who's your emotional sponge?

Hi Chiyosan, Well, I have my wife but most of the day she is away on work... So for anything else that needs immediate attention, I have mylot... seriously. A family of friends who are always around to give me the right thing - advice or shoulder whenever I need

Mom can at times be judgmental. That is because she wanted you to have the best and for you not to suffer. Try talking to her. If you find that is difficult, look for a person you are comfortable talking to. That person can be anybody you know. If you still have that difficulty, try to air your sentiments through MyLot. I'm seeing the number near your username and I can see that you are good at sharing your thought. You are lucky that you can express yourself and earn a lot at the same time. Met this guy almost 4 months back. Never imagine that in due time, he will eventually become my emotional sponge. He's very attentive to my needs that he will drop everything just to hear a piece of my mind. If not for him, I could have become insane from my overwhelming problems. I'm grateful that he came into my life. He is indeed a blessing.

Although this maybe one of the places where you can dump in your emotions but it is not enough. I think that you need to make sure you have at least one close friend at your side. I really think that it is not advisable to keep that to yourself or else it may just go overboard and become a full blown depression which sometimes is more serious one.

It's never too late to find a friend who will always be there for you, and maybe there are already those who will be there for you, all you need to do is make the first move. I have my boyfriend whom I can tell everything, and surprisingly, I found a great friend in one of my officemates, I can tell her everything and anything and she will tell me her opinions honestly (and sometimes brutally. LOL).. Anyway, it's really important that you have that someone whom you can talk to so you can get your feelings out, and so you won't feel so alone.. Also, you have mylot, and a million ears who will listen to you, and give you honest advice.

I always have my husband as my shock absorber or emotional sponge as you call it. Every time I get lonely or sad or bored, anything, I can always confide in him. I really love my husband. He's not only a husband to me but also a best friend. Both of us are best friends actually. Whenever he's feels down he also comes to me for comfort. Don't worry, I'm sure you'll find someone who can be your confidant. That person is just out there for sure :)

I dont have any sponge physically with me. I have a better one who never leaves me.... GOD.

No I don't I am 61 years old and I am married. The closest thing is my husband of 40 plus years. But he is busy a lot, working and then doing things outside, in the shop. He does sometimes take time. But often he does not understand and it just ends up in me frusterated and we argue. I have had few friends in my life. Most of my friends live far away. Either they moved or we moved. Then there were the so called "Church, Christian Friends" Who proved to be anything but Friends or Christan. I believe in God and Christ as my savior I read my bible and study and meditate but I am very turned off of "Organized Religion" The pastors, the so called elders often snots who's diapers I changed or might have changed. The board run things to impress people and they certainly do not follow God or his laws or the truth. Mostly it is about "Feel Good Christians" Showing off how important they are and finding new members because older ones get burned and leave so do most of the Youth who grow up seeing the hypocricy of the clergy the board and their parents. So though I have a few friends like yours they are busy, or far away. I have one SOMETIMES I can call and she talks to me but not often. I am lonely and sad, I lost my four year old grandson, My heart and sunshine. Yes I do have other grandchildren. They love me but Gerrin was always there and he just lit my life and now he is gone to heaven. No one cares no one talked to me about it. I got harassed for prayer requests by his dad's family that were posted on the internet. I don't have anyone much and I hate my life right now. I just cry and talk to God. Then I feel a little better for a little while. I live 22 miles from town out in the middle of nowhere I hope to sell this place but so far no prospects. So yeah I understand completely where your coming from. I do have some net friends who reach out but it is not the same as sitting down with a cup of tea or coffee or just being there and crying, laughing, hugging etc. My mom is long gone too. My sister lives clear across the USA down south. So I just hope, pray and wait and maybe some day.

My mom. When I have any problems, my mother is always there for me no matter what. I don't have any friends that can compare any close to my mother.

i just wish that one day you could find someone who will be there for you through bad or good times. i only have very few friends but luckily, i have someone who has been there for me for the past 8 years, though we are very far apart, we try to call each other almost everyday.

