How do you date?

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I've noticed recently that I have a very different view to dating. When I go on a date with a new guy I don't go thinking he will now be my boyfriend. I go to learn more about him. And if someone else asks me out I will go on a date with him. Until there is an understanding between us that we are in fact in a real realationship I feel that we are not. I met a guy today who asked me to be his girlfriend. I told him we should get together to see how we like each other first, and that I don't immediatly become someones girlfriend just because they ask. He then took that as I had many boyfriends and was ok with cheating on all of them. I don't. I take a while to decide if I truely like a person enough to be in a relationship and once I am there, I'm there for a while. I feel like I'm not explaining this well. I veiw dating as courtship, like a trial into whether your two personalities fit together. Once you've stablished they do comes the commitment of Boyfriend/Girlfriend. And once you've been like that for a while marriage. But most guys and girls I meet seem to think it goes, meet someone, have one date, you're in a deep relationship for 3 weeks. You get to know each other and hate that person and then you're broken up and it starts again. What I want to know is have I got the wrong idea when it comes to going on dates? Or should I be excluding all other parties once I have agreed to a first date with someone.