How do I say sorry to my lover?
By nakula2009
@nakula2009 (2325)
Indonesia
February 16, 2011 4:13am CST
I've made a mistake. so far I have never experienced such a complex problem that I experienced at this time. I've made her upset. actually we misunderstand each other. that lead to breakup.
To the extent that our emotions to each other. I want her back again. because I still love her. but, now she hates me. because I was out of words that might hurt her. what do I do now, so she'll forgive me?
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14 responses
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
16 Feb 11
What can you do ... Do her all sorts of surprises!, a bouquet of flowers,two tickets to the concert, go to a movie.Be present at all times near her (not physically),and know that you are near her,she can count on you. Be her friend and when you see it's sad,talk to her, consoles her.If you make your breakup and discussion,tell him her understand the decision but want to show them that it was a lost to time and that does not happen again and that you want to try to be together again but that waiting until she'll be ready, will be open to you take back her life sentimental.Good luck!
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@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Hi, thanks for your idea, I start thinking to buy two cinema tickets. I have to believe this will success.
@sexyice (873)
• Latvia
16 Feb 11
Girls love flowers, candys and big bears! Gift her.
Don't have money? Made video from yours pictures and some sweet pictures too with your favorite song background and sweet words under every picter, tell her with video how do you feel and ask apologize ;)
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@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Oh yea, I'm interested in your ideas about the video, can I try.![](/Content/images/emotes/w00t.gif)
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@youless (112358)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Feb 11
Sending her flowers in public. You can imagine that her colleagues will be so jealous to it, and your girl's mood will become better as girls like to receive flowers in public. It can make her proud. Don't send flowers to her secretly. I am sure your girlfriend will forgive you. Of course if you can give flowers to her in person, the effect will be better.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I think when you do something mistakenly to your lover, when you apologize genueinly, your lover will forgive you easy enough. But my love doesn't like to say sorry when he is wrong, he will just wait untuil the issues go away... How about just apologize sincerely with some nice chocolate to go with it?![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
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@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 11
If you'd like to apologize to her you have to find the right time to deliver, to show good intentions to him, reassure him with absolutely convinced that it would try to fix any errors that may have you do to it, if you need to do is also the approach with his family, so he is more sure that you are the person responsible, and do not forget a lot of praying that he can forgive you.
If the reason you still love and have not been able to forget it, it's not wrong if you intend to revert back together ex, provided when you broke up the relationship, you are still bound by friendship ties with his former girlfriend, because a lot too, that by reason of upset, disappointed, hurt, intentionally wanted to forget, and some are committed to not want to meet with her ex again, so if it happens so then hope to go back it's very difficult.
~ Looking for information, try to search for information related about him, from his friends, family, or it could be from him directly, eg Is he still mad at you?, Is he still willing to consider you as a friend?, Or Is he have a girlfriend?, and others, to gather information about him, then you can make that information as a consideration to determine the next step.
~ Pay attention, show them if you still have a concern to him, but not too much, because the thing to remember is, that the position you're still in the status of ex who tried to approach again, give attention to reasonably slowly while trying to enter his life (his days ) again.
~ Make a promise, after all the above have you done, then try to make a plan to find out the answer is in your heart to take her to see into places that you think interesting, however, and whatever it is, make the event as a special event for you , because by being like that, the he can judge the intent and seriousness of your time.
Find the right time, when you're alone with her, looking for the right conditions so that you can express your feelings, in this case you yourself can see the right conditions at the time, when you get it, let it be known your heart's content, and prove the seriousness of that you really still love him.
What must you remember, you should be able to indicate if you want to get serious and try to establish them to be better than the previous (committed, serious and responsible), so yes.
- Greeting -
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 11
If you feel guilty about how much better throw all sense of ego to open a relationship, start and be sure and step to his house, met his family, speaking as it is without a past to leverage your relationship with her ??family,like word-nonsense
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
17 Feb 11
nakula2009,
I think it would really help to elaborate the complex problem which led to the both of you misunderstand each other and eventually breakup.
If you are uncomfortable talking about it here, then please find someone whom you are close with, to talk about it. A lot of times, it is a fact that people who doesn't communicate and/or undermines it, are likely to misunderstand one another and affect a relationship.
Before you reconsider the outcome of the both of you, here are some questions for you to ponder over:
a) What exactly constitute your emotional needs? Would you be able to describe what exactly are you looking for, instead of lumping everything under the category of 'emotional needs' that you still love her?
b) You've vividly pinpointed the singular cause of this failure to understand both emotional needs to the lack of mutual communication. So, you may want to know what exactly caused this lack of communication? Was the relationship like that when both of you first started out?
Lastly, I hope that you will need to be prepared for whatever the outcome may be because a relationship is mutual and there's a chance that things might work out differently than your expectation. Sometimes, letting go is also another act of love.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
17 Feb 11
Ups and downs so common in love and friendship.
Romance is the cause to disturb,
and
Romance is the way to melt their heart.
Physical touch may helps in this case, you just touch her hand with your real tears, then she will melts for u.
Because she also, live without you know.
have a nice day,
god bless you both my dear friend.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
21 Feb 11
Psychological science: If you always ask for forgiveness you might as well make the same mistakes repeatedly because you are always warned against the same problem, understand what I mean?
Therefore it is enough to apologize once. Even if she forgive then it is good news for you. But if you have not forgiven, do not be too perfectionist must be forgiven on the spot. Remember folks, the feeling can not be remedied easily granted. Maybe he needs time.
However, not everyone will understand how to cope with girls who are cranky. There is confusion as hell, some are desperate after trying to apologize many times and some are indifferent, not concerned with the feelings of the girl. Instead of making couples happy hearts, all that just makes it even more hate.
To deal with girls who are cranky, try the following way. Hopefully the following ways to make your life be more happy with your partner. Make your life becomes more meaningful with the story of the struggle of love.
@dayangsumbi2010 (1724)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Say a sincere apology and give confidence to your lover that you have accepted the wrong and was remorseful and would not repeat it and you're ready to do anything for her except the separation with her.
A sincere apology would mollify the burning though.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
16 Feb 11
What can you do ... Do her all sorts of surprises!, a bouquet of flowers,two tickets to the concert, go to a movie.Be present at all times near her (not physically) and know that you re near her, she can count on you. Be her friend and when you see it's sad, talk to her, consoles her.If you make your breakup and discussion, tell him her understand the decision but want to show them that it was a lost to time and that does not happen again and that you want to try to be together again but that waiting until she'll be ready, will be open to you take back her emotional life.
Good luck!
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