How would you know if its still "Love" or just "Pity"?

If you were not in a relationship before and if he is trying to persuade you in love, then you can rise a question of sympathy on him and pity him for hi bad luck as you are not ready to love a person without good financial backup. But here, you have broken up your love for the only reason he is aimless and also not having a good earnings to maintain you. This, I will call pure selfishness on your side. Sorry to hurt you but this is the truth.

If you really thing that you would be with this person then you would already be with them, there would be no doubt in your mind that this is the person you were meant to be with. So, considering your situation I say, maybe try and reconcile and be friends but that a relationship is out of the question. Of course who knows, maybe friendship is all you need to get back on track to being with this person. It is always good to make sure you have your life sorted out before you try to share it with someone else.

Do not be confuse. Love should never mistook as pity or pity as love. You should know the difference. What I can see in your situation based on what you have posted here, you don't love your ex enough to stay with him. In the first place, if you truly love him, you'd never break up with him. You're not confuse. All the things you have mentioned here is just a simple gesture of fear and getting back in a relationship with him means that you only pity him. Here's one test you should try: Think of yourself spending a lifetime with him with all those fears you have in mind. Can you deal with it? If your answer is no, then, there is no point to reconcile with him but if your answer is yes, then that is true love and not just pity. I was once in a relationship. I thought I love the guy but I was wrong because I never thought of spending my whole life with him. We've been together for 5 years because we are comfortable with each other and I couldn't break his heart. Until, something happened between us and I realized I can not bear with him during the bad times. So, I left him. Now, that I am married to a different man, Yes, seeing myself with him despite of all the ups and downs and his misbehavior , I can say that I am truly and deeply in love with him.

The prime aim of the role of husband is to give the "protection and security to his wife", this is what learnt from our ancestors age. The men has to share the valuable love but to put pressure with doubts and irregular behavious. A constant and strong loves makes a relationship healthy. The couple living together till to their end of life is not so easy, but not impossible. Have a niceday, god bless you.

Follow what is in your heart and mind. What you think should be the same as what you feel. Because when you just follow your heart, you will think of all the good memories you had together and that will become pity. When you follow your mind, you will think of your future with him like you don't have security. So, the least thing you can do is decide what to follow. If you follow your mind, your heart should agree and vice versa. But remember, God put our brains higher than our heart. We should think first before considering our feelings.

If money is the one hindering you why you cant go back to him, it will really be a problem. If he does not have any plans or direction in life, why did you not help him during those 2 years? I think you should really think more than twice if you love him. I think you should really separate.

Do you feel that you want to see him? Do you thnk that if you agree to give your relationship a chance, your purpose is to just make him stop bugig you, or you really feel there is still something between you that just needs to be ignited? I'd like to tell you that if you get back with him you should not have al the wrong reasons to do so... It will rather strain what's left of your relationship with your ex... Think about it and if you have broken up with him already... Maybe you should just atick to it and do not let him stress you...

hi there...this is big question...i guess u can jot down all points and think over the pros and cons of being with him..!! what all u want in life and how can u get them...many factors play a role in life, being rich is just one of them..!! thats wat i feel..honestly..!! if u think to let go then leave it...its ur personal thought process which all things are in ur priority list and how can they be achieved..take ur time..think how u felt with him and can that be given by anyone else too..?? its ut take and i have just shared my views...

Hi. Well, I'm only basing this on what you've written in your post, and it seems that the love you felt before isn't there anymore. I mean, I'm sure you still have some feelings for him but I don't think those are enough for you to get back in a relationship with him. And there's also a very big possibility that you just feel sorry for him. My advise is to give the situation some time. Have you heard about the three-month rule? Try living your lives as single persons for three months. Go out on dates. Don't communicate with each other during that period. After three months, if both of you still have the same feelings for each other, then by all means, go back to your relationship.

Love is an emotion and feeling that stays in your heart. You can feel love for someone even after they are out of your life. they can still be in your heart. Pity is just feeling shorrow for someone.

Hi ther, For me you have to follow your heart and it is your own will and decision if you will still be with him. You love a person regardless and you should not pity him and accept his love you know to your self its not right. You will just make yourself unhappy in the end.