Snooping on a lover or teen?! (A rant)

Snooping is not healthy in either doing so with the kids and or relationships. There are consequences that come with the end result. If snooping is done and the person is innocent, that is going to hinder the relationship. If the snooping is done and the real truth comes out, one must be preparedd with the results and how to go about handling it. My suggestion would be to simply ask, if the person lies and the truth comes out later then one has to use their judgment on how to handle all issues and or punishment.

Admittedly, I've struggled with this too. I've often caught myself about to... Luckily I come to my senses. And I give my head a shake and ask out loud (yep! really loud) 'what am I doing?!' I think it's just my insecurities trying to get over me. Insecurity vs. sense.

I probably did snoop when the kids were home and it never affected our relationship...in fact I wish I had done more snooping where my son was concerned so maybe I could have headed off some of the problems he confronted! None of my kids ever held it against me. If I was suspicious of a spouse and I asked them what the heck they were up to and got no answers...I might do some snooping. I really don't think all is lost....

Everyone does deserve to have their privacy. Different considerations have to come into play when it comes to children. The teenage years are the ones that determine a big part of your life. To keep teens safe for both parent and child, a little snooping is sometimes called for.

I don't like it that anybody snoop on me. The reason is i don't snoop on anybody. It is like a cheap behavior and i avoid these things in my life. My thinking is live and let live. Anyone should do other things rather than snoop on anybody. I agree with you completely that anybody start to snoop, all is lost.

It is a problem of moral character.If you are in another's shoes how you would feel.If so The lovers don't confide in each other,moreover "what is done by night appears by day."You will bring shame on yourself soon.

The only way I would ever do that would be if I was 100% sure I was going to find something, and needed evidence for something, not just because i was curious, nosy, or just a snoop. In the case of a parent who knows their teen is involved in illegal behaviour, and only needs the proof, then it's one thing. Same with a lover whom you KNOW is cheating, but in the case of one who is just distrustful by nature, it's not OK at all.

Well, snooping on a lover is never a good idea in my opinion. this greatly hurts relationships. As you said, it causes the trust to be completely lost. Also, it seems to almost always cause the person doing the snooping to become even more suspicious and to take every little thing in the wrong way. Bad idea! However, snooping on a teen may be okay in certain situaions. If you have a teenage child and there is reason to believe that they may be engaging in dangerous activities, this may e helpful. however, if you snoop on them just to keep tabs on them or to try to catch them in a lie, this could definitely hurt the relationship.