Why are men such Buttheads???????????????

Oh dear, I don't know your entire situation, but from what I can read from this post, either some serious changes need to be taking place or you may have to tell him to leave. It is very selfish for him not to take part in your children's lives. I also am a SAHM and my husband works (day time) but he always is with the kids, no matter how tired he is. Life isn't easy, and decisions may be tough, I hope the two of you can work something out, otherwise, having him to leave might take the pressure (emotionally) off of you.

Hello strawberry, It's really hard and awful to have a hubby who is out going with friends because they tend to get addicted to this and doesn't have a Primal priority with the kids and most specially wife. sometimes i don't think night outs are great since it's nothing more than drinks and some silly talks.. i hope that he will realize his stupid mistake.

I know that working nights can take it's toll on some people and they become lethargic and have trouble adapting the rest of their day to accomodate the shift work. So, how long has he been working nights? Is he used to it? Is he having difficulty? That being said, it sounds to me like he is distancing himself from you and the kids for some reason. Either he has given up on the relationship, the family or something, or he just plain no longer has any interest. What would I do? I would ask him WHY? I would ask him if he is planning on leaving? I would tell him it seems like he already has. So, we may as well make it official. See his reaction. If he is upset, then he cares. If he is not, then it was inevitable. Does he not get a couple of days a week (like a weekend) off work, so he can spend with you and/or the kids? If so, what does he do with THIS time? I would then hire a babysitter and GO OUT with your friends. Go get that stress releif you so desperately need. Exclude him, do not invite him, do not ask him to stay home. Start showing him that you DO NOT NEED him. This may kick him in the azz and make him realize that you are not dependant on him. Who knows. Stranger things have worked.

my man is kinda like this actually...but i fear it will only get worse with time if we dont find a solution to this ridiculousness that is our daily routine. my husband woke up today at like 11 am and headed straight for his xbox 360. he has not moved away from it since (and it is now about 4:30 pm). and it looks like he has no intention on stopping anytime soon. we had an argument about this last night...i cant honestly give you answers on how to fix this because i thought we had fixed it (for all of like 2 weeks) but now it is right back to where it was before sadly

I am a man too, but I won't be like him. I am little bit of different from him because I do work, and work most of the time, because I need money. If I have a family myself, I would definitely trying my best to afford a warm home for my wife and kids, and I might work like a workaholic though. I hope that is the answer you are searching for.

Well, I'm a man myself, but I understand your problem. It's a pretty sad story you tell, because as far as I understand, then you husband only is at home few hours a day, except when he is sleeping. It's very sad fot you, and for the kids, because I think it's important, that the kids have time with their father. I really hope it will be better for you.

not all men r the same u know, u had bad luck this time but who knows maybe next time u will have a nice surprise...

Please never use the word 'butthead' again. LOL :)

Ok, first of all not all men are buttheads. Second of all, have you thought that man has to make money for his family. After a hard work he doesn't want to be with kids or you. He wants to relax and to sleep before a new day of work starts. Also, there are two days called a weekend, have you heard about it ever? Weekend would be the best time for him to be with you and children. So if I were him (not you) I would try to be with family mostly on weekens and if it doesn't help, screw that woman...