Would you prefer a male child over a female child?

Oh, I just wish there were more people like you polaris. You know, even now, some fathers resent that they have daughters and keep yearning for a son. How bad is that? To let your daughter know that she is not valued as much as that of a son who was never born. It is the same for me as you. I love being a mother and does not matter to me what gender the child is.

Congrats Devi! I forgot to add this first.

I can well understand your stance.I myself have only one sister and have two sistersinlaw;no brotherinlaw]and my sister has two daughters. We were all well educated for our times and so are our children. And it is good to make children learn everything though I did not teach my son too much of housework and allowed him to reach his best potential in studies.I did not ask him to do a little thing and allowed him to enjoy his young age , read and play to his heart's content; he is a great performer as far as academics go and now as far as his career is.So.I have no regrets. Your daughter seems to have made her choice. But, brainwash her to accept both[just in case it is a boy]

Thanks kala. I am ok with any baby as long as it is hale and healthy. Even if it is not healthy, it is still my baby and I will take care of it as long as I can. I do agree that some people prefer one gender to another. For me it is all the same. I do not find much difference in raising a girl or a boy child. I see that in my relatives' families too, they have not much differentiation between a brother and a sister. Guess because all of them are educated and hold good jobs and have been brought up that way. And I would teach my boy (if I had one) the same way I am teaching my daughter. I will teach both of them to cook, clean, study, make their own mistakes and live their own lives. It will be the same if my second one turns out to be a girl. So no discrimination from my side whatsoever. But I would like to add that my daughter has pretty strong preferences about what should be the gender of her sibling. She does not want a baby brother but wants only a baby sister. She has all her stuff ready for the baby - clothes, shoes, play things etc. And she even is talking about how she would take care of the baby!

Actually, I was just messing with you. This is the order of my already born, and grown kids. ;~D And yes, I'm very happy with them! :~)

But then, you did have strong preferences

Oh boy! You do have preferences about which should go where. But what I meant was, would you prefer a male child to a female child? Would you be unhappy if you were to know that you are having a female child when you expected a male? Would you be disappointed in the baby? And thanks.

Oh, even in these modern ages, people have so much backward thinking minds, you know? Whatever the gender, our responsibilities remain the same towards both of the kids and I know that I will not discriminate nor will I let them do it themselves. In my society, even now people sometimes prefer a male child to a female and that is so sad.

I know the feeling of wanting to be on the safer side and have only girl babies. I too am filled with thoughts of how I would raise the child if it were a boy. But I know that I would not discriminate and treat both of them equally and love them with all my heart. So, that gives me the strength to take it even if it is a boy. But I would really not prefer one over the other.

Hi lavo. I know that is what is happening everywhere most of the time. But for me, having my first child gave me so much happiness than I have ever felt in my entire life. She is still the main reason for my existence and I would love my second child too the same way no matter its gender. I am enjoying this pregnancy too. It is just that I was encountering this question from every one I knew. So it kind of gets on my nerves that people think that I would choose one gender over the other!

Hey thanks maximax. In India, it is illegal to try to know the gender of the baby before birth. So even when they perform the scans, they do not disclose the gender of the baby. They just tell us whether the baby is healthy or not and whether it is one baby or more. So buying clothes according to the gender is done only after the baby is born. In the beginning, though, we use baby clothes which is designed for any gender and so for the first few months, it will not be a problem. My daughter is more excited about the baby than anyone else. Just hope she stays the same way even after the baby comes.

Hi CTHanum. Seeing you here after a long time. My sentiments are exactly as that of yours. But sometimes, I do get angry when people prefer one gender over the other. I do agree that it is their choice, but arguing with me that their choice is much better for me is ridiculous! And quite irritating too. Some people never change.

I don't mind having a baby boy too. But I would not yearn for one. And since knowing the gender of the baby before birth is illegal in India, I would have to wait till Sept of this year to know the gender of my child. But I would not be surprised if it were a girl.

Oh. You should be so proud of her. Some people do have a preference that this gender would be better. But for me, my kid is my everything. And now, with another one, my family will be whole.

Hi mark. That is my opinion too. Healthy and happy babies are what I want. And does not matter which gender they are. Thanks for dropping by.

Hey, thanks. I actually am looking forward to the baby being born without any problems. And my daughter is more eagerly waiting for the little one's arrival. She gets so excited and tells the baby stories. She tries to read to my stomach but as she is very small and cannot read, she pretends to read. How old is your daughter? Mine is 3 1/2 years.

I know most parents would do that. But there are some who prefer one gender over the other and it is quite common in India. For some, it is the male child and for some it is the female child. I don't understand that. For me, both are children and they deserve our love and affection equally. Why discriminate? You have good thinking too for a person who is not married. Happiness from the child is all we need and wish everybody would learn that. Thanks for the response. Have a great day.

Hi thereza. God bless you and your children. I see a lot of people here with the same views as mine. No discrimination. But you would find it shocking that there are people who would prefer a male child over a female child and girl babies are aborted, abandoned or killed. So sad. Even if there are both the genders in the house, preference is given to the male and the girl is treated differently.