do you give in to your child’s wish easily

It depends. Sometimes I do and sometimes I dont. It all depends on an agreement. If something he did is good then he is worth rewarded by giving in to his wish, but if otherwise then not. It would serve as a lesson for him to strive harder in doing the right or achieving what is proper so as for him to be rewarded with his want. Somewhat a positive reinforcement or a reward system. In addition, I take into account that his wishes are feasible and attainable.

It is nice to hear that your child was not like that when she was young. My child also was not like that since we taught her early not to do that. Unfortunately, it is something that we see every day in the malls and supermarkets. We have to blame the parents for that and not the child. Parents don't seem to be embarrased by that behavior any longer.

Well, it is Good when a parent helps a child to understand that money is something that a person has to work for, and cannot just buy something at the drop of the hat. Making them have to work for something, or teaching them the value and importance of money is what counts for sure. When you teach them the importance instead of just handing them everything they want all the time, in turn they are taught a little more kindness and self respect for things more as well.

Oh, I won't deny the fact that there are times that I will give in to my children's wishes. However, I am not willing to give in to their every wish and desire. The reason for that is because I've seen a lot of children throughout my life that are downright spoiled and I don't want that to be my child. I feel that those children that are always given everything are the same individuals that don't make wise decisions with money when they get a little bit older.

I don't have kids but as a woman I think we have been thinking about it like for our whole life, I won't give in or I'll try not to (easy to say) cause they are going to receive "nos" in their lives and if they only hear "yes" in the begining they might feel disappointed, maybe even become depressed cause things would be way to difficult when they are adults. I know a bunch of spoiled kids that turned to terrible teenagers. They don't think about anyone else, I know adults that were spoiled too, they are weak, often disaponted, selfish and don't have the will that it takes. To spoil a child is one of the worst things parents can do to a child.

If I have the money I will get her something small but she also knows that just because we are at the store does not mean that she will get something. My daughter loves to look at the toys and tell me which ones she likes and then we leave. She doesn't cry as she knows that will not get her things. I am honest with her I will tell her if something is too expensive. I have also told her that we can put things on her Christmas or birthday list to help other family members know what she would like but it does not mean that she will get everything on the list. Alot of time children will cry in the store because they know it will get them what they one. My daughter threw a fit in the store one time and we were going to get her something that day but because she threw a fit I made her go back and put it away and she got nothing. There is no reason that we should reward bad behavior. My husband will try to lie to her sometimes and tell her they don't make things and I tell him don't lie to her you can tell her no or that it is too expensive. I am not sure why he does this.

No I don't give in, mine knew that if I said no I had a good reason, and that no meant no (And it didn't mean 'maybe' either, if it was maybe, I said so.) I didn't handle my children that way, and I don't handle my grandchildren that way either. One of the most important lessons that we can teach our children is that you can't always get what you want just because you want it. They've also learned the importance of saving up for something, and take pride that something they wanted they worked to get. Perhaps it's just me, but a child should learn early on that emotional 'black-mail', crying, pouting, tears and tantrums, are not the way to solve problems to get what they want. My friends daughter used to pester her mom until she finally said yes, to anything and everything she wanted. As a result, she's still that way today and she's 33!

Hi Dear SimplyD! How are you! As we already discussed earlier I too now have a grown up son who is an Engineer and I think your daughter is doing her medicine! No ? Now coming to the discussion I never used to yield to his every wish when he was a kid!For that matter he never had been an adamant child any time, I always used to postpone a thing he wanted just to make him realise is not all that life is not all that easy and money is not easy thing to earn and spend! I never wanted to make him feel that I have lot of money and can get anything for him as per his wish, by doing so I would have spoiled this time! I used to consider his wishes and weigh the logic of getting the thing for him, like I always would as myself weather his wish or demand is justifiable or not! Is he going for moon? After getting myself convinced hat Yes I can provide this thing for him I used to get the thing for him! I think the kids at our times were bit milder and had lot of understanding and they would listen to their parents. On the contrary today's kids are much pampered and spoiled Lot! LOL! This is may the exposure they are getting in he form of multichannel TVs and Internets! Now a days in spite of knowing the fact that I don't like to spend a big money on the branded items , my son gets me some costly branded items as gifts for with with a naughty smile on his face and in his eyes! I also keep them with a wink, as that's all I can do now as he has grown up enough to understand the worldly matters! Thanks friend for starting an interesting topic as usual! All the best!

I have a 4 month old baby. When I go to the stores, I must go check out the toy sections, although he doesn't know how to talk and express whole lot yet; I like to picl up a toy and show it in front of him, if he smiles and giggles, I get he likes the toy, then I will get it for him I know , you want to say I'm spoiling my baby!! But I just want him to be happy, maybe when he gets older, I will give me more discipline

Soon I'll be a mother and will be experiencing decisions such as these in few years to come. Though I already had a thought on what to do. Moms are soft hearted especially to their kids, but I put up on my mind to strictly grow my child and won't spoiled him as I've seen in my in-laws daughter. Especially in our economy nowadays, its hard to buy things as they please even if you have money. Money comes and goes. I'll be sure to teach my son in the future "spending money wise". The "wants" should be decided according to its use and must prioritize "the needs".

I do not have child. and as a father, i will disciple him/her at the early age. As a parents we cannot give anything to our children because it is hard to earn money. Happy mylotting