Don't start a discussion here..... please.

Hi Shibham. I had posted almost similar discussion some time back here. The first thing is it is my prerogative if or not I comment back your response and you can not stop me from posting as many discussion as I can. Now in such situation where would you be standing? And if you remind me that I wont get money for not commenting I would say I am not bothered about money. This would be the face to face talk if we take up your post. People forget that those here are not for a good and easy money nor they realize that unless they put their comment it would lose its label of being a discussion topic. I wonder sometime that we are not here for discussion. If anything can be done on this issue only the admin can do, not we.

You are right, it is irritating to give our time and thoughts and get no interaction in return. I'm often disappointed when joining a discussion about a different religion or culture and I try hard to bring up some questions and points in a way that does not offend but invites a reply, only to have it ignored. I learn nothing that way. I need to stop patronizing this kind of myLotter.

I agree, it is frustrating. The easiest way to handle this, after you see they wont respond, take them out of your friend group

Hi Shibham Hmmm so this is what is bothering my dear brother... ok, do one thing respond to good people only - I mean those who respond and comment on their discussions... and occasionally when you think you can spare some time to those who will not respond, do them the favor too... Problem Solved... But yes, I see the other side too... where I take this as an advice and somewhere I too fall in this category of lotters who dont respond to all those who comment on all their responders... But I try my best to interact with all of them... Because I love to interact with people and feel happy when I have company

Hi Shibham! I always assumed that they are tired answering all the comments till they can't reply back ours.Sometimes I wonder why they create one if they are not intend to reply back.I would be happy if I got many responses from others.If I can't reply it in one short I will make sure to come back and response till finish.We are not here just for the money.What is the point on creating discussion if they are not going to reply it back?

I see your point it is slightly annoying if someone starts a discussion and then never gets back to you, what's worse though is someone who picks and chooses who to respond to. If we've taken the time to comment on a discussion the least people could do is comment on our opinions. Here's hoping you respond to me lol.

hi shibham ...i am also of the same opinion...but sometimes it happens that u start a discussion and then you get busy in something...like recently i started a discussion and got busy with kids studies and also with the eye sight problem of my girl....but still i try my best to add comments to all the responses i get..though i may be late...happy mylotting !

I do reply to my responders after posting my discussions because I want to discuss the topic. Not like I just want to post something. Sometimes I respond to other's discussions, I would check the resonded tab afterwards because I want to see if the creater has said something or not, I would get disappointed if he didn't reply back...

When I have the time I will respond back to people who have responded to my discussions! Sometimes I just don't feel like doing it on certain days! Not everyone is on Mylot everyday! Not everyone has time! So get off our backs! I hate people who act perfect and you sure are acting like that!

Hello, dear. Did I miss something here. Have I forgotten to comment to your response to one of my discussions? If so, then I am guilty of this post. As much as possible, I am trying to comment to all the responses I get. But there are times that I feel so lazy and saying thank you also is not allowed here. Plus, I do not think that saying 'thank you for your response and I'll get back to you later" is a sensible thing to write, dear. I'd rather leave it blank for a moment then type a line or two whenever I truly have the time to do so. I couldn't help admitting that I have responses left un -commented until this very minute. It is not because I am completely ignoring them. i am just taking a break. As you may have noticed that most of my topics are emotionally stressful, I needed a break form the thought and would rather respond to other topics or start a new one again.But, it is my responsibility, to get back to my respondents. That is very clear to me, that's why even if I go to a turtle pace, I am getting back at those back logs I have. Oh, dear. I hope you wouldn't take this against me....

I really agree with you one hundred percent. It just makes me shake my head sadly when people start about a dozen or so topics in a row. Therefore, they are not going to be able to keep track of all of those topics on the best of times. Most certainly not enough to really keep track of all of the topics that they post. Really if you can't respond, then don't post a topic. There are a lot of times where I might miss a couple of responses here and there. However, I really try and get most of the responses. If nothing else, there are times where I set aside a day just to take care of responses that might be left over throughout the week. Still it does make the person feel valuable and that their opinion is valued. Therefore those people could return if they felt valued.

Hi dear, I just closed my topic about 15 days back with a similar pain. One of our friend who started nearly 40 discussions in a day and I responded 8 of which and not even for a single response she commented. How she will do it and I don't even think whether she is viewing all responses also. She was in such a hurry to come up with so many discussions one after another. It is my look that we are trying a lot to give our maximum effort to come back with a nice response for their topics. But, simply ignoring and abandoning our discussions are really a kind of ignorance and this was my theme also. Many people commented nicely for it and I think those who commented back on my discussion have seen your topic also and must be evaluating. Here in myLot, the circle of morality completes only when the discussion ends up with the first level of discussion and response and its comments. I always take care of this thing and I think this is the back bone as well as the corner stone of myLots's existence. People should realise the fact and identify where to concentrate and how to go ahed with the vigor and energized. Now my only issue is that I registered myLot with my office id and now myLot is officially blocked from my office and whatever responses come to my id from myLot cannot be answered. If I start on comment column, the sites goes off and I am getting a message saying that 'you are trying to access a site which is blocked' and hence, I cannot respond to my fellow people's comments and I got disappointed. However, for some of the friends I have already informed the fact and I will do some alternative adjustments to respond to my interactions live. What you mentioned is really a serious issue and we really feel bad, if they do not revert to us. The intensity exactly shows when we think about the fact that so much effort we have put to give them a fair response. Only my prayer is that people here should think little open and understand the facts, because we all are the members of the family and having a mutual understanding abut the things would make matter so easy and understandable. Thank-s

