How do you deal with people who always change their minds?

Well you definitely should not be working for free! That may even be unlawful as far as reporting it to the labor board or something. I know when I worked full time, my company was actually investigated one time due to being suspected of not always giving their employees the proper breaks and lunch. It got to the point where we were REQUIRED to clock out and we could not even work through our lunches for awhile because there was some nosy person who reported they weren't getting their required benefits lol.

Hi Mommyboo, the labor law in our country is different. It protects mainly those in the low income bracket. Most of the office staff are out of the range of the labor law. The fast food workers, the supermarket cashiers, the factory operators, the cleaners and other workers with low basic salary are protected. The normal working hour per week is 44 hours. Overtime payment for overtime work, up to a maximum of 72 hours per month. However, for those of us in office environment, as long as our salary is a dollar above the $2000, our bosses can require us to work till midnight, and need not pay a single cent.

Hi Mommyboo, if the company pays overtime for extra work, I would not mind so much. In fact, I may even feel glad that the boss keeps changing her mind, so that we can earn extra. However, I hate it when we need to stay back and work for free. That will really get me into a bad mood, if it happens again and again. I agree that it is not worth the hassle to deal with people who are wishy washy. I will not make appointments with those friends if I can avoid it. I think using text messenging service is good enough to keep our friendship afloat.

Hi Jlyn, just the other day, my friend made me wait two hours for her. I was really boiling mad. From my house to the meeting place, the travelling time was just half an hour. But I ended up waiting two hours for her, because she was stuck in the clinic for medical checkup, and she did not even have the courtesy to call me, to tell me that the clinic was very crowded. I think that is very selfish of her, especially since she reached the clinic way before I left my house. Come to work matter, the boss as in the founder of the company, is usually not the person who keeps on changing his mind. Otherwise he will never even start a business if he is so indecisive. The ones who keep on changing their minds are the supervisors. They want to please the boss, yet do not know what the boss wants.

HI Jlyn, I think those working under the supervisor must be boiling mad at her constant changing of mind. I think her boss will tell her off if everyone starts to complain. Anyway she will not change. That is a character trait. Just hope that she does not behave arrogantly.

Yes, I will be mad too if I have to wait for 2 hours cause I might as well spend that 2 hours doing something which is fruitful. About the supervisor, I understand what you mean. I have one in my office too and she really gets on my nerves. AAARGH!!!

You have misunderstood what I had written or I have been unclear. My husband does not decide the breakfast; he will go without breakfast if need be. THe issue is thta I should not change my mind.I decide on the breakfast, the serving of one or not.He is the least fussy about his food but cannot tolerate dilly dallying. However, it is the accepted thing for females to provide any sort of meal, in our country and in many households. THe modern young couple may vary but this is the traditional hosuehold.

Ah, now I understand, so sorry about misunderstand your sentences. I think it is good to plan your breakfast ahead, so that you do not serve butter and bread every day. Sometimes it has to do with the nutritional value of the breakfast. If I have too much bread in a row, I will try to switch to oatmeal or cereal bars. However, it takes conscious effort to plan.

Hi Kalav, my goodness, you even need your husband to decide on the breakfast! I think many of us just will not bother about it. Most of us in Singapore eat breakfast on the go, or in the office. It is not a norm to ask the spouse to prepare breakfast. However, if the maid is around, then the family will ask the maid to prepare breakfasts.

Hi Mommaj, I thought you are always changing your mind about what to cook for dinner every evening. The hungry ghosts complain about how you chop them up half way, then decide not to cook them for dinner, and choose to cook chicken instead. After defrosting the chicken, you put it back to the refrigerator, and hunt for earthworms instead. Oh no, I recall wrongly. The hungry ghosts say you catch the live hens, pluck off all the feathers, then decide not to kill them. That is why some hens have no feather, and some hens have half the body with feathers, and the other side without. It is too bad of you to chop the hungry ghosts into three or four pieces, then glue them back. They look just like the scrap metals! Next time make up your mind before cooking.

Hi Lovinangelsinstead21, those kids are really thoughtless. They probably never think about the effort that goes in to the preparation of dinner. I think you should let them plan the meals in a day, from marketing right down to washing plates. Then they would understand how much effort is taken to select the freshest vegetables, the fish, and then cooking, and finally washing.

