"Wise men say , only fools rush in , but I can't help falling in Love with You"
@Hatley (163776)
Garden Grove, California
February 14, 2011 10:53am CST
fellow mylotters, those lines from a old beatle's song have been
plaguing me today but thats appropriate for today anyway. And too
so many times it seems that people do rush in at first love'
only to regret it after tying the knot. But sometimes it really
happens and I can vouch for that. After kissing too many frogs who
stayed frogs, I met the man I knew I would marry over an argument
about whose idea of a surgical bed was the best. His dark eyes
sparkled with amusement as he light heartedly argued his cause
and I got all hot. oh my whats going on then it hit me I was falling
in love for the first time in my life, real love. We married six
weeks later the dumpy little nurses aide everyone thought to be at old maid
and the new orderly whom all the unmarried nurses were going ape over.
So your take on falling in love at first sight.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
14 Feb 11
Oh I do recalling kissing a few frogs in my day as well. 
Happy to report that my frog is quite the prince.. We live together now for 5 years so still working on making him my king. 
Happy Valentines Day to you. 
Happy to report that my frog is quite the prince.. We live together now for 5 years so still working on making him my king.
Happy Valentines Day to you.
@GardenGerty (160697)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I mostly met frogs in my teens. A few at college as well, but I did not kiss them. Wishing all my friends a great day, Valentine's or not. It is a wonderful MyLot day, and now we are off to a Valentine lunch.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Feb 11
Hi fellow lotters g arden gerty and suny In about two hours we are having a Valentines party here at Gold Crest with music and singings, the ways most parties here go it will not make any big waves of excitement.
Happy v alentines day to all of you up there.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
14 Feb 11
Only six weeks? 
You were lucky, both of you
I could talk a lot about falling in love at first sight - and how it is often one-sided too - but I won't 
You were lucky, both of you
I could talk a lot about falling in love at first sight - and how it is often one-sided too - but I won't 2 people like this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Feb 11
hi diana and fellow mylotters yes in a way I think it was as he
was totally opposite of me in so m any ways yet we alawys seem
to vomplete each o ther.for example he trusted most anyone strangers or not while I had a healthymistrust of door to door salesmen and
car lot sales men so was able to make him see you cannot always
trust strangers trying to sell you something equivalent to the'brooklyn bridge. On the other hand hw made me regain my self esteem. I was very' lucky as once before it was first sight with me and not with him and later I realized I was too young and only in love with love just
infatuation not rea love at all.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
14 Feb 11
six weeks and it was true love... Wow that had to be a match made in heaven!!
Happy V-Day mysd..
Wow that had to be a match made in heaven!!
Happy V-Day mysd.. 2 people like this
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
14 Feb 11
OMG what a romantic story!
The last time I fell head-over-heels in love was June 2, 1999. The first day at work, I was too busy getting through the day and didn't see him. The next day I saw him for the first time and it was like having the air knocked out of me! I could barely look him in the eye but in time, I seriously began crushing on him. NOT GOOD when you consider I was married, albeit unhappily. Fast forward four years--we had a harmless (or so I thought) flirtation/friendship at work, but to me, it was a pipe dream--I thought he was with this other woman. He insisted it was nothing more than friendship, a roommate situation if you will. Stupidly I fell for that line, but I had led a rather sheltered life and believed him. My husband blew everything out of proportion--I NEVER dreamed of doing anything! but he announced he was moving out--turns out be planned it and had stopped paying our joint bills for months! Anyhow, I foolishly got involved with E. and ended up falling HARD for him. Fast forward nearly seven years and he just stopped calling me--not a word since. I was planning to break it off that weekend anyway, but his method was horribly selfish. And I've since figured out that I was merely his mistress--he wasn't happy with what he had, so he decided to take advantage of my trusting nature.
