Boasting/ Tooting your own horn
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
February 13, 2011 1:33pm CST
Do you think it is boasting when a person is thanked for doing a good deed and then goes on for about five minutes about how that's just the kind of person they are?
Here's the scenario: Person A thanks Person B for helping them and Person B goes on a spiel about how they would not be able to live with themselves if they did not help Person A. Person B keeps talking and talking about how they are just a helpful person with a big heart.
In my opinion, if you are going to someone a favor and they thank you, all you need to do is accept their gratitude, tell them you're glad to do it and move on together.
What do you think?
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5 responses
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I don't like to boast about myself or even toot my own horn. I don't like how this makes me look to other people. if someone prasises me for something, that is up to them to do. i won't do it for them.@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I know what you mean. Thanks for your response.
Happy mylotting.
@bobmnu (8157)
• United States
14 Feb 11
We need to learn how to accept praise. When someone gives you a compliment you should just thank them and be quiet. No body like to hear a bragger or a person who when complimented tries to downgrade themselves. It is best to accept the praise with a simple thank you. Let them lavish the praise on you.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Yes you are right. Don't uplift yourself when you have done good for someone. When that person you done favor said thank you, then just simply say welcome and tell him/her to thank God and not you. Or simply say, it is your pleasure to be helping them out. Don't add as if you are bragging what you have done.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
13 Feb 11
Maybe its just me, but I agree with you. The person giving the thanks didn't ask for a resume on why you helped them. It's just like in police, fire, or other emergency jobs, the true heroes never look at themselves as a hero, they are just doing their job and helping others. Its just what we do, so when someone shows gratitude, we either say thank you or you're welcome, which ever fits the situation, and go on.
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@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
13 Feb 11
So true. You bring up a great point. Police, fire officials and others with those kind of jobs put their lives on the line on a daily basis without the need to boast about their heroics.
Happy mylotting.
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@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
13 Feb 11
Yes the world needs more kindness but it irritates me that some people only do kind works to get praise or recognition because usually these are the same people who will throw their "good deeds" back in your face when they feel like you owe them something or should be praising them for the rest of your life. To me that's not doing something purely out of kindness but out of your own need to be praised for being good.
When I do something for others (which I do), I do it because I feel like that's the right thing to do. If I get a thank you, I say you're welcome or no problem then move on. Of course, maybe that's just me.
