Are we really in control of our lives?

I've raised six children and as they grew up,I noted that for the most part my children were well rounded but there was usually one characteristic that was domenent. Each one of them knew how to lead and they also all learned to follow. However, one of my daughters I believe is a leader and she doesn't care who likes or dislikes her opinion and that is just apart of her character. I have a son who has the ability to be a leader but he is a bit more passive and would prefer to be a right hand man or involved in a team. I have another child who likes to lead but has to have someone there encouraging her and she is influenced by those around her or should I say takes their ideas into consideration as she leads. Overall, from my experience I believe we are born with a gene or maybe it is a destiny from the start to lead or follow. And as a group my children collectively followed the most confident child and encouraged or picked on the child that had a lower self esteem. For the most part whether we are a leader or a follower who we choose to hang around with determines our destiny and what we do in a particular situation determines the consequence and builds our character. Interesting topic!

i think i can't control my life.i have no ability now.In other words,i have no money.but i can do something to get money,and then control my life.Hope everything goes on like this.i have my opinion,if i have ability,i can do them on my way...

I do think that for the most part we are. Perhaps not fully in control, or to the point we would like to. I do think that we rule ourselves, and society does rule us to a point as well.

Hiya beamer, In control of our lives? To a great extent we are in control of most of it. Just how much is controlled by a Leader I would like to know as well. There is so much coming out now of how we are being controlled and we don´t even know it. But no one can own the real us inside and that´s what is most important more than anything. I could go on a make a big list of the Cameras installed all over the place and other things but again they cannot control who we are and what we are. They cannot control how much we love and so on. I hope they never will try that one either.

Leaders have an illusion of control and power. They cannot truly order us to do anything if we do not decide that we will agree with it. We are in absolute control of ourselves, and that is all we have control over. Your whole life can change in a moment, by thinking different thoughts that would conclusively lead you to a different path than what you were earlier on.

Or, better yet WHO is a leader or a follower? At this point leaders are necessary for making decisions that others don't or can't make. Usually a leader is someone who will except responsibility for their own actions as well as the followers, or group that he is leading. A follower is someone who usually isn't able to withstand the responsibilities of leadership.

Personally in a lot of ways, I do think we are in charge of our lives, dreams and happiness. But at the same time there is a lot more to it than that. Since I am someone who as a Christian I believe in a God who is there to help us, he is one I can go to in Prayer and count on to help me thru things in my own life as well. No, no one else is in charge of our decisions and thoughts more than us, but when we allow someone else to guide and direct us it can be a lot more happier as well.

No one's ever free until we can walk around in our naked body, that's what I say. The weather is our ultimate controller, hahah! It decides how fast we should drive our car, what to wear, where to go, what to do.

I say so. I mean I feel like we are 100% responsible for our futures, and we reep the consequences of our actions and in-actions. That's how I feel. I feel 100% in control of my life just by the choices that I have made and I have yet to make. However, fo course, things happen in life that we can't control - naturally - but I think we can turn the tables back to it being OUR lives by choosing to deal with it in whatever way we choose...Know what I mean? lol.

I don't believe that we can be in complete control of our lives. There are some things we can do nothing about. Yet there are other things that we have the power to make happen or to avoid. While we can't control everything in the world around us, it is a good feeling to have control over the important trials in our lives.

There is always the rule in the nature - Stronger rull over weak and survive . Anyway : Are we speaking for rule and be ruled in the sociaty or something else ? To follow someone he don't have to be your leader but someone you admire . And if a lot of people admire and like to follow him he must have some greater wisdom and is responsible , but its not like he tell you what to do with your life . And well there are two choices : If we hold our destiny - we can always change our next step . And if we don't - then all the happy and sad moments up until this point of your life are your happy memories and there will be more . They might have being controlled but you are happy with them .

We can never control our lives completely. We can (almost) never foresee accidents, for instance. People die in car crashes, natural calamities take hundreds of lives, the economic climate costs us our jobs, politicians take irresponsible decisions, start wars, etc. All we can do is try to have some control, and many of us do succeed. Hard work and efficient decision making can make a change in the right surroundings, but unfortunately these surroundings are the element that escapes our control.

I used to believe that we are in control of our lives, and that the choices we make are what determine what we would become or what would happen to us. However, the rough times that I have been through seem to make me realize that there are things which are beyond our control. Maybe, there is truth in what they call destiny or fate - that there is a pre-determined path for each one of us. Nevertheless, I still try to all under such thinking because I wouldn't want to believe that God is a manipulative God. I mean, what's the sense of creating us when He has already carved what would happen to our lives. I would like to believe that God or whoever that Supreme Being is doesn't want us to become just dependent on fate. He gave us the freedom and the will that no other creatures possess.

it is because we depend on certain things (food, water etc) and on each other. And that dependence can be abused by others. But we have to accept our place in nature and in the universe, we don't rule it, we are part of it. Imo if we realize that we can grow in our minds which indeed can help us fulfill our dreams and hopes.

I strongly agree, with the statement that our destiny is in the hands of our own. All the decisions we take, affects the destiny of our lives in the future. what we do, that's what led to our destiny. In certain circumstances, when we feel so hard to get rid of certain things, and when we feel it is beyond our ability, we would say, "This is my destiny." If there is someone who is sick, we will try all sorts of treatment to her, and when that does not work we will say, "Surely this was his destiny." if our destiny was determined in advance, then we will not be ordered to ask. The ability to ask and beg the Lord has prepared especially for us, there is no such thing as' already doomed in advance. "Particularly for people, God has prepared the ability to repent, seek, and forgiveness from God. Through it all we can to achieve victory. We not be say, "All have been written, there's nothing I can do." As humans we must try.

the words destiny and success are often understood to have the same meaning. Destiny is your goal and Success is the fact whether you have reached it or not. Leaders are those who are are successful in working towards destiny and followers are persons waiting to be lead to their destiny. I don't believe in "no one tells them what to do" stuff, one bad shot on the wrong side of the law, the prison will tell these people what exactly to do.

Interesting questions.well said!I think your desting is master in his own hands.These leaders, the first thing to do is take control of your own destiny,then can be leaders.A person has not been able to take control of your own destiny,so he could not have become a leader.

Yes, we all are under control of our lives. Besides it, it is true that our destiny is written already. We don't know what to do and what to happen to us in future. We cannot predict our future. However, we cannot leave doing work in our life. Our duty is just to do the work and it is not confirmed that we will get positive results or not.

I don't really think so as in this world the technology has greatly influenced are lives so it is very difficult to control your self

On the way of Life there are always choices,may be two or more than that.Human nature is try first up to maximum level but as per me there is a suprime power who leads us in every step of our actions day to day life.We can say Him God/ Time/ Destiny.There is neither leader nor follower.I believe that something is left which decide our fate/ our due/ our right after done tries our level best.