Will your childs father carry a pink diaper bag?
@shaggin (72112)
United States
February 14, 2011 7:55am CST
I remember when my daughter was little and I used a pink diaper bag my ex refused to carry the diaper bag. I thought it was so pathetic. Just because it was pink he couldnt carry it? I mean seriously everyone knows that if a guy is carrying a pink diaper bag it just means he has a little baby girl. Especially when I was always with him with the baby it was pretty obvious.
Will your childs father carry the pink diaper bag or does he give you a hard time about it to?
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@edb225112 (124)
• United States
14 Feb 11
Why would a woman buy a pink diaper bag, knowing her husband would not want to carry it. There are a number of colors of diaper bags and if there wasn't some kind of personal power strugle going on between the husband and wife, the issue should not have come up. If two people really care about each other and truly want to be partners, the wife would be considerate of her husband's desires. If she doesn't know that her husband would not want to carry the pink bag, she doesn't care enough about the husband to have a child with him in the first place. No wonder he is her ex. I hope this husband has found a caring spouse in his next relationship.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
7 Mar 11
Thanks for your nice comment la_chique. I was pretty offended by edb225112's comment. I actually do let my son play with girl toys because he has an older sister. I know that just because he plays with girl toys once in awhile doesnt mean he will grow up to be gay and heck if he does oh well I will still love him anyway. I think guys who wont carry a diaper bag because of it being a certain color are just being really immature and have a lot of growing up to do!
@la_chique (1498)
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8 Mar 11
its a bit different if boys are playing with toys with their sisters. I believe strongly, and have witnessed first hand though the effect that upbringing has on kids's sexuality and gender roles. Even something as seemingly responsible as my mom telling my younger sister that she shouldnt ever wear makeup since she was very little. My sis doesnt care at all about her appearance now she is older (never has), apart from painting her nails once in a while. I worry about her sometimes.
Course u'll still love ur son anyway, but hopefully he'll be bringing home a lovely respectable (and worthy!) girl when the time comes - the kind you'll be proud to call a daughter in law :)
but yep, I still agree, ur ex sounds like a bit of an a$$ and i totally understand why he's ur EX! Put him away in the "what was I thinking" box lol.
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@la_chique (1498)
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6 Mar 11
dunno what this posters problem is. If I had a baby girl, everything would be pink, like you say shaggin, everything you get as gifts etc is pink. A father should be proud to be a father. The mother shouldnt have to be treating her partner like one of her kids, bending over backwards for him when he has a tantrum, and a father shouldnt be confusing his child's gender. Not allowing a girl to wear pink is almost as bad as allowing little boys to play doll's tea parties.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I do not like the color pink, so I would not have a pink diaper bag. Having said that, both of my children's fathers would carry any kind or color of diaper bag without a problem. My oldest daughter's father is quite large, muscular and looks very tough (he is really a very mellow person), so I am sure that nobody would even have the nerve to say anything to him about it.
If they did, though, he would most likely look at them like they are idiots and tell them that if they aren't man enough to carry their child's diaper bag regardless of the color, then he feels sorry for them. My little one's father carried my pocket book while I was pregnant and having problems walking, so I don't think that carrying a pink diaper bag is any worse than carrying a pocket book, although I do have a very cool looking pocket book, if I do say so myself.
If they did, though, he would most likely look at them like they are idiots and tell them that if they aren't man enough to carry their child's diaper bag regardless of the color, then he feels sorry for them. My little one's father carried my pocket book while I was pregnant and having problems walking, so I don't think that carrying a pink diaper bag is any worse than carrying a pocket book, although I do have a very cool looking pocket book, if I do say so myself.1 person likes this
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
14 Feb 11
My ex would never carry my pocket book. Usually he just wouldnt help out at all so not carrying a pink diaper bag wasent much different then him refusing to push the stroller or shopping cart or unload it or reload it. He was a complete jerk really. I dont think men are any less of a man for carrying a pink diaper bag of their childs. I think men are just to worried about the way they appear sexually to others.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I am sorry, but your ex-husband does sound like a complete jerk, which is probably why he is an "ex".
I agree that there are some men that are worried about the way they will be viewed sexually if they wear a certain color or style or carry something that looks too "feminine" or whatever. I think that a real man, one that is secure with himself and his sexuality, can do or wear just about anything and maintain his masculinity. In fact, a guy that is secure enough to carry a pink diaper bag or his woman's pocket book or take care of his child by pushing a "girlie and lacy stroller" is far sexier, more masculine and more appealing than one that is worried about what everyone else will think.