Maybe you can get a therapist. Having a therapist doesn't necessarily mean that you're crazy. A therapist can be like your diary where you can talk about anything and the therapist won't tell anybody. I always confide in a therapist and there's nothing emotionally or psychologically wrong with me but it's nice to know that I can have someone to talk to and listen to me. Maybe you should try that.

Yep i have my sister. She listens to all of my boring stories and naggings. sometime i'm amazed at how much patience she has. She might be busy with studies and whatever but she always has time for me. But as for me, i don't think i repay her good. I love her to pieces though.

Honestly, I ran to my wife. Not now that I'm thousands of miles away from her. I confide and ran to my Heavenly Father. He's more than a shoulder to cry on, a friend to confide with, and the greatest emotional sponge ever. He hears you even when you're in silence. Speak to Him. Cry out to Him. He even said that "Come to me all of you who are tired of carrying heavy loads and I will give you rest!" What an awesome promise that He comforts us and always have an ear to lend and a lap to sit on. Trust me, it's soooooooo effective as I've always done it especially when homesickness besets me and pressures crop up in work...

Why do you think you have no friends? In Mylot you can find many friends. I am a newbie here but I feel comfortable to see how enthusiastic folks here to help one another. You don't have to feel lonely. You need to feel that we are here friends who can confide our personal problems. We might not know one another, but we feel very close in Mylot. Believe me, you will never be alone after confiding here. Many people will find a solution from their problems. It is very human to feel that we need a real person to confide our problems to. But the world is so sophisticated, too. The internet has become a shelter to find myriads of friends although we have not meet yet. Just don't forget to pray to the Lord because He will listen to us.

Everyone need's someone to Relay on..someone to ne always at your Side to suport you

I don't have an emotional sponge. I don't want to inflict my emotional distress on anybody. Whenever I am distressed and I have money, I usually take long bus trips going to the province (the ones that take around five to six hours). If I don't have money, I try to find something to do. The other night because I was sad that my boyfriend and I could not celebrate Valentines Day, I dis-assembled my two laptops and put them back together. No one knew that I was distressed.

I used to be keeping things from me. But there was a time that I could not already take it so I needed someone to share it. I have good friends who may be not there personally, but they are there whenever I call them out. Good enough that technology today is great and have many ways to reach them out.

Don't be disappointed. Maybe you're mom is being judgemental at times, but for sure being you're mother, she is someone who could understand you better. Maybe you're not that close but if you try to tell her how you feel, she would definitely understand your longing for her support. And as you have said, you're friends are busy as hell or you don't want to drag your officemates, but my question is "have you tried to let them feel that you need someone to talk to?". There's nothing wrong in trying, but for sure, there could be someone out of them that will be willing to be there and understand you or support you as well. Just don't forget to let them feel your need for them. And don't be desperate that much, if no one from there, time will soon come for you to find that someone. I have lots of friends, and most of them are busy too with their own priorities which most if their families, but I found this one girl that despite her exhausting activities for her family, I did not expect her to have time for me everytime I need her. So you see, I didn't expect her, but she came to me to be by my side despite her being so busy. So try to find your someone be it from you're family member or friends, there is someone out there for you for sure. Happy mylotting.

My late husband used to be the one I could turn to when i needed an emotional sponge. then my younger sister got stuck with the job. I would not want a partner to have to claim that title unless i knew they were in it for the long haul. i believe that someone like that is out there.

My best friend used to be my emotional sponge. We worked at the same company so it was easy to drag her and express all my issues. After work, we would hang out and share stories or our feelings. However, changes in our lives led her to go abroad, so I was left in our native country. Although we still get to communicate (thanks to webcam and chat), it is not as often as before. The difference in time zone is a barrier in our communication. However, when we have the chance to talk to each other, we talk for so long.