Part of me will always wonder what happened, why it happened and what went wrong. He was the first man who I loved and was in love with. I am not so much angry with the fact that I was his mistress but with the fact that the clues were there and I refused to acknowledge them.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I was born into a family of STRONG personalities: Dad was a Leo, Mom a Taurus, Sister an Aries and I am a Scorpio (with Libra traits).
About all my parents had in common was that they were both college educated--Mom was from a poor family in the city who won a full scholarship to college while Dad was raised in an upper middle-class suburban family that worked his way through a different college. So my mom was a bit of a snob while dad was down to earth--very confusing as a kid! As an adult, I'm not sure just what my parents saw in each other (Mom passed in '02, Dad in '08), but I'm sure there had to be something because they fought a lot while I grew up but remained married 37 years.
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
22 Mar 11
I am currently the only member of my generation in the family who is divorced, and I did try to work on our marriage. And now I'm living with someone who forgets I'm sick too most days and won't do anything to help himself. I'd take care of him IF I wasn't working a physical job and sick with MS. It makes me sad--I can almost hear my mom telling me to find someone to take care of me, and I know I deserve that now.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 11
hi scorpiobabes lol I am also a Scorpio born november 15th and I have most all the traits of a Scorpio too.loll.I guess there had to have
been something good but I just did not see it. my mom was hurt too'many times.but they refused to divorce and sometimes I think they sort of'liked their battles.why I have no ides.they never separated and mymom would not hear of a word said against my dad.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
15 Feb 11
Great story! I don't know if it could ever happen to me. I have had guys that I became interested in and as soon as I started showing interest...they left! The last time that happened was in the early 90s. I have made no attempt since that time to find a man. I hope you have a long and happy life together!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 11
hi daeckardt I knew when we married I did not want my husband to treat me like my dad treated my mom.She was sort of his possesion, so much yonger and pretty and he was old enough to be her father.In fact her own father, my dear grandpa was just three years older than my dad was.She was his prize possession in fac t and he was very jealous if she ev en spoke o another man.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi jdyrj thats your opinion and I respect it.but no ours was not lust a t first sight. back in 1958 men actually respected women and one with good morals did not just grab a newly met woman and toss her on the bed and have at it.We actually waited until we were married,shocking is it not. now days most anything seems to go.sorry if i was wrong about The beatles but really is that such a crime. I do feel a bit irritated that you suggest lust at first sight remember back in the lat fifties we had real morals, we did not have a t enth as many unwed mothers at 14 as we do
now.So as I respect your opinion please resp;ect mine.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I believe that to love someone you have to know them. Thats what loving someone is all about. The song lyric from the 50's, "To know,know,know him is to love,love,love him and i do."
Sorry if i offended you with my personal opinion. I didnt mean to. Ive always enjoyed your discussions. All im saying is that you can have a physical attraction before actually getting to know someone. The getting to know them (their personallity) is when love developes.
Im sure there was much more respect with dating going on back then too. As well as immoral stuff going on too. My grandmother was born in 1916. She was pregnant when she wed my grandfather at age 16. The baby wasnt his. He knew it too. She was pregnant when they met. My grandfather was a child that was born out of wedlock. That may be why he married my pregnant grandmother. My mother had a shotgun wedding. She was pregnant at age 15 with my sister. Out of 3 aunts only one was not pregnant before marriage.
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@celticeagle (167017)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Feb 11
My take on love at first sight? I fell for a guy online about two years ago and everytime I see a pic of him my heart jumps. He lives clear across the US. Yes, at first sight. I am such a romantic I believe in all that. I think when it happens at first sight it is a nice feeling. Maybe I will again before my last days.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Feb 11
high celticeagle happy valentines day I know a lot of people thought i was nuts but it worked and we were happy so that was all that really mattered.I still am a romantic at heart which is odd as going by my own parents marriage i saw only fights and put down and verbal abuse from my dad. he was at least thirty years older than my mom. they should never have married each other. he was too old and and she was too young.
