People are talking bad things about me behind my back.
By alokijon
@alokijon (665)
Malaysia
February 11, 2011 7:52am CST
I just found out that there are some people talking bad things about me behind my back. There are a few people at my workplace that I am not close with. All this while most of the people know that I can be a very good follower. But once you make my life difficult, that will be the last time I cooperate with you. SO this is what happen to me and these few people that I am not close with. SO these people unfortunately some of them are a bit influential at the workplace. They are able to convince a few others to hate me. So far I really do not mind because I know that I am not at the wrong side. I always believe that God is great. Even if they until the end still assumed that I am a bad person I do not mind. I am happy for them. Have you ever in my situation and how you do you faced it?
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7 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
Of course.. People will talk behind our backs... I would even say me and my friends do talk about some people at our work... Classmates... Friends... Etc... But of course we do not badmouth people...
I guess what you can do is just not mind them...you know better than them so let them do whatever they want but always prove them wrong by not going down to their level.
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@gambamarcela (1012)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
I agree with you chiyosan! My former company has trained each one of us to be emotionally detached. We can never please everyone. Whether you did good or bad, they will always have something to say. Just focus on yourself and on your goals in life and not let these petty distractions hinder you from success.
@PrinceStyles (52)
• United States
12 Feb 11
i have to agree just let them talk
especially since you said you believe God is great they may be trying to find a way for you to fall and then shove it in your face about it prove them wrong (:
there will always be people who talk behind your back simple be the bigger person
@lakshmi11 (278)
• United States
12 Feb 11
You know there is one very simple cure to all of this, which will surely help you to feel better and also be a lot more popular in the long run.
Just change your thinking. - You don't have to let anybody know that you are doing this. -
Here is the simple trick. Start finding all the things around you and about the people around you that you love. Make it a habit. It is fun and feels really good.
We as a society are conditioned for a long time to find the bad stuff and dwell on it. Just try to do the opposite. And when you end your day find at least five things you are thankful for.
If you are able to do this for a while you will find that there are lot of really nice people around you who all love you and your personality. Everything in your life will start to be easier and better.
I have tried this it really works!!
@takingcare (30)
• United States
15 Feb 11
Well I've never been "happy" about people being deceived, especially about my character. I have been in the place where a soiling of my name is in action. This happens to so many people. Having faith in GOD is the way I cope too. If you are able to move on with your life without it effecting your happiness then, I would say that is where God led you.
I find that this kind of activity is present in almost all work places and that people are wiser than they may seem. Often those going with the flow of negativity are doing so for status quo, fear or some other form of senselessness. This is ine of the reasons I love working from home.
@Liliac26 (557)
• Romania
26 Feb 11
I usually feel quite hurt if this happens to me, especially if I like the persons who talk behind my back or I value their opinion. But I get over it quickly, because I understand that some people are like this and there's nothing I can do about it. They don't even mean any harm most of the times (though sometimes they do), they just enjoy gossip. I just wish that when someone has something bad to say about me they would say it to my face, so I could defend myself or learn what I've done wrong.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
I always tell myself that I cannot please everyone. Just show them kindness and in then later on they will be able to realize that they are wrong. And usually through their embarrassment would ask apology because of what they have said.
I hope and pray that you'll get over this situation. I'm glad that you are not upset with them. I also hope that you would still try to be nice to them.
Have a nice day!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
11 Feb 11
People will always talk behind our backs as it is avoidable. There are those who do so out of malice but I am a firm believer that one should not make fun and enjoy out of other misfortunes as what goes around comes around.
I do not waste time clarifying as I am one who lets my actions speak for themselves.
