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I think that after spending so much time with a person you know almost everything about that person and you should have no doubt about getting married,if you feel that he's the right person for you and you went throgh ups and downs together for 7 years and still remained close,it's obvoius that he's your man,so leave all your doubts behind and have a wonderful marriage.

Why would you have doubts where in fact you've known him for quite sometime already. you should not feel that way, in fact a lot of women out there would like to get married to their long time boyfriend just like me but we have nothing. You should be proud and feel happy about it. Because is a gift and blessings given to you. Dont feel doubt.

I have been married for 11 years now and I had my doubts about getting married also about 8 1/2 months in and we even changed the wedding date because we were arguing so much. I now wish that I would have waited longer before I got married because now we are still arguing and I even have said that I want to leave her. We have 3 kids and thats the only hard part of the situation. I want to stay for the kids but the constant arguing has to stop.

I have to say that I love my husband we have been together for 14 years and married for 6 of those years. I too had 'cold feet' before the wedding. It wasn't that I doubted if I loved him, only that I wasn't certain if we were ready for a commitment of that magnitude. I am certain that is what you are going through now. I am sure that once the date gets closer, you will start to feel better about it. I would also like to suggest that you talk to your hunny about your fears. It might surprise you to know, that he might be going through the same thing, I know that when I talked about it with my husband, he was feeling the same way. Talking about it together allowed us to put our fears into perspective and we were able to move on with our plans. I would like to say congrats and I hope that you and your man have a wonderful life together. Happy mylotting.

hello friend! great news congratulation!it is a long time you stay together so you know each other very closely.so in this time if you feel doubts on your boy friend then you should solve this matter before marriage.it will be better for your new life.you have to believe your boyfriend because now its time to stay together happily. thanks a lot.

Hi kirstinad, It is normal to have doubts, however you have to mentally weigh out what is making the doubts. Seven years is quite some time together and getting married is a big step. Please think clearly if this in fact is what you want to do, and maybe it is hon, maybe you are just getting wedding jitters. I do hope you make the right decision, whether that is to marry or not, as you will know which will be right for you. Do not allow what society thinks is right for you, do what is right for you. Best of luck sweetie and I do hope that you can come to the decision.

I think most people have doubts before they get married as well as once they are married at various points in the relationship. What you need to do is not dwell on it, you will go mad with questions. If all the prep for a formal wedding is too much and contributing to the doubts why not do something smaller? Perhaps that will aleviate your mind as being married won't change your relationship, it will just make it legal... especially if something were to happen to either of you and the kids are still small.

You have been with him for 7 years so you are already married in some states. But here you live with him you have his child. So the only thing missing is the paper. You will be fine. Just remember after the Ido's are all said and done stay the same as before. And that is as good as it gets. So don't burn the marriage license as it will be a thing to look at many years from now. But yeah I tried to run off on my wedding day. My father didn't let me. But we had only known each other a year and a half. Have a nice day.

As far as my opinion is concern. Your doubt is normal but not related on the year or days that you had been in a relationship... Why don't you study yourself and make sure what's really your doubt?

First of all, what are you afraid of? The first time you met him, how did you feel? When you decided to live together? have you ever thought that you gonna last these long years? have you ever thought that living together will lead you to have a son? And now, you are engaged to get married, what is giving you 2nd thought after all this? Are you expecting happily married ever after? Without the marriage license, if you split up from your partner? Would you gain or loose anything? If after getting the license would you gain or loose more or is it the same? Does everybody in your life know that you and your partner have a child? In your child's eyes and mind, what do you think he think about all of this? He has the right to both your life, right? After all you bring him to the world. He didn't ask to be born, but he is already here. Do you love him enough to put him first in your life? No one know's what is the right or wrong answer to all these questions. Because all answers are right when we make our choice. Life goes on with whatever decission we make. Fail or success, its all part of life till we give the last breath. I say, go ahead and be married and divorce in a few months time or ten years from now. Or may be don't get married and break up a few months later or be together without paper until you become grandparents or perhaps never to sign on anything and just let it passed. Or, don't get married because may be you are looking for someone better and give your son a step father, or you just want to be a single parent until the end of your life after all life is not that long. If no accidents or sickness, we live up to may be another 50 years, with 30 years of strong and healthy, 10 years strong but less energy and may be another 10 year old and senile perhaps live in old folks home. So, this I hope will help in giving you some idea what you want to do in with your life.

YES,it is!lol My wife called off our wedding 4 months before and we still worked things out and were married that July. Try this, make a list of all the reasons why you want to marry him and one of all the reason you don't. Then compare the two lists and honestly ask yourself; "Is my life better or worst for loving this man?"

In my advise, you should organize your wedding after the delivery of your baby. Anyhow, since you have already prepared for it, you shouldn't stop it half way. Nothing is impossible. As long as you and your partner agree to it, there is nothing wrong at all. This is the way I do.

I dont know what you are thinking so... There would be some ups and downs in everyones relation.. Dont think nasty Keep going... All the best for your married life..

Hi kristinad, I would like to know from where you are? Just because, me being an Indian, we people are not used to being together before marriage :). Anyways, in your case, you guys have been together for 7 years and if you were to doubt, then this relation shouldn't have lasted this long. So, in my opinion, be confident and get forward with your marriage and hope doubts won't interrupt you guys!

Yes! I think everyone has doubts. As long as the doubts are about the wedding and not the guy , it is ok. He loves and respects you? And you love and respect him? Then this marriage stuff is Just stuff. You two already have the strongest binding connection. Everthing else is gravy.You have many months to think about it . But Don't worry about it. You already have him . Follow your heart and everything will work out.

Considering all of your options and feelings for the future would be wise when contemplating marriage. If you are unsure, there has to be a reason to feel this way. Before making any further plans, knowing your heart is what you should lean on.

Of course it is normal to have doubts. That i guess is part of the fun of getting married, wondering if one or both of you will or won't turn up. At the end of the day though it is a big step, it is a commitment to one another for life. But surely you have been commited to eachother for the past 7 years, so what difference will signing a piece of paper and having an extra ring make? You have been together for a long enough time to realise that you both love trust and care for one another, as you say, you have had your ups and downs but still you are together, even when married you will still have your ups and downs, it is just your nerves creeping in as the big day gets closer. No matter how far off it is it is still a huge day and you will get nervous. This is a big step and i am sure that you will be fine, as i said, if the love, trust and care is there from both of you then it will be a great wedding. Good luck, hope you have a great day when the time comes.

well ive never been married so i cant really say. although people do get cold feet but again i not sure on how close to the wedding that happens.if you love him then i would carry on as it might just be nerves

I will not question your doubts; I zero on your child. As you say and I quote"...we have an amazing son together..."unquote. For your husband, child and you, give marriage a chance. And of course, you get the jitters of marriage. Who wouldn't? Doubts on getting married? Only you can answer this question.

Perhaps maybe you are just in the stage of fright as you are entering through the threshold of another stage in life. You just have to carefully assess your present situation with each other. Your kid would want that.