Would you also be hurt if you were in my position??

Taken for granted really hurts. If your boyfriend keeps on doing this, then I think it's time for you to think it over. You can give him an ultimatum but must also be ready for his answer. If he can't let you go,them make him prove that he loves you by making you as his priority over his buddies. If he can't,then so sorry to say that you're relationship with him is going nowhere!

Hi Chiyosan!. I think you got problem there, honestly maybe you man doesn't know how to treat his woman. I think you should tell him what your feeling exactly. We are strong bond family but when my brother in love with someone he put thats person as priority than us. I think you had different expectation than him, just told what you want. I think you need to make your life meet new people. So you will have any thing else to do beside meet him.

Well I can understand him driving for her mom but with his buddies I could not. I think for this to be solved you need a long and serious talk about this. One thing I would advice you that when you are ready to open this issue up you should not put your emotions over this topic. This could just ruin everything. Be as diplomatic as you can and if your point is not acceptable then meet halfway and compromise.

First thing is that your relationship is really on an adjustment stage wherein total commitment can't be given. Definitely, on his point of view, it would be his family first before you, not because he is a mama's boy but that's the reality. Feel sad if you are a wife already and his attitude is still like that. Being prioritized if what you mean is that you should be chosen first over his family depends on the situation. You must understand that as a son, he still has obligation to his family. You are not being selfish..it's a natural feeling though you must widen your understanding. Have a nice day!

I have been in this situation before.....and asked the same question: Is it just me being selfish? It is not about you being selfish, it is about how your partner makes you feel. You cannot spend a lifetime with someone who makes you feel bad in any way. However, if you have not discussed how he REALLY makes you feel on a regular basis, you should do so. If things don't change after that, you should consider moving on. There may be many opportunities to be missed if you continue to feel bad or hurt throughout the course of your relationship. I hope this makes sense to you......Good luck on whatever you decide.

...nothing is wrong with how you feel chiyosan. it is but normal for any girl to feel depressed in situations like this. but i think it's about time to think things over for the two of you. it will be best if you could sit down and talk about the problem before it become any worse and further hurt you more...in this way, you will be able to discuss the feelings you have towards each other and be able to find a solution to mend the relationship and keep it still intact... ...just hang tough my dear, heartaches are part of life...it will make you a stronger person...

If I am in your shoes, I would feel bad, sad and hurt too. It is hurting to be taken for granted and that your special days are being postponed for some things which are sudden when in fact he knows he has to spend time with you. I was in that same situation and I know the feeling. And I don't want to reminisce that time. Although, I am not saying that you have no future together since I chose to be out with the relationship. A while ago, I just heard a video of a certain Pastor. He mentioned about the concept of true love and relationship. He said, a man seeks respect from a woman. On the other hand, a woman seeks for love and security. When a man shows love to a woman and the woman felt secured with it, hence she will naturally submits to the man and gives respect to him. A woman should not be taken for granted if a man seeks for respect. Therefore, you are worthy enough to be loved and cared. You should not only be the one adjusting.

Hi. chiyosan. I am very sorry that you are feeling this way. I really am. Talk with him and let him know how you are feeling. If he does not want to act right, then leave him alone. Don't cry over spilled milk. A relationship takes two mature people that want to be dedicated to each other. You should never feel as if you have to travel this road all by yourself. Give him a chance to show you if he is the man that he says that you are. If he does not live up to what he says, then maybe it would be time for you to consider other alternatives.

You are going through a stressful period. I think communication is the best key to every problem.Just make the issues clear standing between both of you. I think he is just taking you for granted.He is not giving you priority and how you feel for him.If he feels that he is justified in doing everything that he is doing with you then there is no future for both of you because he cannot carry commitments on his shoulder which is obvious from his behavior.

Hello, Chiyosan. hush now, dear. We all get hurt sometimes, but, that doesn't mean it is the end of our relationship. sometimes we all need to make sacrifices in order for our partners to go their own way , but, eventually, they will return especially when the love is true. Why don't you talk to your bf. Tell him what and how you feel. That you resented the fact that he keeps on making promises that he is not able to keep. Tell him what exactly you want from him. Men are sometimes oblivious and clueless that they already hurt us. They are insensitive brutes. As for what happened last night,try to understand him. Would you want him to say no to his mum and sister? I don't think you'll love the idea. But, of course there are men who'd do that, but, they are only few. Most men are like your bf.

So sorry to hear that. To be frank, I myself will also be depressed if my boyfriend will treat me that way. I don't care if it is his mother or sister who is asking him to drive them but the point is, you have planned for that meeting beforehand and you as her girlfriend should be his priority unless it's emergency as in driving his mother to the hospital or what. And you said that it happened so many times already. I know you won't feel that bad if it was not done so frequently. Anyway, talk to you boyfriend. I know that we all love our parents and siblings but he has a lovelife and you must get an equal attention also and not disregarded over them.

Sorry to read about the ongoing issues between you and your boyfriend and maybe i will not be of comfort. I do not believe you are being selfish as if we can not be herd, felt and or appreciated by the person for whom we love then it does make us feel low and depressed and that chiyosan is not healthy in any relationship. It sounds like you are being take for granted, for which some people while in a relationship feel that they can do this as their significant other will always be siting their awaiting. You have to find someway on how to really speak to him and discuss your feelings about how the relationship is going and on how unhappy it is making you. As if you do not do so as soon as you can I am afraid to say it will not get any better on it's own. I do not believe your future can be halted by this but then that means that a step towards mending it is quite necessary unless he finds there is nothing wrong with the relationship and you have explained your true feelings. At which time I would say that it is time to heal you.

This is a common case of taking someone you love for granted. It is not because he does not love you but it is because he assumes that you would undrstand what he is doing. He cannot prioritize his responsibilities and he expects you to still understand. Your BF seems insensitive and I say you dont deserve that. For almost two years? I say make him notice you. If you want to call it quits, go ahead. It is not being selfish, it is looking out for yourself. Make him chase you for a change.