I agree that there are some men that are worried about the way they will be viewed sexually if they wear a certain color or style or carry something that looks too "feminine" or whatever. I think that a real man, one that is secure with himself and his sexuality, can do or wear just about anything and maintain his masculinity. In fact, a guy that is secure enough to carry a pink diaper bag or his woman's pocket book or take care of his child by pushing a "girlie and lacy stroller" is far sexier, more masculine and more appealing than one that is worried about what everyone else will think.1 person likes this
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
I agree. I think seeing a guy pushing their child is a stroller is wondeful. I think seeing a guy playing with his baby and showing so much love for that child is just breathtaking. I think women who have spouses like this are so lucky. My ex wasent like this at all. My children didnt really even know their father before we split up because he was never around and never took the time to play with them. I had to force him to sit down with them for 5 minutes to read them a book and at that he wouldnt read my daughter barbie it had to be something that he considered ok for him to read such as berenstein bears.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Feb 11
I've never had a pink diaper bag. I have 1 girl, but she was part of a set of twins, boy/girl.. so I just used 1 neutral colored diaper bag instead of carrying around 2 bags. The rest of my kids were all boys.
Anyways, my husband wouldn't have had an issue with a pink diaper bag if I'd had one. He will hold my purse whenever I need or want him to.. he buys me pads and tampons and whatever other feminine things I ask for. He's got no problem with all that, so I doubt he'd have a problem with a pink diaper bag.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
18 Feb 11
I'm not very organized. I brought diapers, bottles, and wipes.. that was about it. I'd always wish I'd brought extra clothes or some desitin or something, but whenever I did bring extra clothes I'd forget to take them back out of the diaper bag so they'd get all nasty and musty, when I brought desitin something would squish it and it would explode all over the bag.. stuff like that.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Well, we actually didn't have a pink diaper bag when Kathryn was little. However, my husband was so happy to be a father for the first time that I know he would have been willing to carry her diaper bag no matter what color it was. However, my little brother, on the other hand has two little girls and he actually had a separate diaper bag that he would carry when he had the girls out without Elizabeth so that he would not have to carry to pink bag. I thought it was rather immature of him myself.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
2 Mar 11
I do think that is immature of him as well but oh well at least he was willing to take care of the girls without his wife being around. Not all guys are willing to help out with the kids even though they should! That is so wonderful that your husband loves being a father so much :)
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
It never been a big deal to my husband. Maybe he wasnt just so conscious about his masculinity. I can even ask him to buy me a sanitary napkin. And when we are out and I said I feel tired carrying my shoulder bag can you have it for a while hon then he would surely take it with out any question.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
My father was like he. He would even wear the purse for my mother because he just didnt care what others thought. My mother was like Jerry you cant wear it on your shoulder like that it just looks really bad lol. He would say I dont care and just shrug until we were like dad seriously take it off and just hold it in your hand lol.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
After my oldest son was born, I was so proud that I didn't mind carrying any baby stuff. I would lug around car seats, diaper bags, bottles, etc.
I think that even if my first born was a girl, which would naturally mean a pink diaper bag, I wouldn't mind carrying it. I will be so full of pride, and carry that pink accessory like a badge of honor.
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
17 Feb 11
See that is just wonderful parenting! I think more men need to be this way. Why should they be embarrassed to carry a pink diaper bag when they have a baby girl. I mean a diaper bag is pretty obvious what it is. Even if the baby wasy in another part of the store with the mother for some reason and the father had the diaper bag it still wouldnt look like a purse.
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
15 Feb 11
Personally I would likely think of that before I bought the bag. I never would have tried to make hubby carry a pink bag or my purse or anything like that. I found a long time ago that it's how a man feels when he is with a woman that determines how well he likes her. And my home is more masculine looking than feminine, all based on that same thing. (happily and hotly married 30 years.)
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I think a purse and a diaper bag are very different things. I never asked him to hold my purse ever but I did ask him to hold the pink diaper bag which he wouldnt. To me thats like not carrying your daughter because she has a pink dress on. It goes with her. I didnt actually buy any of the diaper bags I have though they were all given to me as gifts.
@Celanith (2327)
• United States
15 Feb 11
My husband had no problem do a lot of things some supposedly macho manly men won't do. We raised four children and no he would hot have had a problem. He even has a pink shirt he at times wears and he is a very masculine. He used to be a logger now he is a school teacher. Any man who has a problem really is selfish and very egotistical and in my opinion rather stupid. Not much of a man to me.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I always just told my ex that the decorating was up to me. My husband must have hated that he had to live in a pink house lol. My parents own the house. It was pink when my mother was little then they painted it white. White is boring but oh well. Then after us living here about 5 years my mother decided to have my dad paint the house pink lol. Pink is my favorite color but I didnt like the idea of the outside of the house being pink but I didnt own the house so what could I do. After it was painted though I loved it.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I think that it is very funny what some men view as feminine and therefore do not want to be associated with it. I know quite a lot of men that like flowers, and while a flower pattern might not be their first choice in decoration, I doubt they would have a problem with it, either. If it is bedding, then that is changeable - they could alternate the flowers with something that he considers more "manly" to satisfy them both.
