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hello indahfth, it is good that your child is given the best care in the special school. there he learns some things that he cannot learn in a regular school. he is given the chance there to learn how to manage his time too. so that when he is back home, you should give him the lesson not to hate school. if you give him too much of a time to play, he will not like to go to school nor help in the house, and will prefer to stay at home and play. indahfth, in my home, there is a time to study, a day for tv and a chore to do for every child to do. that way, they learn the facts of life and growing a sensible way. so if there is a discipline being given in school, you should also give at home. have a nice day. ann

Children with special needs indeed require more attention, but I think, you should not give full freedom to your child. There should be a limit and that's what you should do. If it is over free, I fear, you child will use it as a tool to pressure you. This is of course that you do not want, right?

i am so sorry to hear about your child indah. the only things that help is only by being patient. you can train him in your house and you can judge by your self about his development. i have my son which is selfish too, but i trained him to share and see other pain so he have the empathy in his heart.

So he is bit mentally retarted, i think there are special centres for such kids, where they are given special care and treatment, i don't know about your country though, you may search As parents it is our duty to take full care.. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

I am not sure how it is in your country but can they provide some testing to see at what level he is learning and are the special classes making any additional progress? Can they provide additional help so that you can assist him at home also. Maybe meet with his teachers to find out what additional help you can provide at home. Or if a tutoring assistance be also available?

Try talking to your child and let him understand that this is for his future. You might also consider spending more quality time w/ him and discuss w/ him his homeworks. Getting involved might bring a lot of difference.

I am confused, are you saying your child is in a special class because you allowed him freedom? I guess it depends, I think the only reason he would be in a special class because of the freedom is because he doesn't want to do the work, not that he can'tdo the work.. As for giving him freedom, I think many parents feel this way about their child, but children need guidance and guidance is not allowing them to do what they want. Children, whether they know it or not, need boundaries. But you don't want to go so far on the other side to be too strict, children need a balance of law and grace, just like we do as believers. G♥d gives us grace, but He has also set boundaries we can't cross. But if your son's special needs are because he can't do the work, then all I can say is to either get a tutor or work with him yourself at home. Read to him, show him how to work out math problems, talk to him about school and what work he is doing. Try to make it fun and though he may not learn as quickly, by this extra help, he will do better than if you did nothing.

Children need a certain amount of freedom, but they also need discipline. It's like walking a tight rope, except that the results are not as disastrous if a mistake is made. I would talk to the special ed teacher and find out just what he or she thinks your son's problem might be. It might be that he just needs to be made to study until he is old enough and disciplined enough to study on his own.

One thing you might do is get with the special ed teachers and get their take on what help he needs. You can help him at home. As he excells he may be able to get into a regular class. If you aren't making him understand how important learning is then this may be where part of the problem lies. He needs to want to learn. If not he may stay in special ed for good.

From now on, you should pay more attention to your child. You do not give freedom to your child. You must specify the time playing and learning time. Dropping your child, can be overcome, if you want more attention to your child. You also have to be patient deal with your child.

Hi Indahfth!. I think its totally wrong to let your child do what ever he want. If thats way why God created parent if a child can do what ever they want. I think a parent should teach their child good or wrong. I think teach your child the meaning of restorability so he will understand there certain thing he can not achieve all the time and learn to accept it. My parent always said educating a child is to made them ready to face this hard world. I don't think spoiling them will made ready. I think teach your son with love but make sure he has to do his responsibility.

I believe that this is very good way of rearing children, give freedom, but freedom must not be a licence. There must be some control.

Your child is in special class already but you need to teach her and guide her personally. Remember the first teacher of a child is the mother. Whenever you are and whatever your doing you must explain everything to her, have patient in teaching your child and soon you will get a good result.

i do not believe that a child should be given lots of freedom, i believe that a child does not know what they truly need, but children definitely know what they want, and sometimes what they want isn't what is best for the child. children need loving discipline, encouragement, and responsibility, they also need to be children, but school should come first, education is knowledge, and knowledge is power