Do you purposely draw attention to yourself?
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
February 14, 2011 5:01pm CST
With all the discussions lately I've seen about high heels and cute clothes and of course during the summer all the ones about short shorts and bikinis and such, I would like to know how the people of this community here feels about this.
So... do you purposely draw attention to yourself, by wearing flashy clothes, high heels, lots of accessories, dyeing your hair off-colors, etc? Do you engage in BEHAVIOR that causes people to look at you more than they would if you didn't? What are you trying to get by doing this? A date? LOL!
I'm not talking about if it just seems to HAPPEN to you, I'm meaning do you PURPOSELY do things to attract it? If you do, WHY? I hate getting unwanted attention from strangers because most of the time, it's not pleasant attention. Catcalls and comments in front of small kids is just CRAZY. It's even stupider in front of your spouse. Does anybody have suggestions for how to rebuff it? I used to get SOO mad at my kids for doing crazy things that would cause strangers to stop and look at us or listen to our conversations. I think kids - younger ones - may do this inadvertently, but older kids, preteens and teens definitely do it on purpose. Man, it makes me just want to put a paper bag over my head...
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13 responses
@34momma (13882)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I am a woman of a certain age. I am a wife and mother and I prefer to get attention with my personaility and persona, and not a to shor skirt and 4 inch heels. i am not knocking anyone who wants to dress that way, if that's your thing then go for it. it's just not my choice
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I don't purposely draw unwanted attention but I do like dressing up to go out. I think for the people that wears "a cloth" that barely covers the boobies and the bums want to draw attentions from people. When I go to the casino, I saw all the girls do that to go to the club, they can get as much as attention they want.
For me, I like nice classy clothes, I do like people gives me compliment but not those kind of attentions as I have mentioned.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Feb 11
I'm a married mother of two children. I really don't need to have attention from anyone that is not in my family because I'm really not out to impress anyone. However before I was married I still really wasn't out to impress anyone. I figured that people could just take me as I am and if they didn't like it then it was their loss not my own. I've never been the kind of girl that likes to wear things short and tight and I can't even walk in high heels.
@Bipolargandolf (9)
• United States
15 Feb 11
some people would call this a "drama queen," gender inclusive of course
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
14 Feb 11
I must admit I like bright clothes and sparkles, I love to dress up but I don't do it to draw attention to myself because I am a very shy person, I just love nice clothes and the ones I like are usually a little bright.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
15 Feb 11
Hi. mommyboo. No. I don't go out like that in this kind of way. I will make sure that I wear clothing that does not show too much of my skin and revealing curves for others to see. It is bad enough that people can already see my body without me showing it off. I don't like drawing attention to myself on purpose. When I was a teenager, I enjoyed having attention on me, but now that I am all grown up, I don't like that kind of attention anymore.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
14 Feb 11
In my younger days, yes, I did dress seductively. I can't really say it was "on purpose". I dressed like that simply because it made me feel good about ME!!! As I've gotten older. I've learned to love me just for being ME!!! I NO longer need the stares of men to feel attractive as I NO longer need the approval of ANYONE ELSE!!! I'm at the stage in my life where I truly believe that if you can't love me just like I am, I DON'T NEED YOU in my life!!!! 
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
I prettify myself in order for me to feel confident. In addition, i would like my hubby to be proud of my appearance and my friends to find me pretty . But i don't do that in order to attract attention, because i don't want that. I tend to shy away from that.
That's why, i only wear simple yet pretty dress. I like wearing my denim pants with nice blouses at the office during the wash day of our uniforms. I just would like to be as inconspicuous as i am , but pretty when you take a good look at me. 
@gnmfashion (53)
• Israel
15 Feb 11
not everyone who draw this attention do it on purpose. most people and teens today are just expressing themselves in many different ways and one of those ways is by making an original or fashional appearance.
i usually don't like the attention but once in a while, when i want to feel better with myself i put on a pair of high hills and like the attention, it makes my ego feel a little bit better when a guy hits on me on the street.
there is such thing called freedom of expression.
@LTL143 (57)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
with this case, many girls have confidence to wear what they want more likely with sexy dress, high hills, shorts, bikini etc. as they feel they look more beautiful and sexy while wearing all these stuffs. They mean it to get attention from others and be appreciated.
If i choose what to wear, I prefer to wear descent dress which perfectly match with my character. no need to pretend. It also looks sexy depends on how you will use and carry your personality. It would much be appreciated with respect.