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@la_chique (1498)
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14 Feb 11
I dont see whats wrong with a father carrying his daughter's diaper bag whatever color it is! At the end of the day, she's a girl so she has a pink bag. My other half stands in the middle of clothes shops holding my handbag whilst I try on clothes lol. I could see if ur ex would have had a problem with doing that, but certainly not a diaper bag.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Aww that is so nice that your other half holds your hand bag while you try on clothes. My ex never would have done that lol. He definitly had a problem just holding the diaper bag since it was pink. I honestly think no matter what color the diaper bag was he would give me a hard time about it just making one excuse after another to not have to help out. He was so lazy.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Feb 11
My childrens' father would not have minded carrying the diaper bag for me no matter what color it was. He would not have been afraid or embarrassed that the diaper bag was pink, or blue. he would have just carried it because he wanted to help and because he cared.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
15 Feb 11
Thats how my dad is. When he went shopping he would hold my mothers purse if she needed him to. He would also carry all the bags of purchases my mother or my sister and I bought. I know that if she had asked him to carry a pink diaper bag he would have done it. I think men like that are awesome and I think the ones who arent like that are childish and more concerned about their manhood.
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
19 Feb 11
Hmm you could be right about that. I was 20 and he was 21 when my daughter was born. His excuse for not holding the diaper bag was always that it was pink and he is a guy. I doubt that was the full reason and you might be onto something with your guess lol.
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
That is wonderful that you are so kind to carry your wifes shoulder bag without embarrassment. Heck maybe you are embarrassed but you do it for her anyway that kind of makes it even sweeter. That to me is very mature. I think thats what men should do. They dont have to wear it on their shoulders which would like girly lol but if they just holds the straps in their hand while they stand next to you is totally fine I think. I never asked my ex to ever hold my purse but I did ask him with the pink diaper bag and he wouldnt do it.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
I would be embarrassed if she's not around and people would see me looking at things in the women's section carrying her shoulder bag . I think your ex was ashamed of carrying the diaper bag not because it's pink but because people would think that he's a father already.
. I think your ex was ashamed of carrying the diaper bag not because it's pink but because people would think that he's a father already.1 person likes this
@pastigger (612)
• United States
14 Feb 11
My husband would carry a pink diaper bag. Even thought sometimes he is convinced our house is being taken over by pink! When we go her a tricycle he did ask that I get her the red one which I was fine with. He is a really good daddy he will even play dolls with her, I tried to help I got her a couple of boy dolls for Christmas so he wouldn't always have have a girl doll. I think most of the time I ended up carrying the diaper bad anyway as he always wanted to carry her. He still carries her most of the time when we are out, if she will let him now that is. Before we had my daughter my husband would hold my purse for me too.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Well getting a red tricycle instead of a pink one is actually a good idea because if you have another child they can use that tricycle as well even if its a boy. But letting a boy ride on a pink tricycle people will look at you and the child funny. They will feel bad for the little boy that he has to ride on a pink tricycle. My mother knows how much I love pink so the fact that most of the things in my home are pink is pretty much her fault for being me so many pink presents lol.
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
For some reason my ex would buy me pads but he wouldnt carry a pink diaper bag lol. I really think that buying pads and tampons would be more embarrassing then carrying a pink diaper bag for your child. He is lucky that I never sent him anywhere alone with our child then he would have been forced to carry the child and the pink diaper bag.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
15 Feb 11
Of course my husband will carry whatever that has to be carried, without any such childish fuss. Its for the family and all help is always welcome, specially with the baby. Nobody’s actually asking your ex to wear pink!!!
@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
That is very true. I didnt expect my ex to wear a pink jacket I just asked him to carry the pink diaper bag or hold it for a second while I went to the bathroom. Nope wouldnt happen. He refused to do that. I think to that it is very childish to be so worried about a color. Its not like I sent him to the store alone with the diaper bag we always had the kids with us and its obvious when the baby is right next to us that the diaper bag was for the baby not a purse for my ex lol.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I really like the variety in the diaper bags these days. I am not very "girlie", and I do not like the color pink, so the diverse selection of colors, cartoon characters and styles is very appealing, and I think that just about anybody could find a diaper bag that they liked. There are some that look more like a briefcase or gym bag than a diaper bag, which might be the ones that you were referring to as the ones made especially for Dads, and these are very nice as well.
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@shaggin (72112)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Pink is my favorite color and to me a diaper bag is a diaper bag its main purpose is just to hold my kids clothes and diapers and whatever else I need to put in there. At a place where I get free things I found this really nice diaper bag its all brown and then has little circles of stitching that is light pink. I use it as a diaper bag/purse. I dont care if my youngest is a boy I like the diaper bag and it holds what I need so thats all I care.
