I really mad at myself, because I was scammed by friends and others many times
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
February 9, 2011 4:10pm CST
Well, there were many flash back, and I was mad at myself this moment. How could I that stupid, and easily trust on other people. I don't know who said such phrase, "Trusting people is a risky investment." Don't you agree? I definitely agree on this saying.
There were friends I thought that they were good friends. At the end they turn out to be scamsters, and scam me on money too, even though I treat them kindly and trust them 100%. One girl I like, she also done the same, and I was too stupid that I thought she can love me back if I treat her kindly. And many other cases that I was the victim involve in money mostly. Now, I should teach myself on this, never be kind to people, especially strangers. Money matter be cautious, and never trust any of them. A cold hard lesson I learn from the past, and I would want all of you to know, trusting people is a risky business too. Guide yourself high, and don't get hurt.
8 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
9 Feb 11
I believe when it comes to money and friends it simply does not mix. As sometimes money makes people do evil things and harm us while all the while we do not deserve it. So we can love, and care for people however we need to keep our money away from the relationships.
@Marmot (590)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I think a small amount money mostly will not hurt friendship, but a huge amount will probably another situation. In my country, friends often borrow a small amount money from each other and return back in time. So, I think lend money to a friend is ok, but if the amount is big, make sure that this guy you are really trust and he has the ability to return back.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
9 Feb 11
I'm very sorry to hear that. I can't say I've fallen for money scams from friends, but from business opportunities floating around online. However, I have been USED before to help with living expenses by people I can't consider friends as they most definitely didn't care a whit about me. That was a terrible time, and like you have learned the same lesson. Don't let yourself become mean or unkind, nor shut out everyone, though. It's too bad the folks you considered as friends took advantage of you; there are others out there who are trustworthy. I hope you'll find better people as friends, and recoup your money in some other way. As for the girl who spurned you, love doesn't work that way. Showing someone you love her doesn't mean you get loved back. It's a different matter altogether about money, though.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
10 Feb 11
well, I hope those people who scam me before should deserve their ending. You know what I said, what goes around comes around. They will get what they deserve.
@solandgel (35)
• China
10 Feb 11
I agree with parts of your. Well, I also have the same experience with you when I graduated from university, one of my best friends told me there was a good opportunity to earn money, but need to invest 3000 RMB at first, at that time, I totally trusted my friend and don't hesitated to give him money. After going to his place, I found that just was a hoax. You knew how I felt at that moment. But even I had such experience, I belive that most people hav good morality, on the other hand, yourself should watch carefully when make friends with other people. Hope you get better soon!
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
For me be in mind to the time you re to spend in the form of business.
@Marmot (590)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I am sorry to hear your story. But I think most people are good. I have heard that friends cheat others on money, but not so many. I have a lot of friends and they all good person. I trust them and they trust me too. However, there are scamsters. When we unfortunately have those people as friends, we just do not trust them for a second time.
@Lucyalicia92 (670)
• United States
10 Feb 11
so what now your not going to trust anyone ever again because of this one person? just be more cautious about giving away money, even if you trust the person.
@dolor2309 (57)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I understand where you're coming from but for me, I pretty much draw the line when it comes to money and friends...We don't borrow money from each other or take loans from each other, I don't know but I think there is an unspoken rule about that in our circle. And I think it's working pretty good for us because we don't have money conflicts...Although I do know someone who's being abused by her friends and keep borrowing money from her just because they all think she has a good job amongst all of them and it seems to me that borrowing in their dictionary is tantamount to giving as in they have no plans at all to return it...
@NoWayRo (1061)
• Romania
10 Feb 11
Hi kingparker,
You should not be mad at yourself, this only shows you have a kind and trusting nature, and that is the way we should all be. If anything, you should be mad at those who took advantage of you, but better yet, try not be angry with anybody, things done in the past cannot be changed, and instead, take it as a lesson and keep your money away from any acquittance or friend.
The world is full of scammers, and in many cases, there is nothing we can do, only learn our lesson and move on.