Hiya scheng, Oh I have tried that one already and it does not work with them at all. Its like water off a Ducks back it really is. They are quite hardened to all that about wait till you are on your own to cope thing they shrug their Shoulders. But that is now and they have been on their own before as well so I might as well talk to the brick Wall in that sense. All their Friends are the same they live on their own a lot of them but always go to Big Mac or to their Moms to eat (grin). Can´t win can you? Take care now.xxx

Hi Raj, it is not such a big problem if the company pays for overtime. I mean many factory operators also need to stay late when parts get rejected, and they have to work through the night. It is a different story if the boss keeps changing her mind, and causing everyone to work late without extra pay. All the extra work is wasted, since the moment it is done, she wants it another way again.

Thats ok but we cant able to expect for extra money at all times in all offices.So may give and some may not... If we are not willing to work then why we want to work for them then?

Hi Pogi, it does not bother us if we do not have to work with them or live with them everyday. It does bother us if such persons happen to be our bosses. I will not mind so much if our colleagues cannot make up their minds about what to eat or not. It does not matter to me. However, if bosses keep changing their minds, and want the report done this way, and that way, it is hard to work.

Hi Doggydimon, I can understand your frustration. It is really a waste of time. Fortunately you have not reached a stage where you call suppliers or start to set up the expo. That will be even worse than just changing the proposal. I just hope your superior does not do this too often.

Hi Lucyalicia, I will definitely avoid making appointments with friends who do not know what they want. I just had a bad experience waiting for two hours for my friend to turn up for appointment. She was held up in a medical checkup. She could have called me before I left my home, to tell me how crowded the clinic was, and that she would not make it on time. She never did that. When I got angry, and wanted to go home, she kept on messaging me and said coming, coming. I took just thirty minutes to travel down, and ended up waiting for two hours. Just how ridiculous it was.

Hi Cashsearcher, it is good of you not to commit until you are very sure what you want. It is very annoying to make appointment with friends, after hours or days of negotiating where to meet, what to do, when to meet, and then just when you are about to step out of the house, friends call to cancel the appointment. I hate this kind of last minute change, especially when I need to push off other appointments just to keep this meeting.

Hi Daisypiano, most people want to get out of working for bosses like that. It is very frustrating to finish a report, then the boss changes this or that, or end up not using. Those working in big companies will ask for a transfer to other departments, hoping to get away from such bosses. Those working in small companies either get use to it, or find job in other companies.

Hi Mkd, I do not mind talking about weather or other things with them, but where work is concerned, it is very trying to work with them. i do not like my friends to keep on changing their minds too. Very hard to arrange for anything. As an advice to a newbie in mylot, I suggest that you learn to write very long response. Try to stretch it really long. One single lengthy post is better than a hundred short sentences. That is the payment system here. Some experienced mylotters just login to post a few comments, but they make it very, very long. They can get payout every month with less time, since they do not need to search around, and hunt for more interesting threads.

Hi Yugasini, if the boss pays overtime for us to work late, and to complete the report or whatever, I guess we will not get mad. The problem comes when we do not get paid extra for working late into the night, and then find out that our effort is wasted. I just hope that our friends can make up their minds before arranging for an outing, otherwise it is very disappointing.

Hi Vangie, I hardly talk to any boss in a low voice. They should count themselves lucky that I never go to see their bosses. I think when the turnover rate under a particular manager is very high, everyone also knows the problem. Maybe the culture matters too. Over here, sometimes the subordinates dare to scream at the bosses, and then tell the whole company about it. Then the CEO or COO will ask the manager to see him, ask him why everyone talks so negatively about him.

Hi Tiffnkeat, the other day I waited for my friend for more than two hours. She wanted to go to the lawyer office to get the lawyer to represent her in a freak accident in a supermarket. After waiting for her for more than two hours, she finally came, and when we were in the lawyer office, she asked me to wait outside while she talked to the lawyer. I was boiling mad. What for waste my time if she did not want me to join in? I think I will not go out with her for quite a long time. No harm talking on the phone, but not making appointment to go anywhere else.

Hi Lexirose, I am more tolerant of bosses even though I will complain non-stop, after all we receive our salary. However, for personal friends, I will avoid making appointment. It is very disappointing to make table reservation, then our friends call to say they do not feel like going out. I wonder what is the use of friends like that! I might as well go out on my own, at my own sweet time.