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@celticeagle (167017)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Feb 11
Happy Valentines Day to you too, Hatley. You probably brought the romantic side of you to the forefront to erase alot of the negativity from the verbal abuse you heard. I didn't explain that very well.
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
15 Feb 11
They did. The only thing I ever remember them fighting over was bridge (the card game not the things over rivers and rail road tracks). Mom finally quit playing because of it.
However, when there were people, like her neighbor in the next apartment, that when they were short a fourth, mom would sometimes join them. They kind of thought she was a bridge card shark because she had played competitively with dad and knew the game much better than those social bridge players.
In my mind, the song from South Pacific, Some Enchanted Evening, is the song that is played in that moment:
Some enchanted evening
You may see a stranger,
you may see a stranger
Across a crowded room
And somehow you know,
You know even then
That somewhere you'll see her
Again and again.
Some enchanted evening
Someone may be laughin',
You may hear her laughin'
Across a crowded room
And night after night,
As strange as it seems
The sound of her laughter
Will sing in your dreams.
Who can explain it?
Who can tell you why?
Fools give you reasons,
Wise men never try.
Some enchanted evening
When you find your true love,
When you feel her call you
Across a crowded room,
Then fly to her side,
And make her your own
Or all through your life you
May dream all alone.
Once you have found her,
Never let her go.
Once you have found her,
Never let her go!
Granted, the crowded room in his case was the dining room at her dormitory where he worked in the kitchen to help pay his way through school (even with the GI bill) still....
In my mind, the song from South Pacific, Some Enchanted Evening, is the song that is played in that moment:
Some enchanted evening
You may see a stranger,
you may see a stranger
Across a crowded room
And somehow you know,
You know even then
That somewhere you'll see her
Again and again.
Some enchanted evening
Someone may be laughin',
You may hear her laughin'
Across a crowded room
And night after night,
As strange as it seems
The sound of her laughter
Will sing in your dreams.
Who can explain it?
Who can tell you why?
Fools give you reasons,
Wise men never try.
Some enchanted evening
When you find your true love,
When you feel her call you
Across a crowded room,
Then fly to her side,
And make her your own
Or all through your life you
May dream all alone.
Once you have found her,
Never let her go.
Once you have found her,
Never let her go!
Granted, the crowded room in his case was the dining room at her dormitory where he worked in the kitchen to help pay his way through school (even with the GI bill) still....1 person likes this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Feb 11
hi ElicBxn I hope your dad and mom had a lovely long marriage.'some here do not believe in love at first site and htats okay too as vive
la difference. My parents fought as long as I knew hem and often I wondered why they stayed married. I hated those fights and my dad had an acid tongue and abused mymom verbally. I sometimes think that is the worst kind of abuse.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Feb 11
Hi there Hatley,
What a cool story but I doubt you were a "dumpy little nurses aide". I'm sure you charmed him equally. Do I believe in love at first sight? Oh yes...every time I fell in love, it was at first sight and if not then I chalked it up to destiny and fate.
It's the happily ever after part of the story that I really have trouble with. Doesn't the story go that you kiss the frog and he turns into a prince? Well if so, I got it all backwards. All my princes turn to frogs or toads. I just enjoy the prince part while it lasts. Oh and p.s. that was Elvis that did that song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFHxTHrr4yo&feature=related enjoy! Happy Heart Day, Hatley!