Oh my quite difficult indeed. It happens more times then many care for, but I suppose they are misinformed about how myLot works. I am one who only starts discussions that interests me so that I have plenty of room to comment back to each and every member. I do my hardest... I suppose the best thing to do is ignore and not respond if there are too many like that. I will sometimes if I can contribute go ahead and respond but then if I notice it is someone who is in this type of habit, I will include a line to let them know they are not earning. Now if they do not participate, it truly is their loss as they are not participating.

Hi Shibham, A very interesting opinion my friend-but maybe you should give the benefit of doubt vis-a-vis the discussion type.I see that discussions are of mainly two different types-like' I want to read this book/see this movie. How's it for those who already have done the same'. This is a very trivial discussion and maybe you are right in expecting responses and peeved when you get none/or only a few. Again, the other type of discussions are those which arouses the interest of the reader and is provocated to think.Here, the response is not very important but the subject matter is. As more and more people try to expand on the original thought, the initial thought gets developed into different ways-which benefits all- the discussion starter as well as the other people who expand on the original thought. Under these circumstances, I feel that if you do not get responses (directly) but if your idea is being scrutinized and shaped into many forms -some of which were invisible to you-then the satisfaction is the same. However, this is my opinion only as the one & only CLINT EASTWOOD says in one of his movies(Dirty-Harry series?) that opinions are like a**h***s-every idiot has one!

I understand the point you are making but I'm sorry I disagree. I would never tell any other myLot member not to start a discussion or only to participate if they can do so under specific conditions. Not everyone can devote as much time to myLot as they would like. Much of the time, offline life must take precedence. That doesn't mean that a member isn't welcome here or shouldn't come back. You can comment to other people in a discussion - you don't have to create a specific relationship or conversation only with the discussion starter. Other people can read what you type and THEY can respond to you too. There seems to be an over-riding sentiment among some people that someone completely OWNS a discussion that they start. That simply is NOT true. These are not "question and answer sessions." Any myLot member can participate anywhere they want, whenever they want. For example, someone could start a discussion and then, months or years later, they leave myLot. Their discussion stays. Anyone, at any time, can still participate in it... the original poster doesn't even need to be around for that discussion to continue. So, yes, it's appropriate, sensible and polite to be active in any discussion you start, I agree with you there... and I personally do try to comment back to every person who posts in a discussion I start, if I can post something of value in return... but it's very unfair to tell anyone NOT to participate. All are welcome here, for whatever time they can devote P.S. It's not a good idea to encourage people to "at least say thanks" when just thanking someone as a response, without contributing anything else, is against myLot's discussion guidelines.

I'm sorry to say I dont agree with you. In the mylot guidelines it wants us to keep the discussion going but only with quality responses. They dont want us just writing a simple thanks. So therefore if I cant think of a response to what someone wrote on my discussion then I dont write anything at all. I try my best to comment on all of the responses I get but sometimes I just cant come up with anything. Also sometimes it takes me a few days to get back to all the responses sometimes I dont have enough time to sit and comment on every comment on get as it comes in.

I rarely go back to a discussion I've already responded to. I used to but I don't think making responses to responses gets you any money on mylot. It doesn't count as a post. So really I don't care so much. I try to respond to people, but sometimes I just have nothing to say to their responses. Or sometimes life happens and I get busy. I understand your frustration but i can't say it bothers me at all.

Hiya Shibs, Sometimes I do try to answer some ones that are difficult for me as I don´t live in those Countries so you really don´t know how to go around it. You want to say something but you are not sure how altogether as there are other responses that might put you off. Still I get in there if I can and try and that is the most important thing if you mess it up you mess it all up but you learn from it. However I won´t answer really hard ones where things can really flare up I stay away from those most of the time. Hard to navigate on here sometimes and come to think of it anywhere else in this World. We are all different I suppose that is the way they are and no one will change them. They have to change on their own. Never mind Shibs you have all of us to respond to you and that´s quite a few don´t you think so?

That is a valid point, I know I didn't repsond much when I first joined, then I noticed how people respond to each other, so I followed the lead and started responding to as many of my comments as I can, except when I'm tired, then it might not be a few days or something. But yes, I do know it is courteous to respond, and also we can glean some valuable wisdom from fellow mylotters as well as being free to share your own wisdom in turn. I hope people get the message and we interact some more :-)

What you say is correct.Those who post responses would like know the reaction of the person who started the discussion.It is natural.But as I have observed some people take time to post comments on the response for various reasons like lack of time or preoccupied with some other problem or urgent matters.In such cases it is OK.One should post a comment on the response. I agree