What Should I Be.... Happy! Shocked! Or even Anything Else?
By theSids
@thesids (22180)
Bhubaneswar, India
February 10, 2011 5:18am CST
Hi All,
I know, I am worst at understanding the One Liners but they just will never understand.
A friend of mine, emails me this today -
I am scared of you!
A bit of the history here -
We are friends for about a Year. We interact on Social Media more than on the Real World, But We Interact Daily. We know (or now I think, I thought we knew) each other quite well (we know we both are married, and quite a lot about each others health, jobs, personal life etc) and we had been chatting over GTalk for about 3 months now. And yes, we belong to the same place and location - Bhubaneswar.
Now, the statement has left me confused as ever. I am confused asto should I be Shocked or Happy or even anything else?... How would you react?
ps. I have replied to the email asking for why of it but no response yet
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16 responses
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
10 Feb 11
If it's a female chatter that you are referring to then there can be only two possibilities for that. Either she's kidding or she is being attracted to you despite being married.
If it's a male chatter (though I doubt think it is) then he's just kidding. He wants to either criticize you in an amusing way or he wants to create suspense before making you laugh.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Feb 11
Oh dear...
The friend is not a She (but reading that above now, I wished the She was )
Which leaves only the other two of the possibilities... I havent been lucky with my share of laughs and that adds to my worries now - Criticize Me!
Ok, if I get a response, that would do make things clearer but until them let me just hope that it is the Suspense before making me Laugh
@JohnMach (550)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
One liners can make you think for sure. Maybe what you should do is ignore the one liner. Or maybe think that it's not meant to be anything serious because some people just wants to distract you to make you think because they don't have anything better to do.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
11 Feb 11
That's funny! I've been told I intimidate people.. and it's not like I'm mean or anything. Maybe it's just our vibe. Did you do anything extreme? Or be opinionated? Some people get scared of people who are bold. I'm curious what your friend will reply with.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Feb 11
Hi Lore,
So we both are on the similar kind of boats - I've been told I intimidate people - and I believe I am the one who spreads confusion around
My friend replied today and mentioned that he is scared because of my Teaching and student handling skills and this might cost them some business this summer... details posted above on Sarah's box and also on OreoCookie's box above
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Feb 11
I could not get this one here...
But if it meant what I got as reply: The friend was scared about my good skills at teaching and guiding and he feels that they(his firm would lose some business due to me teaching and guiding one of his references) - details on Sarah's response
@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
10 Feb 11
Hello thesids,
If I were you, I'd wait for the response to your late e-mmail, to see what was his intention when he wrote that line to you.
You worry too much, my friend.
Imagine he wanted to send this line to another person and he sent it to you by mistake.
Why should we worry without a serious reason?
Wait for the details and then you'll see if you have any guilt or not.
Until then, enoy this:
I'm not scare of you.
Are you happy with it?
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Feb 11
Hi Inu
Good that you are not scared of me but in the fright as you typed... you missed the "d"
[no hurt intended dear]
Yes, you are right I am worrying too much these days and the fact behind it is that I have been on the receiving end from so many people now...
Your statement makes me feel close to you for sure and I should get another here
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Hello my friend!
I guess you should try to remember the last thing you've talked about,figure out the possibilities that made her say that to you. Did you happen to say anything that is out of the line to her that you don't mean anything about it but to her there might be? Sometimes dear,it's hard to become so sweet to a woman especially to married women,they tend to misunderstood it,maybe she thought you like her. I know you Sids,your sweet. But not all women take this as a good point on them,maybe she's afraid that she thinks you like her as in you "like" her,I know you got my point. Well,that's what I have in mind,just being honest dear. You just wait for her reply,maybe,you just misunderstood it or you over reacted to it,lol!
See yah my friend!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Feb 11
Hi mtr My Dear friend.
I wished this friend was a she (after reading the response from GetBiswa at #3)
Not the last time but yes, we did have an argument a few days back where he was forcing me to get into some kind of Marketing things and I told him that I am not a Sales Guy instead a Techie who can write programs or do something on the Internet.. but that was about 3-4 weeks back and all seemed to be fine after that and he had also got me a small website thing after this and we are into the last stages of that product launch....
You are right I should wait for the response of my email as I think that I am losing the judgment of people around me
Ok, dear, what are plans for the Valentine? Your Hubby - he was expected later or he will be with you and family for Valentine?