It's the happily ever after part of the story that I really have trouble with. Doesn't the story go that you kiss the frog and he turns into a prince? Well if so, I got it all backwards. All my princes turn to frogs or toads. I just enjoy the prince part while it lasts. Oh and p.s. that was Elvis that did that song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFHxTHrr4yo&feature=related enjoy! Happy Heart Day, Hatley!1 person likes this
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Feb 11
Oh Hatley, I'm so so sorry. I can imagine what you went through somewhat and of course not entirely. I'm a parent and that is a parents worst nightmare. It really is. My girls are grown and I still worry about them. I just don't think I could handle it if something were to happen to them. And Now I've got grandchildren to worry about. I can only pray that my fears are all unfounded. I'm sorry for your loss, Hatley.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 11
hi sid yes indeed he was the king and nobody come outdo him; yes
UB840 was fine but yes Elvis was much much better too.You know if
God had seen fit to not take her we would have cared for her all
our lives as she was so sweet and so loving and she could learn
a lot but fate saw it otherwise. So I knew G od knew best so we
accepted it.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 11
greenmoo laughter and fun he was like a bright light when I felt gloomy, warming me making me laugh. the bad parts I do not dwell
on his 3 packs a day smoking habit for example, it finally killed
him.He was such a delight with our two babies, taking part in bathing them and putting them to bed. We had a lot of fun and some bad
patches but we handled them together as a team. together meant half the load.oh I see a typo above.It should read killed him and left me to go on alone.but greenmoo I am so glad that I kissed him and told him that I loved him that last night. As he was unconscious when I got to him the next morning.We never know whats going to happen tomorrow .
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
i met a frw frogs.. but not that many since i immediately met the right prince for me
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Feb 11
hi jazel juan Yes I did that too and I remember one set uo date where I got to the cafe where I was to meet this Mr. sullivan and I saw him at once. He had described himself as short, sandy colored hair and wearing a blue suit.it was a very warm day and most were in shorts He was balding and he was at least 25 years older than I was and I was 21 then. I went to a phone booth and called the cafe and asked that they tell the man in the blue suit that his date is taken ill and wont be there.I remember the waitress saying," oh that old geezer with the bald spot and that old blue suit,sure I will tell him. blind date eh?" then she waved to me,I know I blushed as she had nailed me perfectly I learned to really hate blind dates as I had to do this myself.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi again yes I often wondered what I would have said to him as he was old enough to be my dad. I felt sort of mean doing it that way but maybe it was just as well. I hopehe did meet a nice lady his own age and find himself a love too.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
wow pretty funny and scary hahaha was just imagining what you would say to him? iicckkk!! hehehe
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Falling in love at first sight to me is like gambleing. Is it wrong? To some..maybe..but isn't everything to some? Can it be possible..Oh yes..does it last?..sometimes..either way..sometimes its worth the risk. The question is the risk and who is willing to take it.
Can it be possible..Oh yes..does it last?..sometimes..either way..sometimes its worth the risk. The question is the risk and who is willing to take it. 1 person likes this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 11
hiJenInTn yes it was sort of a success story. it can be really risky if the people are too young and not mature yet as a lot of work has to vo into any marriage to keep it alive and happy.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
JenINten I think for me I was mature enough I knew what i wanted and the sparkle in his eyes and the grin on his face grabbed me and his kindness
and unconditional love gathered me in. Our lasted 33 years ending with his fatal heart attack. I have been a widow now since 1991 and oddly had two marriage proposals not long after. I did not want to remarry as I had the best one, the one meant for me.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
15 Feb 11
So this is special for valentine day, a beautiful love story, you know mine was an arranged marriage by my parents, we were given a chance to see each other in presence of all, only after our horoscopes based upon our birth time, place date matched, and our parents almost fixed up the marriage from their side.
I never had any love affairs with any girl, i was married in 1966, kalyani was 16 than.
Here in arranged marriages, the divorse rate is almost zero.
Thanks for sharing
Cheers.
BE HAPPY ALWAYS.
