Habit of falling in love.
By DoctorDidi
@DoctorDidi (7018)
India
February 10, 2011 11:09am CST
There are some people in every society who have the peculiar habit of falling in love with any fair looking,beautiful woman they come across. They can not give up this bad habit even when they are old enough. Do you like them and at the same time do you like this habit?
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Feb 11
Depends on what the outcome is to be. Really love? Long lovely thing or just a fling? What is it to be? If it is just a fling then that is not a good thing. If it is real, wholesome love then it is best. I am a romantic and I have had many a crush but not real love. Fling-type love is a bad habit. It hurts the heart.
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@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Engaging to a fling does really hurt your heart. I totally agree with you. I really can't explain it but at times as you see someone even without you knowing her, you just wanted to have something with her. I think that this is a bad call. I guess the best way of having a relationship with someone is to really know the person first.
However, I know someone who was attracted to a girl and decided to just be around the girl and before you know it, they were together. They started to know each other after getting into a relationship. Well, maybe it depends on the person. If you wanted for things to work between you and your girl,it will. But if not, then it is the other way around.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Feb 11
Communication is all important. Friendship is very important and sometimes just hanging with someone can move two people closer.
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
11 Feb 11
It can never be a real love because it is nothing but an attraction for physical beauty and nothing else. They treat women as a very cheap commodity, I think so, which may be true in some cases but not always.
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@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
16 Feb 11
I like them but i hate th ehabit. I think I too sometimes sway to this. It seems to me that every time you will see someone beautiful than the last and that tempts you to fall into the habit of love as you say. But we have to control our feelings and be strong and avoid such practice. This practice, however, is everywhere and we cannot avoid it sometimes.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I don't see falling in love as a bad habit. This person just has the ability to fall for beauty alone. Many of us need more and look for more. But to call this a bad ahabit? No! And I wouldn't care if this person falls for beauty. It is their life.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 Feb 11
Sarah is a girl's name. I'm a woman but I am for men's rights and on occasion side with them over the feminist view. With that said. If I were a man married to a beautiful woman , I would Know men are going to fall for her. It is up to me to either trust she won't stray Or be paranoid.You can't control what others feel.
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
11 Feb 11
I do not know whether you are a man or a woman. But if you are a man and find somebody falling in love with your beautiful wife, would you like it?
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
17 Feb 11
Yes, I do; which is the main reason I decided never to grow up! 
@augustineonwujei (21)
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11 Feb 11
Hi,
The habit is bad because you need to know people very well before you start falling in love. May be they are only fantasizing. People should learn how to control their emotions.
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
11 Feb 11
Mere physical attraction for falling in love may sometimes cause a lot of troubles to the man if the woman is of bad character and it may so happen that the man would ultimately try to find ways for getting rid of that woman. So,'look before you leap'.
@akhileshebay (416)
• India
11 Feb 11
First of all, thank you for bringing such an interesting topic to discussion.
I think they are not in love but lust.
Moreover loving a beautiful thing is not bad as far as it is not harmful..!
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
11 Feb 11
Whatever it may be but I have seen a lot of such type of men. Obviously you are right in saying that they are not in love but in lust.
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
10 Feb 11
Hi
Even i have a weakness for fair skinned, good looking women - but I dont fall in love with every woman who passes my way, momentary attraction is surely there, but certainly not falling in love. What I understand is what you are meaning is actually fall in lust and not in love.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
11 Feb 11
To me my brother is lust to me! If it isn't lust it is fatuation! I don't believe people can fall in love quickly or at first site. The person probaly has fallen in love but most the time no. Everyone lusts after everyone from time to time! Sometimes we win at it sometimes not.With fatuation I have been there! A few times I thought I was in love! In turn I was just infatuated with the person! I have been in love twice and that is a hold defferent story! LOL!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Feb 11
I believe that I can honestly say that there have only been three people in my life that I've fallen in love with. Of those three people, only one of them has actually been true love. For me it isn't about the looks of a person at all. Instead, I think that the person's personality is far more important than what they look like. My husband is the most kind and gentle person that I've ever met in my life.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I do know some people who are in love today with one and then with another in a week or so. Sometimes I wonder if it really is true love or the need to love and be love.
At any rate I do not have any opinions with regards to people who love often outside of saying I do hope they get the love of their lives one day as everyone deserves to be in loved and have it reciprocated.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 11
There is no end in our life if we keep on comparing to the other.
Such bad habit should be stopped and concentrate our valuable time in earning, educating our children and so on to secure our future.
Basically, we should understand that everyone will get old and unattractive someday. Once you met someone you love, you should satisfy yourself. We should work hard to build up and maintain the good relationship for a happy and harmony family.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
15 Feb 11
It's interesting when I know this is a habit :) I don't have it. I think that this shouldn't a habit. It should only a game of youth persons and it should be stopped when they really want to get married.
@ss4u10te (6)
• Brazil
11 Feb 11
I really don't like such people.And i don't like this habit of liking and falling in love with people who are fair looking and beautiful..
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Feb 11
hi doctordidi I am a woman and not lesbian so no I do not fall in love with any so called lovely woman I come across. How do you really know some people keep faling in love with fair looking woman? I do not like of dislike them as it is none of my business in the first place. I am
pne who sees under the pretty outsides of a person into the mean selfish attitudes a lot of so c alled lovely women have. Maybe its that they are so complimented on their good locks they think
they are above being courteous and polite to others.
they are above being courteous and polite to others. @jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
I can relate to this but not entirely. A lot of people catches my attention. I do not fall in love with them but I admire them. Even in a relationship, I think that it is pretty normal for a guy even a woman to admire other people but of course they should be aware of their limitations because if not, things will get out of hand.
@brianneleary19 (76)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I don't really consider that falling in love....I consider more like "lust at first sight" or infatuation. You can't really "love" someone until you actually get to know them. They may be pretty on the outside, but they could be a total 'jerk' for all anyone knows.
I find this also happens with people around my age too (19). All the time I see on Facebook how so and so is so "in love" with their boyfriend/girlfriend that only just recently started dating. I think it takes more than a few days to truly know how you feel about someone. People just rush into things or think things they may not truly know about yet.