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
@Sids...Oh my,I thought he was a she,lol! That made me think too why he said that to you,lol! Well,there's still nothing to be afraid of dear,just wait for his reply ok! Regarding Valentines day,hubby is not around,sad! But he will come home soon,yehey! He will be with us at the end of March and can't wait for it,lol! I'm thinking of making a poem for him on Valentines as my gift,hehe!
@Vidh..hello my friend!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Feb 11
Hi Bhai. Here in The States , " I'm afriad of You!" can be taken as a compliment. If a person did an excellent job and did it quickly, better than anyone thought it could be done, We say " I'm afraid of you!" Meaning This was done so well it was scary! But just " I'm afraid of you."? I don't know. I hope your friend write back.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Feb 11
Hi Behen,
Yup, he did email me today and I am happy that he was honest... He said that he is scared of me because he got a report from the student he sent in for the project that I am a good trainer and this student would get some students for me this summer... so he felt insecure as he is in a training institute and was hoping to get some business via this student.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 Feb 11
Then it was a compliment! Bravo Bhai! You are a great teacher!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Feb 11
hi the sids boy I am playing catch up here four days old wow.I would really be startled if a person I thought I knew and was good friends
with suddenly told me I am afraid of you. I would be confused and
maybe angry as I am I think a nice, kind,gentle woman who is not a
confronter at all. this sounds like the person has suddenly become
jealous of you and whatever you stand for.I would be upset and want to know why he or she said that. to say you are afraid of someone who thought he or she was a friend could baffle the other person. I think here this person has embraced the green eyed monster jealousy.I would be a bit angry and w ant to know why this person said the to me. I would really pursue this as I would not want anyone to be afraid of me.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
hello dear,
Sorry i've been late for replying some topic of yours and other friends due to this mylot notification problem that wasn't fixed till now (ughhhhh....headache *sighg * )
Well,that makes me worried too...confused,stunned (would surely made me think with my eyes upward the ceiling hehehe ...my usual gesture when i am thinkin' of nothing )
I've read some of your response and,uhmnn... he's kinda insecure on you.
Ok,let's start our own business so he will not think you will become one of his competitor (what d'ya think dear...just kidding)
Some people feel insecure when they knew someone is better/good than they are.
Isn't it a good competition instead?...a healthy competition that will enhance more of our ability and to bring out the best in us.
I hope you and your friend are in good terms now (i mean,i hope he has given you a clear picture of what he really meant)
Have a wonderful weekend dear
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Feb 11
hi topffer
That was the best and I should think in those lines...
Lesson learned - I would be more on the humorous side than taking it seriously and tasking my brain for something that might not be serious et all...
I only wrote "Why What Happened? What did make you think this?" A typical and so-boring line
But yes, I would email this line for sure if I do not get a respond soon
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I can only interpret this as the person realized that you both are way too close to home. Meaning that it could be discovered that you too have been chatting a bit too much. To me it interprets that although you have been simply friendly the person has not considered it to be strictly friendly and now runs the probability of being discovered by a spouse.
So my thinking is that the person mis-took your online friendship for more. Now as to no response, now is afraid of the situation, of what the person created in their mind, being at some point discovered or has just not been online to reply.
Happens to the best of us as it has happened to me way too much. I am a very friendly person and at times males think more out of it then it really is.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Feb 11
Hi GF
Your analysis seems to be so similar to mine. I am expecting a reply tomorrow morning as I know he is not available during the afternoon and later. Oh dear, I hope that it is just a simple thing and I am over reacting right now... because I found this guy quite helping, caring and also an aggressive marketing executive...
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
You have hidden the gender of your friend here. So, if the friend is a woman i would have two interpretations.
One, she is scared of you because she is thinking that you might be falling in love with her and that situation is not good for the both of you since you are both married. Second, she is scared of you because she is falling for you and cannot control herself any longer.
The sentence actually is too ambiguous and could result to many interpretation and nobody can clear it up but your friend who sent it to you.
@Sunehant (57)
• India
10 Feb 11
I know you are in a tricky situation. Chatting through internet can make two people come closer, but what I believe is till the time I do not spend time with someone, it would be difficult for me to understand him. This is because physical interaction is much more elaborate and understandable than talking to each other through internet. So, I will ask you a question that have you ever met her. If not try to meet her. May be she is scared of her husband or may be not. It is difficult to comment on it.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
13 Feb 11
i think its the bad phase going with you considering relationships with friends...
but again as written i n earlier response...i think...the thinking of the people differs according to their nature , mood thinking and situations too...so not to take all these things so seriously...you did your part b replying ..asking the reason...but if there is no response from other side...u too sleep with peace