Girl friends vs. potential boyfriend
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
February 15, 2011 6:13pm CST
My friend called me last night, wanting to cry. Yesterday, a guy she had been talking to for months invited her to dinner. However, she had already agreed to meet up with a group of girls to watch chick flicks and bash guys. Feeling bad about not going, she volunteered to pick up pizzas for the girls before heading off on her date. However, her gal pals decided to make her feel guilty for choosing a guy over them. They started making sarcastic remarks and my friend was close to tears when she called me afterwards.
Now I kind of understand both sides: the girls might have felt like she was choosing some guy she barely knew over them and plans they had made a week ago. Then my friend, who has never had a Valentine dinner before, really wanted to give this guy a try and thought that getting the girls their pizza should have made up for her backing out of their group-thing.
Whose side do you agree with? What advice would you give to my friend?
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5 responses
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I would definitely go with the girl. If they are her real friends, they would understand why she would pick the guy over them, and would even egg her on, as you said, it is her first ever Valentine dinner, and they should be happy for her. Friends should be able to be happy for you when something nice happens in your life. 
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Well, I hope they can fix whatever misunderstanding that they have. Friends should never make you choose, they should just be there on the sideline, ready to support you in whatever it is that you need. 
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
17 Feb 11
True. I was very happy when I heard she got her first Valentine dinner invitation and I had hoped her other friends would understand how special this was to her. Thanks for responding.
Happy mylotting
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
It's an easy one for me. She made plans with the girls first, and she should have stayed with them. I have learned one thing over my many years, and that's that guys will come and go, and you will have some of those girlfriends for life. Don't every dis your friends for a guy or a girl, they might not be there the next time you need them.
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
17 Feb 11
I think I see what you're saying: guys come and go, but your friends should always be there. I just wish that her friends' reacted a bit differently. Thanks for responding.
Happy mylotting.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I take side with your friend. Her friends should understand her better, they should have felt happy for her instead of giving her cold shoulder and sarcastic remarks. She was apologetic enough to delivered them some pizza and this proves that she's an sensitive girl to take note of how her friends would feel. I guess she's in the wrong company. She better gives- up those friends and she'll find more better than them with her good heart and disposition!
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Yeah, I thought delivering them pizza was a very nice thing to do. She is a very sensitive girl. Thanks for responding.
Happy mylotting
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
16 Feb 11
I'm definitely on your friend's side. As we know Valentine's day is a time for romantic meetings. And why this bunch of gals were together? Maybe each of them didn't have a date. So they were jealous, that's all! You should tell your friend to take it easy and look more closely to her "friends".
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I was also thinking they were jealous. Why else would they give her such a hard time? I mean I can understand being a little disappointed, but making the girl almost cry seems a bit extreme to me.
thanks for responding. happy mylotting.
@lakshmi11 (278)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Always do what you really love and let nobody tell you otherwise!-
If you are always authentic your friends will understand and love you anyway.
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
17 Feb 11
I like your sentiment. Thanks for responding
Happy mylotting
