Meeting the relatives

I guess your guy is just too shy.. My boyfriend also gives out amazing excuses just to get away from going to family gatherings, but I always tell him that he has no right to make me go to their family gatherings if he won't go to mine. So that solved it, and after that he started coming with me, and of course I do the same, just to be fair. Hehehe!

Reasons your boyfriend does not want to attend your family gatherings: 1. He does not want attachment to your family 2. He is not the family type of guy 3. He is not ready yet to meet your family 4. He might come from broken family and he does not want to discuss this to your family if he attend 5. Hemight me scared that if he comes along with you that you might be expecting a deeper relationship with him

Maybe your BF is too shy to meet strangers,you may ask him to meet a few relatives same age with him,such as you cousins or brothers,and than aunts and uncles.If he still refuse to meeting your relatives,it seems abnomal.

Meeting relatives is an uncomfortable situation. Your guy must not be prepared yet to face your relatives as he might be thinking that he will be closely scrutinized. How long is your relationship now? If it is still a couple of few months, better not show him in your extended family but only to your mom, dad, sisters and brothers. Give him time. Or if you really insist, assure him that you will not leave him and he will not be scrutinized by your relatives. Give him an ex-deal.

I can relate to your boyfriend in a way. We may have different reasons but I too do not want to be introduced to the family of the one I love yet. I just don't see it as necessary given the present situation. I respect the idea that parents should know the person you are with but you are still in the girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. You are not certain if it would go the distance. Marriage is the stage where I think that the proper introductions should be made.

Being guy want to tell you, meeting with gf's parents, family members and relatives quite uncomfortable. It's really easy to mix up so fast. It will take time. I few points why he feels like that: 1] He is a shy guy. 2] He loves to spend time only with you not with people which belongs to you. 3] He might be having some kinda insecurities or ego problem or jealousy something like that. 4] If he only talks with you so much and not talking so much with other people like his friends, family members or people which he belongs, then might be he is kinda a dashing guy, who cares his privacy and don't want to disclose quickly. 5] He might be hiding something that's why he refuses to get your social or personal life. That's all in my mind.

Yes, what the others say might be the answer, he might be shy, but you have been seeing him for 2 years? That is a long time to not meet the family, I thought maybe you just started seeing him or something. I mean what if you guys decide to get married? Will he still not meet them? I would outright ask him the reason, because being together that long, he should meet your family..

Maybe he has a fear of being rejected? Or does he have a reason to hide? It's hard to say what his reasons are but he should get past it and go with you to meet your family. After all, he is your boyfriend so there's nothing wrong with him meeting your family and extended family. The one you should be asking is him.

Hi. Milkypink26. I think that he may be feeling shy and ashamed. Why? Because he is a guy that is meeting your relatives for the first time. He does not know what to expect and he thinks that they may not like him. He does not want to be rejected by them. And he may be feeling that your relatives may be thinking that he is not good enough for you, that sort of thing.

hi there! well maybe he's just not yet ready for it. or maybe shy? or scared to face them? not really sure coz its only him who will know the reason behind. some says that if a guy is really serious about us, he would definitely would want to meet your relatives and build a good relationship with them...(well this is just what i usually hear from old folks in my place before.) thanks that usually the guy who courted me visits me in the house and they are happy whenever my family invited them, they feel that its a signal that they are welcoming him in the family... how about you? did he already introduced you to his family?

well,for me, if the guy u date tries to aviod meeting ur relatives, that means he is not prepared or he just doesnt plan to have a stable and long relation with u. I believe love is between two but marriage is between two families. so if he is not willing to meet ur relatives, just give him some time or u can get rid of him if u would like to marry him.

that's so abnormal. he can love you and together with you,why he can't accept you relatives?

There must be surely some particular reasons behind that.Nothing is wrong in that from my view. But we can ask him about the reason and try to solve it if possible.

Maybe your BF is just shy to meet your relatives but I don't think it's reasonable. Don't want to compare but boyfriend always force me to let him meet my family and relatives. Though he's shy but he would love to meet them. Just ask your boyfriend dear.

Two years is really long and he has not met your relatives. For me that is odd. As a guy, I would really want to meet the relatives. Maybe not the first few months but maybe after 6 months to a year at the most. If a person is really serious with the relationship he/she will find time to meet your family. Just my 2 cents.