How Long Is Too Long To Let Your Kids Live With You?

I moved away from home at 19, when I went off to college, and I've never felt the need to go back. But I have a friend who's 27 and still living at home, and she's happy with it, her parents are happy with it, and they help each other a lot (financially and otherwise). If that was my case I'd have gone mad, but it's just not the same for everyone. So, I don't think there's an age limit, it just depends on the person and the family...

I think that there are no rules for this. My daughter is 24 and we live togehter. This is a problem for her, she thinks that at this age she should live on her own. But she finished her studies a couple of months ago and she still have no work. And even if she had,the rental prices are crazy, how a young person is supposed to survive? But if you have quarrels with your parents or if they still meddle in your life, you have to run away and try to survive.

I think it is time for kids to move out when they become unbearable, I think something happens to people when it is time to leave the nest, I think you know by the moods ...

Your children are always going to be your children. i don't think it is fair to place an age on when they should leave your home. i think you should allow your children to live with you as long as it is comfortable for you and for them.

Personally, I don't think there should be an age limit to how long your kids stay with you. As long as they show respect and try not to be lazy in the house, they should be fine. Besides, not everyone HAVE to have their own places.

I think it really depends on why they are not out on their own. If they are starting career, saving to buy own place, or fell on hard times and need some temporary help its ok. But if they are there because they dont really want to face the world on their own...then something is wrong.

As long as the kid is moving positively or destroying my house or ruining my own work, they can stay there as long as they like. In fact, I think that this must prevent them from working at something that don't like just to pay rent.

I do agree with you, under some circumstances. I wouldn't have a huge problem with helping my kids stay with me, if it was better for them. I think that there might be a limit, but for the most part, I wouldn't really mind.

I agree with you. I think allowing kids to stay home for a year or so after they finish college is a nice way of letting them ease into life. I would expect them to contribute a bit to the family finances at that point though. Maybe they can take over payment of things that are for them, like their cell phone bill and clothing. I think that is what we will tell our sons. I know my son is approaching that time in his life. He is very nervous about being on his own. We told him that we will always be there for him. He doesn't need to worry. But, he does need to be responsible and make plans for his future.

With the economy the way it is, there are a lot of children staying home longer and returning home. My husband jokes about our son living with us until he is thirty, though he becoming of age is many, many years away, there could be that possibility if the economy worsens. In many ways I do think fondly of that time when he will become more independent and we have the house to ourselves again, though if our child needs our help, of course I could never turn him away or make him feel guilty because he is unable to move, or moved back. I would like to hope that adult children who reside with their parents would contribute to the household, if not financially, that at least with the chores of the home.

I think it all depends on the situation. If your children do live at home for some reason and have a job, I think they should give you some money. My friends son still lives at home and he is soon to be 40. He doesn't contribute at all and doesn't even have his own car. He still gets his mother to take him to work. He has moved out a couple of times, but he always moves back. Even when he moved out he wasn't very far away. He would come home and "go shopping". He would take all their groceries etc. home with him. I think that is just to old to be that irresponsible. I also think that the parents are at fault for letting him get away with it. Parents should always try and help their children, but not let them take advantage of anyone.

It really depends on the situation---it's almost a matter of convenience. I have a traumatic-brain-injury from when I was 14, so my plan to 'ace high-school and move into cushy surroundings at the private University (Oklahoma City University) were kinda shaken a bit. At eighteen, after graduating high school, I was still heading up to the rehabilitation-hospital three times a week; and my parents were busy going to school, building their careers and steadily growing apart. So it wasn't until I was 21 or 22 that I decided to 'run away' (actually, I only got three blocks before my mother sped up in her car, stopped me for the night and made me make arrangements for an apartment near the University). My sister moved out a few years later---when she got married (just like the Old Testament commands); but my brother-in-law's work moved him around, so now they live with my mom until he finds a place for them to stay. And my younger brother moved to Oregon when he was 22-or-so---because Romano's Macaroni Grille moved him out there ... he would probably still be living with mom if they hadn't. (Not that he's "inadequate" in any way; just that there was no "initiative" for him to move out ... I don't think there was anyway)

Oh, i am an Asian, and our kids live with us until they get married. Therefore, it would depend at what age they are going to get married.

i think as long as they pay their way, theres no limit. its just upto them when they want to go, or if they can afford to. with how things are at the moment, nobody of my age (22) can get on the ladder. i'd love to move out, but know it wont happen anytime soon. and my parents are content and supportive. i work, and pull my weight here. i also pay rent monthly, so i think as long as they generally arnt taking the p*ss, there is no such thing as "too long"

This is absolutely different for different types of families. Oriental families tend to stay together with parents and married sons and their families all staying together... western society believes in kids moving out the moment they are 18. Both have their pros and cons and its really the family equation that matters here. And of course, with cost spiraling on a daily basis, kids have to pitch in to help run the family... so if they are staying back and giving that money to the parents, all the more better... and if parents are mature enough not to interfere in the kid’s personal life, I don’t see why kids in mid 20s cant stay back with the parents

It depend on the kids if he want to stay till he have wife and children. If he wanted too It's my pleasure. Because I will see those grand chlidren

I think it can depend on a variety of circumstances. Some people like living in extended families so it isn't unusual to have three generations under one roof and there can be sound reasons to live that way. I have noticed that there are a lot of "overgrown teenagers" around, people in their late twenties, thirties and even forties who show no inclination to move out and treat their parents home like a hotel. I once tried to negotiate taking the place of a work colleagues daughter. She had moved back into the family home after completing university (which he had paid for, she had no student debt) and started work. When he asked her to contribute £50 a week towards the household she was shocked and told him she didn't see why she should because she was his daughter. She was being fed, housed, had no kind of household bills - he was even paying all the local taxes - but pulled a face when he asked for a contribution. I asked if I could move in on the same terms and I'd be happy to pay £50 a week.

25, 30 years old, if they still live in there's something wrong with them i have a 32 year cousin wich isn't also a good person, she is not nice to my aunt, still live in and for that i think she's a looser

For me i'm 23 and living with my parent even my brother "31 years old" do that..For our culture this is very normal to stay with your parent as you wish till you get married..and these has some advantages like saving money and also be more close to your parent

Nothing wrong if you want to keep in touch with your parents although you are at the right age to live with your own. Well, it's good to be back to where you from and to whom you from. Our parents are always be there to listen when everyone will leave you. There's no age limits to be with your parent, they care for you when you are young. Now that you grew up, it's about time for you to give them back the love and care that they need from their children.