I Am Leaving You And The Kids With Nothing...

People like that are selfish. They see the children as part of the person they are leaving, not part of themselves. You're right, it's not fair, and that's why so many mothers get good attorneys and fight for so much of the assets--they are thinking of their children and how they will provide for them and send them to college, not just to support themselves. Men can also be the offended parties but that is pretty rare as far as I know.

I think that was pretty heartless of the father to allow the child to suffer too. He should have at least made some efforts to shield the child from the emotional pains of divorce since the child is innocent. But instead, he even took away the things that he is suppose to provide the kid.

In the first place the children did not ask to be born. Since they are the products of two matured people, they should be responsible for their welfare regardless of the circumstances they are in. Children should not be dragged into the family battlefield to witness the war between both parents. And when it is over, these helpless children are left to fend for themselves which is totally inhuman for both parents. The family law should be harsh on parents who are irresponsible adults and relinquishing their responsibilities on their offspring.

Just.no.heart .. that's all I have to say. Parents divorcing and the children suffer .. and then no welfare or fund at all for the kids , lest being scared that the ex spouse would take it all. I think that's just plain selfish. The kids are the dude's responsibility , I am just so angry just by reading about it. You were so kind as to donate some of those things. Situations like this are just so sticky and complicated and then the children suffer .. and the single mom has to bear it all. No fair. Has your friend lodged a complaint , how's the law there pertaining this matter.

That a very bad thing to do leaving the kids with nothing. It's not their fault that their parents got divorce,they should be cared for and treated with respect.

Can't imagine how some people could get very materialistic, if you have a quarrel with your spouse and want out, that's natural and sometimes there is that element of taking revenge, but not to the point of hurting the innocent,or those who have nothing to do with it , and people you still love and who still loves you , why such small and insignificant things but could really hurt the kids? I would not be surprised if he was trying to take over the family biz or the estate, but my God, tsk, tsk I just don't get it. Is he poor or raised in a home where there is always lack? So bad a childhood that he wants to treat his kids that way? I get emotional when I read of things like these, the kids sh**, sorry

Well I parted in bad ways with my Ex Husband but the Kids where old enough to make up their own minds I think it is awful when Parents part and it goes to that extend I know my Ex Husband would have taken everything from me if it had not been for the Kids saying where ever my Mum goes we will go, he thought they would go and live with him, well my Son was not close to his Dad anyway and my Daughter knew what he was like But it is terrible that a Father can do this to his own Children

that is weird the SO usually just leaves the furniture and takes thier clothes and maybe other things that was gave to them . they kids deserve better now they will think it ws their fault more than other kids would in this type of manners!

My first husband and also my youngest daughter's dad both did this to us! I think it is a control thing for them. Stubborn as I am, I did not show any reaction as they took one item after another. My thought was that if they felt they needed it more than me and the kids then take it. I mean we started up over from scratch...no furniture...nothing. Why I think it is a control thing is my ex kept saying, "how are you going to make it without me on your own?" Little did he know but it was that sort of talk that motivated me. Before I moved out, he tried EVERYTHING he could to make it as difficult and impossible for me. He messed with my income taxes, my car and with me. There is a reason why those kinds of guys are exes. Luckily for me, I had work and a ton of good friends. We got back on our feet....wait...we never got off of them. These guys are trying to make it as difficult as possible for the women to leave because deep down they really don't want them to.

Its sad males have to do this to people they once considered their loved ones. My ex husband came to visit us exactly one time when my our son was 1 1/2yrs old. The purpose of his visit. He wanted to go to social services and see if he could stop paying child support. The worker asked him if he believed the boy wasnt his. He said i know he is mine but i now have another family and im loosing my house because of the child support. The worker told him sorry just because you have another family now doesnt mean you are not responsible for your first child. I was laughing in side and thinking so what if you loose your house do you think your son is in a home we own??? He was only there for one day.

I read all the responses in your discussion hardworkkinggurl. I was worried for the kids, but I read soon that you and your church have helped this woman and her children. Kids have not to pay a price for the separation of their parents. It is the important point for me, and I don't want to know who has done what in this couple. You are a very good woman in real life harworkkinggurl, and I am pleased to be among your friends at myLot.

Dragon's right. It takes an extremely selfish person to do something like that. Unfortunately my father-in-law is exactly like that. He would rather be out drinking and picking up strange women than supporting his family, and when my mother-in-law put her foot down he took off and left her and her sons with almost nothing. He was in the area around Christmastime and we went to visit him. It was the first time he got to see our daughter, and probably the only time. The first thing he said to me when we got there was "Well, where is it? Wake it up! Get it out of the car!" The visit consisted of us sitting in the living room while he and his girlfriend's grandson watched Spider-Man. I guess it's better than the time we took him to our favorite restaurant and had him make a complete idiot of himself by harassing the waitstaff and the customers at the table next to ours. I can't imagine being such a self-absorbed jerk. It seems to be such a miserable life to lead. If there is anything this family needs, please let me know and I'll see if we can help.

