what is the best way to resolve an argument?

When we and my husband doesn't come to agreement over small things around the house,I just let it pass and talk about it later or some other times. Sometimes it depends on his moods because he is a hypertensive person and he can easily fuss over simple things so I always let times pass before talking about it.

Small arguments really have to be resolved at once since they can really get blown out of proportion. But sometimes it's a bit difficult especially when both truly believe they were right. I personally don't want backing down from an argument to which I wasn't in the wrong. I feel it's only a temporary solution if you backed down from one just to end the argument. Whatever caused the argument wasn't actually resolved. As such, it would pop up again some other time. I guess both have to calmly and open-mindedly listen to each other's points, and then both should analyze what's really the root of the argument and what steps they could take to resolve it.

What a coincidence, i just had a big argument yesterday and actually i didn't want an argument. I just wanted to be given importance to on a special day and i didn't get that and in return it ended up in a big argument. I think one partner has to be calm and apologize immediately before it gets bigger, one has to give in and be patient. If both are stubborn, things would always get out of hand. I really hate it when my husband would suddenly turn his back and just ignore me. I hate it when i'm ignored.

Well for me birdie816, the best way to resolve an argument is to understand each others point of view, since in this way you can see what your partner is telling you and what are you trying to point out. In this way, you can see who's point of view is more better. But, if the arguments flares up hugely, either you or your hubby must be calm and give way to resolve an argument. In this way, you can prevent small arguments before and after they got out of hand. I hope this helps a lot. Good day!