Regards
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 11
hi professor I have read those statics before and I knolw my coumtry
has a very high divorce rate and now young p eople do not even try
to marry and just live together. I would not have ever wanted to
do that as to me still it is immoral.Really Professor in these
'arranged marriages you must be doing something right. I know
my Indian friend Shiv and his wife had an arranged marriage and they
seemed very much in love.Perhaps there is a lot going o that idea'of horoscopes matching,. I do know that often in arranged marriages they
do fall in love the longer they are married.I never mock other cultures as we can all learn from each other.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
22 Mar 11
I wish, you are born in India in your next life lol
I honor your words.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi raj7shot thats your opinion and as such I fully respect it.
too not all falling 
in love at first sight work and mainly I think
that love has to be nurtured just like a p lant.if you do not waterr
and feed a plant it will wither and die. if you do not show you love
how much you love him or her, it begins to die also. and with unkind
'words and too little communication that love will begin to turn to
somegthing else perhaps indifference or downright dislike. A good
marriage takes a bit of work and nourishing on both sides to make'it really thrive.
in love at first sight work and mainly I think
that love has to be nurtured just like a p lant.if you do not waterr
and feed a plant it will wither and die. if you do not show you love
how much you love him or her, it begins to die also. and with unkind
'words and too little communication that love will begin to turn to
somegthing else perhaps indifference or downright dislike. A good
marriage takes a bit of work and nourishing on both sides to make'it really thrive.@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 11
hi raj7shot yes it can be fantastic with a lot of love and work done to keep a marriage thriving.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi gabs yes I was so lucky as not all falling in love at first sight works out. We really supported each other all the way through and it
was so good to have him to depend on always no matter what.life dealt us some hard blowsI had to have an emergency hysterectomy and he had cancer of the colon,. He had to have a colostomy which was so hard for him to adjust too but we stuck to each other. wee did not abandon ship when we ran into icebergs so to speak. I was very lucky in my choice of men.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
25 Feb 11
I don't believe in love at first sight. However lust at first sight is something else. I have experienced this several times myself, thought it was love back then of course but now know it to be the chemistry that occurred between that person and I at first sight.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi mstickle yes lust at first sight has done in more people. real love at first sight is rarer but it does happen really. I think that real love at first sight happens mainly to older people who are wiser and know whatthey want too. that chemistry is there but there are more and better ways to know real love as you love unconditionally too.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
18 Feb 11
Your story is not only romantic but it gives so many hope that there really is true love and it is possible for it happen almost immediately. I do believe that it is certainly feasible to consider that a person can fall in love at first sight. Sometimes when you know…You just ‘know’…And you and your beloved husband are a perfect example of this. When I met my partner I knew he was not the type of guy I normally fancied and yet I ‘knew’ there was something special between he and I.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi paula thats it, its so hard to put into words but you
just know when you have met the person designed just for
you. there is an instant attraction but it never fades in
true love. if its just lust it will not last. real true love
makes you want to have that special someone by you all the
time and you dream of having children and a home only with
him.
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@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 11
i don't believe in falling in love at the first sight. but somehow i can't deny that the feelings are true.
so i need time to make sure that the feelings are really true. falling in love at the first sight is yes but not with the rush
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi ifa I did not until I did fall in love and we were together every possible moment and as we neither one were young we did not want a loo ng engagement. we wanted to be married and raise a family of our
own. I have never regretted marrying him nor have I regretted not waiting for months. we knew we loved each other,we knew we were no longer kids so why wait.33years proves we knew what we were doing.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
I think I've gone through something like that a couple of times. And I've burned by it a couple of times too. I should have learned my lesson the first time, but I didn't. Nowadays, I take everything with a grain of salt. I could have the feelings, and the same sensations, then I look myself in the mirror, and say, "Oh grow up!".
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Disaster usually happens nowadays with first love. That's what i have to say. During the old days where morality was so much higher, first love would usually be the last love. Unfortunately nowadays where the world seems so much smaller, our first love might just end up as someone else's first love, or our partners might see another first love, or even maybe our partners might imagine having first loves everyday. We end up in disaster.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 11
hi globaldoc yes today morals are almost forgotten as p eople meet fallin lust not love, shack up for three months and he goes out with another girl so she kicks him out and the whole process starts over again with another man. nothing lasts they claim nobody can stay in love, how sad and how very pathetic as real honest love does last and as you and your husband face good and bad together the love grows deeper. We would never have thought of living together first as to us that was immoral.