Hello my dear friend! Belated Happy Valentine's Day to you! I missed mylot yesterday,quite busy with some other things,lol! The case you said is not new to me,I know many couples who don't mind the sake of their children when separating. All they just want is to get through with their separation at once not minding on what their children will feel about it. So sad,but the children are the real ones who are greatly affected by it. I will never ever do it to my kids if ever I will have a divorce. My kids are my treasure and the joy of my life,without them,life is meaningless! See yah!

I do think that is real sad. He needs to think about the kids. He could've took somethings but not what makes things comfortable for the kid. That is real sad. It is real sad when a mom or a dad is selfish with the kids too and won't let the other one see them. I think that parents after divorce need to get a long with each other too for the kids.The kids would take divorces a lot better if parents still got a long and they seen both parents a lot. You don't have to be real friendly but get a long and be alright with the other parent going to a school function, going to a birthday party. Anything that the child would love to have both parents at. It might be uncomfortable for them but parents need to think of the kids.

wow, whats hppening with the guys, i mean men. my topic was a friend gets beat up while pregnant and here you are about a topic of a man who left his child and wife with nothing. where is the love? if there is no more for the wife atleast think about the child. the children must not suffer, this things like this needs counceling. you cant let a child suffer because parents are having trouble with their relationship. i think people needs to make sure that their children are secure... thats the most important. happy day of hearts friend.

Grave situation,indeed.To be a parent it is a great thing a most responsible.In my country or avery where in this world we can see this situation.Before divorce it is must important that both parents to think again and again in what measure this separation afect child.Or if your relation is not sure no make child.

I am hurting for the mother and child, friend. I was in the same situation, but hers is worse. At least I had my parents to support me when me and my husband had problems in our marital life and he stopped giving me money. I was forced to find some work and was glad that my parents were there to provide me with shelter and emotional, moral and financial support when I most needed it. From that moment onward, I vowed not to be financially dependant on anybody and am trying to earn at least to support myself. My daughter was seven months old then. But things have changed now and he regrets what happened and how he behaved. Now he is a changed man. But my story is one in a million. I am very very scared for them both. But it is heartening to know that they have friends like you to help and care for them. I seriously don't know how anybody can do that to their own kid. What problems they have with their spouse is none of the kid's fault. And throwing a two year old kid on the roads is pathetic. Shows how bad the parent was in the first place. Hope the mother gets the courage to rebuild her life. And I will definitely pray for their well being.

OMG,How heartbreaking.How can anyone do this to their own child? it's one thing to want out of your marriage, but quite another when you punish your own flesh of blood by taking everything from her. He should be ashamed of himself and doesn't deserve to call himself a parent.The only saving grace is, she is still too young to realize that her own Father could be so heartless and selfish to do what he's done. Children have a hard enough time when their parents separate or divorce each other, then to add insult to injury, one parent decides to leave his own child and take everything from her. shameful and oh so sad.

Hi, Hardworking, this is so horrible! One of those things that seem impossible to happen. I can't understand how a human being could leave his or her children out there in the cold. Of course the person who did this apparently is deprived of humanity since he took everything with him! And the poor mom - maybe she did something terrible to him to deserve to be left in this situation? But we see more and more similar stories. I know a case in which the mother left the family and including her two children! They don't starve but the father is too busy and spend little time at home. I can't understand this too. Could you just leave your 12 year old son and your 16 year old daughter and don't care how they live? Are your own children like old clothes that you throw away?

This is awful, no way should a parent want to hurt there child by taking everything and leaving them with nothing. Whatever the problems are between parents that are seperating the child is always the innocent person and therefor should be the important one and should not suffer. I have been married before, later at the end of the marriage when we seperated, whilst i was at work she called home and too basically everything, even things she did not need. I had no problem with her taking her stuff or my sons stuff as he needs his things but she did not have to leave me with nothing. She also empted the joint bank account and left me with a load of debt as everything was in my name as i worked and she didn't. This in a way hurt me as i was loaded wuth debt that was ours, not just mine. I had no money in the bank as she took it and couldn't sell anything as she took all the expensive items we had. This meant that i could not do much with my son as i had no money and loads of debt all because of his mum, so in a way he suffered from not getting much from me until i was able to clear my debt. Some parents for stupid reasons want to hurt each other but they don't see how this also affects the children. I guess some parents just don't really think things through properly.