die to save them if they are in some kind a dangerous situation.I don't see Anthony wrong with that,and also there are not so much people in the world who care so much about their relatives as much as I and you.
@pringu (151)
• India
8 Feb 11
Hi elena, good to hear that you care your bro and sis in the way you do. These days, finding a relation where care and affection exist is almost nil. Every person goes primarily for his/her own interests and seldom care of their siblings or parents. In short people are more selfish these days than in early times. This evetually leads to less attachment to those who you really should be and results in drastic consequences.
@lexirose7350 (459)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
Yes care and affection is important in any relationship, aside from that i think is trust.Any relationship without trust could break in the end.Open communication as well plays a big part in any relationship.
