Poor communication kills.

well after i read trough ur comment about the poor communication skills i think u misunderstood the concept of communication not only u but most of the people do . ok first of all communication have many type of it , and verbal is one of it others type like writing , email, letters, memos and face book are some of the few. if people don't listen to u then u should use more formal type , make it black and white , use memos/letters . so u have prove , ok i already have memos for u so they cannot pretend not to notice it , even better if u ask the person to read the letter fist and ask them if they understand and then sign the letter .

Dear megamatt, I must say that the "not listening" part is a chronic behavior in people our day. I always felt that listening to the other talk is something, if not of interest, at least of good manners. In fact I am considered a good listener, because even if I don't find the subject useful or attractive, I am always keeping my eyes on the speaker, i complete his breathing breaks with a gesture, or a nod, or a humming. And if i feel he needs to speak more about that, I help with a question to show him i'm interested and present in the conversation. What I'm a little frustrated about, is that most of my interlocutors start to look away, if the subject i talk about is not interesting to them, or let their minds fly to other things, which is something I wouldn't mind or notice, except they interrupt me when I'm in the middle of a phrase, to tell me something totally irrelevant to our discussion. And that even if I had listen to them patiently many times. When that happens i learned to resign myself and concentrate on their new problem. It wouldn't help if I'd try to bring them back to my subject.

When you mentioned poor communication I thought of how, these days, many folks don't know how to talk to each other. The art of articulation is dying. It used to be that people, at least, minimally cared about their fellow human beings feelings and about how they portrayed themselves to others. And, there was a right way to talk to people and a wrong way. You thought about what you said, before you said it. And, you paid attention to your tone and the use of words that you used. Words like "please" and "thank you" and "may I" (instead of can I) and "Hello" and "How are you doing" were part of everyday communications. These days people just spit out whatever's on their mind, even though they may offend. However, this is not exactly the topic of your post. You are right, part of communication is listening. And, good communication means actually hearing what the other person is saying. But, I think that sometimes we are so wrapped up in our own thoughts that we don't even hear what the other person is saying to us. I know it sounds like a fantasy. But, we need to get to a point where we care about our fellow human being. This, in itself, will help us communicate better with each other.

Hi megamant: I agree with you on the fact that we have this real problem that concern us all. Sometimes people fight because, what they believe to hear was not what the other person was really saying and that sometimes problems could be solve and even not exist if we listen what the other people tell us. We should improve communication on our daily relationships. ALVARO

Could not agree more with you, megamatt. We fail to listen to what is being said and even to those that are not said. Sometimes one has to listen to those that remain unsaid. And we should not presume the intention and meaning behind what is said. Sometimes, we have our own interpretation of what is being said, getting it all wrong. And we wonder why? Sigh! We should be sensitive and attentive to what is being conveyed, true. Perhaps, things will be better all around if we do. Nice reminder, megamatt.

I agree with you. Sometimes people tend to switch off and not bother to listen or take in what others are saying to them. As you said, you never know when something you have been told could be vital but yet as you never bothered to pay attention then it creates a bigger problem as you were not listening the first time. It seems it is like some people acting as though they are back at school, where they never always listened to what was said to them and you missed out on learning so much, this then is the same when older, if you don't listen you don't learn and could missout on things or it may cause problems for yourself or for others. Best thing to do when someone tells you something, is to listen, if it is not that important thn fine, but some things could be important, best not to block out and ignore what people say to you, it is a good way to learn things by listening to what others have to say.